Friday, October 25th, 2013
Since October is National Bullying Prevention Month, there’s no better time to empower your kids against bullying but bullying is a serious topic that is often hard to begin talking about if you haven’t already started the conversation. We know we want to teach kids that it’s ok to fight back, the importance of being a good friend and standing up for each other, and it’s ok to come to you, a sibling, another family member or a trusted adult but where do we start?
Sometimes we can find a helping hand thanks to a movie. Sitting down for a family movie night provides together time and can inspire an important conversation in an age appropriate way.
Even though it may be National Bullying Prevention Month, bullying is a topic that can be discussed throughout the year. So seize your time together by popping some popcorn, snuggling up a blanket, and watch as these real and relevant stories teach older ages how to fight back and younger kids learn to stand up and be heroes by streaming one of these movies on Netflix this weekend and the others throughout the year.
5 movies with themes perfect for older kids:
- Bully — Exploring the subject of school bullying from a personal angle, this eye-opening documentary tracks the stories of five different families whose children are struggling to defend themselves on a near-daily basis.
- The War — Vietnam War vet Stephen Simmons deals with an entirely different set of conflicts back home in Mississippi, where he copes with post-traumatic stress disorder and unemployment, and helps his son, Stuart, stand up to a group of bullies.
- Billy Elliott— When 11-year-old Billy Elliot (Jamie Bell) trades boxing school for ballet lessons, his father (Gary Lewis) — a hardworking miner from Northern England who despises the idea of his son running around in toe shoes — is less than pleased. But when the boy wins an audition for the Royal Ballet School, he experiences a change of heart. Stephen Daldry directs this Oscar-nominated drama that spawned a Tony-winning Broadway musical of the same name.
- The Fat Boy Chronicles— Overweight teenager Jimmy Winterpock transfers to a new school, where he’s mercilessly bullied by classmates. After he starts keeping a journal that puts him in touch with his feelings, he resolves to lose weight and win the girl of his dreams.
- Cyber Bully— Teenager Taylor Hillridge finds herself a target of bullying by fellow students through a popular social website in this topical drama with a message. After the abuse makes Taylor afraid to face her classmates, her mother gets involved.
6 age appropriate titles for younger ages:
- Hercules— In Disney’s animated take on Greek mythology, the heavenly Hercules is stripped of his immortality and raised on Earth instead of Olympus, where he’s forced to take on Hades and assorted monsters.
- Jimmy Neutron: Boy Genius— When gooey green aliens kidnap all the adults in Retroville, it’s up to Jimmy Neutron to come up with a plan to rescue them. The 11-year-old genius and his pals blast off in homemade rocket ships on an intergalactic mission.
- Avengers: Earth’s Mightiest Heroes— The Avengers, Earth’s mightiest heroes, work to bust up nefarious plots set forth by villains such as Loki, HYDRA and the Red Skull. Thor, Hulk, Ant-Man, Iron Man and the Wasp are ready to save the day.
- Spy Kids: All the Time in the World— Former Spy Kids Carmen and Juni Cortez return as teenagers to help 10-year-old twin siblings Rebecca and Cecil Wilson save the world with their stepmother, a retired secret agent who’s been called back into service to stop a conniving smuggler.
- Justice League Unlimited— As humanity faces threats from all kinds of new and vile villains, Superman, Wonder Woman, Batman and a dozens of other animated superheroes create a league from which they form small, specialized teams to combat each new menace.
- Ben 10: Alien Force— Cartoon Network’s sequel series finds the now-teenage Ben Tennyson hoping to locate his missing grandfather by using his Omnitrix device, which has been updated to give him access to a whole new variety of alien life forms.
Please note that the above descriptions were provided by Netflix but I always like visiting Common Sense Media to double check that the movie is right for our family.
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Tuesday, March 6th, 2012
Bullying. It’s a word that makes parents shy away from whether your child is on the giving or receiving end or if the bullying is face to face or occurring in cyberspace. Despite the prevalence of cyberbullying, bullying has been around forever and causes real feelings to be hurt. It’s not something to be taken lightly.
If you’re wary about talking to your kids about bullying, kids of all ages can be empowered to speak up for themselves and their friends. Here’s what you need to know in order to start the conversations in your home and encourage your kids to keep talking about what they’re experiencing regardless of their age to encourage a sense of empowerment.
1. Know what bullying is. If you are ashamed to not be current on all the information, StopBullying.gov has information on what bullying is, recognizing the signs, and how to get help. The National Bullying Prevention Center defines bullying, harassment, and provides 3 steps to take if your child is being targeted through Bullying Info and Facts.
2. Encourage your kids to talk about bullying. Many parents don’t talk about it and that makes kids not want to discuss it. How do you get the ball rolling if you haven’t already? Ask open ended questions to create conversation. Let your children know it is something that you are concerned about and they need to tell an adult. Your kids may not tell you directly but perhaps they will tell another family member, sibling, or peer.
When our son was in preschool and was being called names by his peers, he didn’t come to me or my husband. He confided in his older sister before bed one evening. Being worried, she told me. I was proud that she recognized the importance of the situation and was concerned about her brother’s hurt feelings to tell us so we could have a conversation with the teacher.
3. Listen. Being able to recognize behaviors as bullying is important but so is listening and following your child’s lead. Earlier this year our second grade daughter told me that some kindergarten boys were chasing her and calling her names. We could have easily dismissed this as them having a crush, younger kids being silly, etc. but what seemed to be fun play at recess quickly turned into harassment. Dinner time conversations centered around talk of the boys behavior but she assured us she could handle this on her own. She was annoyed but didn’t want to take any more action than telling the teachers on recess duty.
We listened and took cues from her. She wanted us to have a hands off approach and wanted to handle it on her own. This was difficult especially since she was upset buta t age 8, we made the conscious decision to let her feel empowered. Eventually it progressed to the point where she wasn’t enjoying recess at all that was brought to our attention by a fellow parent who called to tell us that her daughter noticed ours was upset. That was when we knew it was time for us to intervene.
Together we brainstormed about next steps. She decided it was time to talk to the school administration. While the matter was taken seriously and handled swiftly, we let her be the guide, practicing life skills like resiliency while listening and intervening when necessary.
4. Reinforce the importance of being a friend. Getting a phone call about my daughter’s recess harassment from a fellow parent demonstrated how much our community cares and the importance of friends.
Being a good friend is always important but even more so when a child is being bullied. Encourage your child to help a friend who is being bullied by taking a stand to discourage a culture of bullying by telling bullies their behavior is not ok.
If your child needs a tangible reminder, KidsAgainstBullying.org has a pledge accessible by clicking on the treasure chest on their site. They also have a downloadable Kids Against Bullying Certificate when they agree to speak up when seeing others being bullied, reach out to others who are being bullied, and to be a friend whenever they see bullying.
5. Acknowledge that emotional scars that come from bullying are as harmful as the physical ones. While being punched or kicked leaves bruises and scars that can be seen on the outside, the internal hurt from bullying is also real.
Later this week I’ll be sharing age appropriate bullying and cyberbullying resources for parents of preschoolers, elementary, tweens, and teens.
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