Mommy “Misery Poker”
When I was in college, we used to play something called “misery poker”. I went to a pretty intense school and everyone always thought they had more items on their to-do list than anyone else. On any given evening in the dining hall, you might have overheard something like this:
Person 1: I can’t believe how much I have to do this week. I have to study for two exams and write three papers.
Person 2: Yeah? I’ll see your two exams and three papers and I’ll raise you a trip into the city to feed starving kids/dogs/old people/insert-group-in-need-here.
Person 3: Oh yeah? Well I’ll see all of that and I’ll raise you the marathon I’m running tomorrow morning and the honors thesis I have to defend in the afternoon.
You get the point.
I’m done with school now, but I’ve got to admit that I haven’t quit playing misery poker– only now, it’s of the mommy variety. Sometimes I don’t even realize I’m doing it.
Me: I’m so tired. I was up four times with Caroline last night.
Mom-friend 1: I will see your wakeful toddler and raise you a constantly-nursing newborn.
Mom-friend 2: I will see your wakeful toddler and hungry newborn and raise you a cranky husband.
Me: I can’t see your newborn but I will raise you a NO husband.
Mom-friend 2: Plus our cable is out and there is no wine.
Me: …I fold.
You’ve been there, right? We’re all so busy, and it’s tough having kids no matter how many you have or how much help you have. Life is crazy whether you work full-time or you stay at home; whether you’re married or single or have one kid or ten. (Okay, if you have ten kids, you’ve automatically got the misery poker royal flush in my book. I won’t even ante up. I also don’t ever gamble so it is entirely possible that I’m using these all terms completely wrong.)
It helps having mom friends to commiserate with. I really don’t know what I would do without mine. It’s not actually a competition, of course. We just like to complain sometimes. It gets it off your chest and keeps things interesting. Besides, I’ve found the occasional round of misery poker to be as invigorating as a good cup of coffee.
So, anyone up for a game? Play your cards in the comments. Go on… you’ll feel better afterwards. I promise.Add a Comment