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The 2 Kinds Of Moms

Saturday, January 28th, 2012

Now and then, topics that I take on remind me of the debates between “working moms” and “stay at home moms”.  So I thought I would weigh in with the following observation – there are indeed two kinds of moms. But they are not distinguished by whether or not a mom is employed. 

Rather, I’d like to riff off a quote about music that is typically attributed to the great Duke Ellington:

                 “There are two kinds of music. Good music, and the other kind.

Just like Duke Ellington embraced all kinds of genres of music – as long as it was good – I would say that my experience as a researcher is that the vast majority of moms are the good kind. They love their kids and worry about their kids. So much so that many of them spend time reading and discussing topics like those we all bat around here at Moms are passionate about what they do, and continue to try to figure out the best ways to raise their kids. For some, this means balancing employment and parenting – for others, it doesn’t. What matters most is that a mom makes whatever they are doing work as well as it can for them and their family. And as researchers, our function is to get you information that will help you parent more efficiently and effectively – whether you are a working mom or a stay at home mom.

So as you and I sort through the research on child development that continues to come out at a frenzied pace, I do hope you evaluate the extent it applies to your current situation and if relevant integrate it into your chosen lifestyle – rather than use it as ammunition for debating which type of mom is “superior.” After all, like music, there are two kinds of moms – and it has nothing to do with whether or not you are employed.

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