Insta-bonding With Parents Of Kids With Special Needs

hello-my-name-isLast weekend, our family was at a pool at a beach resort. My husband was in the water with the kids, and I was taking a time out. I walked by a mom playing cards with her teenage son, who was in a wheelchair.

“Hi, I’m Ellen,” I said. “My son, Max, who’s splashing in the pool over there, has cerebral palsy.”

That’s my usual sort of introduction when I see another parent of a kid with special needs, my parent pick-up line. It works every time.

The mom said hello, introduced me to her son and said he had something similar to CP. For the next 10 minutes, we chatted: About schools for our kids, about how much they loved pools, about therapies. It was as if we’d known each other for years.

This is not the way I’d ever introduce myself or my child to parents of  ”typical” kids. In fact, just the opposite: I try not to call out Max’s differences. But when I see another parent of a child with disabilities, letting them know that I also have a kid with special needs is the fastest ice-breaker there is—and a great way to insta-bond.

Know what I mean?

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  1. by Peggy

    On September 9, 2011 at 11:01 am

    Love this! Loved your blog about the beach the other day also

  2. by Liane Carter

    On September 9, 2011 at 11:07 am

    Ellen, I know EXACTLY what you mean. And I love the expression “Insta-bonding.” Great post.

  3. by Melissa

    On September 9, 2011 at 11:13 am

    Yes, I totally know what you mean. Because my daughter’s issues are not necessarily visible, I am more aggressive in identifying them to other parents of SN kids. And I totally welcome connections with other families who are further down the road.

  4. by Julie Khoury

    On September 9, 2011 at 12:16 pm

    Love this and can related completely!!!! Your blog is so uplifting and enjoyable!!!! Thanks for opening up your LOVE THAT MAX world to other special needs parents!!!Great post!!!

  5. by Tooner

    On September 9, 2011 at 1:26 pm

    I used to go swimming a lot too! I really liked it and had SO much fun. I miss it so much.

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