Tyler moved out tonight.
I’m sitting here on my empty living room floor, shaking a little bit. Tonight is hard. Better times are coming, but tonight is really hard.
Things have gotten messier recently. I don’t want to discuss it on the internet, really, but I guess I should have known these things can’t stay too uncomplicated. I am taking his child, basically. He’s losing his baby because I was unhappy. I was naive to think he wouldn’t fight back and get angry.
This was my decision. So why am I so incredibly, indescribably sad? I mean, I guess it’s the little things that aren’t really so little. Like the lack of furniture in my living room. It feels so empty. The pictures missing from the walls. The fact that only half my dishes are sitting in my kitchen cabinets. And then it’s the big things that are really, really big. Like the fact that I promised to love him and be with him forever and I’m breaking that promise, like the fact that marriage is supposed to be for better or worse and I’m cutting and running, like the fact that we have a child and I am taking her from her father because I was just too unhappy to keep pretending. Part of me hates myself for doing this, he definitely hates me for doing this, and I wonder if she will hate me one day too.
But I can’t… I can’t just let it slide. I can’t go back. I can’t fake it, or just push through, or ignore the fact that I was just as lonely when he was home as I was when he was away. I can’t live that life anymore. Not for anyone. I’d be doing everyone more harm than good. And the subject of divorce would continue to come up over and over until this same exact thing happened, so I might as well get on with it while she is too young to remember the fights and the yelling and the bitterness and the boxes of books and sheets and cookware… and the empty living room…
I know I’m doing the right thing. But sitting here on the floor of this empty room, my doubts creep in and that’s why I’m shaking a little. I should call someone to come over. I have plenty of friends who would. But right now I guess I just feel like being alone. In this empty room.Add a Comment