Monday, November 19th, 2012
Researchers at the University of Virginia have identified four distinct styles of parenting in a new study that explores differences in “family culture” that pervade communities and even families. According to The Huffington Post, the four categories are:
- The Faithful (20 percent) whose parenting style is morality and/or religion-based.
- Engaged Progressives (21 percent) who teach tolerance as a central value
- The Detached (19 percent) who want their children to be independent and practical in their thinking and learning
- American Dreamers (27 percent) who have aspirations that their children be more successful in life than they have been
More from The Huffington Post:
Parenting, this new research argues, is not a system you choose, but an outgrowth of who you are; you don’t select it as much as you let it find you. What is “good” parenting depends on the life you’ve lived and the values you hold.
Understanding this would go a long way toward ending, or, at least quieting, the parenting wars.
The Institute for Advanced Studies in Culture at the University of Virginia has been examining the roots of parenting style in “family culture,” and today’s report sorts American families into four distinct groups. No two agree on what kind of world awaits their children, nor what morals, values and ideals will be needed to navigate it.
“They speak different languages, they have different sets of beliefs and suspicions,” said Carl Desportes Bowman, Director of Survey Research for the Institute, when unveiling the results at a meeting in Washington, D.C. this morning.
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Monday, February 13th, 2012
Researchers say that when parents are highly controlling and expect kids to follow their rules without question, children are more likely to be disrespectful and delinquent.
One of the main findings of this study, published in the February issue of the Journal of Adolescence, is that kids who trust their parents and see them as legitimate authority figures are less likely to engage in delinquent behavior. Researchers also found that a child’s perception of her parents’ authority depends on the parenting style Mom and Dad use.
The study outlined three main parenting styles:
Authoritative parents are demanding and controlling, but also receptive to their children’s needs. These parents aim to establish two-way communication with their kids to explain why they’ve established rules and to hear their children’s opinions about those rules.
Authoritarian parents are demanding and highly controlling. They don’t explain their reasons for setting rules, and are not open to hearing their kid’s opinions about the rules. These parents have a “my way or the highway” approach, and expect rules to be followed without question.
Permissive parents are not demanding or controlling. These parents are attentive to their children’s needs, but set few boundaries, and any rules they make are rarely enforced.
The researchers analyzed survey responses from about 600 middle- and high-school students and found that an authoritarian parenting style led kids to lack respect for their parents’ authority. These kids were more likely than others in the study to engage in delinquent behaviors such as theft or underage drinking. The authoritative style was the most successful; kids were more likely to listen to their parents, and were less likely to be delinquent. Interestingly, the children of permissive parents had less respect for their parents, but were not more or less likely to be delinquent.
Readers, do these findings surprise you? How would you describe your parenting style?
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Monday, February 6th, 2012
An excerpt published in the Wall Street Journal is making the social media rounds, prompting reflection and reactions on the question of whether French parents are “superior” to American parents because they teach their children to be independent and to respect “adult time.” Last year, the newspaper garnered widespread attention for publishing a controversial excerpt from Amy Chua’s “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother,” which argued that the Chinese parenting philosophy produced smarter, higher-acheiving children than the permissive American parenting culture.
Author Pamela Druckerman’s book “Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting,” will be published this week. From the excerpt:
France is the perfect foil for the current problems in American parenting. Middle-class French parents (I didn’t follow the very rich or poor) have values that look familiar to me. They are zealous about talking to their kids, showing them nature and reading them lots of books. They take them to tennis lessons, painting classes and interactive science museums.
Yet the French have managed to be involved with their families without becoming obsessive. They assume that even good parents aren’t at the constant service of their children, and that there is no need to feel guilty about this. “For me, the evenings are for the parents,” one Parisian mother told me. “My daughter can be with us if she wants, but it’s adult time.” French parents want their kids to be stimulated, but not all the time. While some American toddlers are getting Mandarin tutors and preliteracy training, French kids are—by design—toddling around by themselves.
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