Posts Tagged ‘ play ’

Is Preschool Essential?

Wednesday, January 30th, 2013

No, it’s not essential … but that doesn’t mean that it’s not a good thing for toddlers. 

Think about it this way. Here’s a short list of things that should be part of a toddler’s life:

Opportunities to Play: Play is a broad concept. Toddlers need time to play alone, and also play with other kids. They need to manipulate things to develop their fine motor skills. Being very inclusive here, we can extend this perspective to activities like drawing – which is known to support the later development of cognitive skills. They need to run around and be active. Pretend play is often thought to be at the root of creativity, but recent research shows that it has a large social benefit when done with others.

Opportunities to Socialize: Toddlers need to be around other kids. It’s fun for them. It’s a way to start to learn how to be social creatures and function with peers. They also learn a lot when they disagree with each other, when they don’t share, and when they don’t get along (as long as there is proper guidance from adults). They learn that they are not the only person in the world and sometimes need to take turns – which means waiting their turn now and then.

Opportunities to Regulate Their Emotions: Toddlers have to continue learning how to regulate their emotions. Whether it’s a full blown tantrum or just handling being mad or angry or scared, kids have to experience their emotions in multiple social contexts and develop ways of regulating themselves and functioning around others.

Opportunities to Talk: Yes, talk. Kids can develop their language by being around different people – it helps them learn how to use language to communicate socially (which requires integrating behavioral and emotional and cognitive skills). They should also hear a lot of talking.

If you consider this list, you have a sense of the richness that should characterize a toddler’s life. It’s another way of saying that lots of experiences are needed to give a well-rounded platform for social, emotional, cognitive, and language development. Notice I haven’t said anything about getting a leg up academically, or ensuring top grades later in school. I’m talking about fundamental developmental goals. And kids need to have fun. A lot of fun. A lot of the time.

Now, a toddler doesn’t need to go to preschool to achieve all this. If a preschool isn’t focused on the developmental tasks that characterize toddlerhood, then there is not much utility to it. But a great preschool is a great way to give your kid opportunities during the week to be around other adults and other kids. It’s not essential. But that doesn’t mean it’s not good if you choose to go that way and you find the preschool that delivers what you should be looking for.

Preschool Children via

Add a Comment

Red-Hot Parenting Recap: The Top Child Health Topics In 2013

Monday, December 31st, 2012

In lieu of a review of the past month, I’d like to pose a question: What will be the big topics on child health and development in the coming year? Kara Corridan and I have taken a stab at predicting what these will be. We selected 6 topics: 

The Book That Will Change How Mental Disorders Are Diagnosed: Why you should know what the DSM-5 is and the hot-button issues it is raising

Kids And Play: New data and new thinking which suggests that kids are not getting enough of the right type of play

Pregnancy Health Risks: The emerging, and murky, data on potential prenatal risks and the complex decisions some pregnant women face

Injuries (The Downside Of Physical Activity): The realization that many youth are getting injured – some seriously – at an alarming rate

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder: The very real consequences to kids when they are exposed to a number of traumas

Obesity: New efforts to combat this epidemic in kids

Click here to read our take on these topics. Since we published this, we have all been affected, in lasting ways, by the Sandy Hook shooting. So in addition to the above, I also anticipate much more debate and discussion about the 4 public health issues raised by that tragedy.

The one thing we know for sure is that 2013 will be a very important year for continuing our collective conversation about child health and development. Wishing you all a peaceful and good New Year.

2013 Calendar via

Add a Comment

Cognitive Development: 2012 In A Snapshot

Sunday, December 30th, 2012

Two areas of research caught my attention this year: 

Tips For Parents: We all know that it’s good for parents to play with their kids, and read to them. But new studies continue to point out specific methods that parents can use – like specific ways to talk to your toddler when reading to them, and ways to use your voice and fingers to promote reading skills. Other studies highlighted how basic kid activities – like drawing – are connected (in perhaps surprising ways) to later school achievement. While some of these findings may seem intuitive, parents of toddlers are flooded with all kinds of suggestions (including costly ones) on how to give their kids an academic “edge”. It’s very nice to see research demonstrate that parents can use some simple strategies that are fun (and cost nothing) which result in real promotion of their kids cognitive development – and also reinforce how beneficial it is for parents and kids to spend time together in an “old-fashioned” way.

Getting Kids Enough Play Time: In addition to parent-child interaction, kids need to play – and by play, I mean the running around kind. It’s good for their bodies, and it is directly and indirectly good for their cognitive development (both in the short and long term). Yet new studies continue to reveal that a number of barriers are reducing how much play kids get. The take-home message for parents is quite clear: make sure your kids have plenty of opportunities to play, and do what you can to ensure that this is the case in preschool and beyond.

Time For Review via

Add a Comment

Is Pretend Play Overrated? The Take-Home Messages From the New Provocative Review

Sunday, September 9th, 2012

Have you come across the new claim that the effects of pretend play on development have been overstated? Let’s break this down, first from the research perspective, and then from the practical angle.

A recent paper published in the journal Psychological Bulletin conducted a review of existing studies on pretend play and cognitive, social and language development. The authors were especially interested in assessing the evidence for “causal” associations – e.g., does pretend play lead directly to increases in creativity? Without going into the details of how all this is done, let’s cut straight to their conclusions.

They suggest that pretend play does not lead to any gains in creativity, intelligence, or problem solving.

They suggest that pretend play is associated with the development of language, storytelling, social development, and self-regulation.

I don’t find these conclusions to be especially disruptive to the idea that pretend play is an essential part of childhood development. First, note all the important outcomes that are connected with pretend play. This is an impressive list – I’m sure any parent would want to promote these skills in their toddlers. Second, I believe the point of the article is to challenge the idea that pretend play is an essential component for educational programs in order to promote “academic” progress. I don’t have a big problem with this – I’ve always thought of pretend play as being more a part of the social/emotional development spectrum and in particular something that is very interactive in nature. The authors point out that other forms of play are critically important for “academic” development and that these should be emphasized in the classrooms of preschoolers.

So one take-home message to me is that parents and educators may want to be sure that a variety of play types are encouraged in our preschools. Some may be especially effective at promoting problem solving – others might let social skills flourish. Using research methods to refine the need for multiple forms of play is to me a good step.

A second take-home message is that pretend play is a marvelous thing, whether it’s practiced at home or at school. Kids love it! As a parent, some of my favorite memories of my daughter from her toddler years was when she was engaged in pretend play. There was a time when every Saturday morning would be devoted (at her initiative) to her coming up with some type of pretend activity – whether it was serving us in a restaurant, putting on a dance recital, or using stuffed animals to transform a room into an animal shelter. During those years, I never wondered if all that pretend was going to translate into advanced cognitive skills. I took it as a delightful way for her to interact with us and to explore her world. Simply refining – for the educational context – the social nature of pretend play, and the many skills it pulls for, would only argue for the need for incorporating multiple types of play, all of which have a way of coming together to make for a happy and well-rounded child.

Toddler pouring tea for teddy bears via

Add a Comment

Some Guidelines For Ensuring Kids Have Free Time In Summer

Monday, July 2nd, 2012

Summer is here, and we parents have to walk the line between filling up our kids’ days – and leaving space. Today Golnar Khosrowshahi of GoGoNews shares some guidelines she uses with her kids in summertime. 

As parents, we are raising children in the era of over-programming. Our renaissance offspring are shuttled from one activity to another throughout the school year and according to a recent survey of American families from the American Express Spending and Saving Tracker, we are spending more than ever on summer activities.

On average, it costs $600 to $1,200 to keep one child busy during the summer months. While I do my best to keep up with the Joneses – because as everyone knows, fencing is a life skill – I worry that our children do not have the free time to indulge their creativity.

My children definitely enjoy a wider variety of activities than I did as a child and at their age, and are far more competent at most things than I ever was. However, I am also hyper-conscious that they need to have free time to learn how to entertain themselves.

I worry that if they don’t have this free time, that they will never learn how to rely on their own faculties to be creative and engage and educate themselves.  What kind of problem solvers will they be later in life if they don’t know how to think creatively and be innovative?

While ours is not a rules driven household, I have managed to establish a few guidelines to ensure that my children have some free time during what my generation remembers as our idyllic summer holidays.

These guidelines include:

  • limiting television and video game time
  • equipping them with reading material on a wide range of subjects of their selection
  • providing them with kits and tools that encourage them to work with their hands
  • giving them some “Me” time without camps, lessons or friends
  • putting them in situations to which they are not accustomed – for example, taking them to work with me and actually giving them real responsibilities

I believe that doing some or all of the above throughout the summer will at least help our children get to know themselves, and better define their interests and then, set the stage to refine their interests. This free time to be creative will allow them to steer themselves towards subjects and interests that they are passionate about.

As a parent, one of the most important takeaways I had from Walter Isaacson’s biography of Steve Jobs was how vital it is for our children to find their passion and ultimately, their happiness. We parents need to make sure we allow the time for this to happen because, while fencing is a life skill, creative thinking will probably prove to be more useful in the long run.

Image of kids playing on a sunny day via

Golnar Khosrowshahi is the founder of GoGoNews, a website that publishes up to the minute, age appropriate current events for children. She has also written for The Huffington Post and been featured in many technology and parenting related columns. You can read featured guest blog posts by her here at Red-Hot Parenting every month.

Add a Comment