“I Don’t Think She Smiles Like That”
Caroline is in North Dakota with Tyler for Christmas. She will be there for about 2.5 weeks total.
Sucks. A lot.
I’m trying not to be depressed about it and to take advantage of the time to study for the next part of the boards, which are coming up in January, and to sleep in and spend time with friends. Spending the holidays without your child, though… well, I don’t even really like to think about it, much less write about it, so I won’t.
I miss her. I don’t want a whole lot of things in life, other than to be a good dentist and to be a good mom. When half of that is missing, I feel… at a loss. Empty. Purposeless. I keep the door to her room shut. I don’t turn on the Christmas tree. The holidays aren’t happy for me this year.
I can’t wait until she comes home.
But anyway. That is not the purpose of this post. This is:
I have a close friend who also recently got divorced. I was spending the night at her place a few days ago (when I had no heat and then a gas leak in my apartment, which is a whole nother story) and we were laying around chatting and looking at pictures from a Christmas party last week. She said, “hey, can I tell you something? This is going to sound so lame. But when I’ve looked at pictures of you from a long time ago, you have this really big, big smile and it almost doesn’t even look like you. I thought, I don’t think she smiles like that. But when I look at these pics from Friday, you have that same smile again.”
And she is right. I do.
I have to remember that. That even though it’s sad, this first divorced Christmas without my baby, I am me again. I am happy again, in the big picture. I can drag myself up out of this unhappy marriage and all the things we did to each other and all the pain and sadness can be lifted.
I can be me again. I can smile like that again.
In fact, I guess I already do.Add a Comment