Monday, June 16th, 2014
Happy belated Father’s Day guys! Whether you’re a guy or a gal expecting a baby, Chris Pegula has your back. Check out his advice below from his brand new book, From Dude to Dad: The Diaper Dude Guide to Pregnancy:
What is it with us guys freaking out over becoming dads? After all, it’s the women that have to undergo all the emotional and physical transformation during the pregnancy. In all honesty, I think as guys we can do a lot more to ease our partners through their nine month journey of pregnancy while at the same time empowering ourselves to overcome our fears of fatherhood.
Check out these 5 tips on getting prepared for the arrival of your little one.
#1 Get Involved
Get involved in your partner’s process as much as possible and as soon as possible. Be curious, ask questions about her experience, and attend as many doctor visits and classes with her as you can. This will ease you into your new role and slowly begin to eliminate your fear.
#2 Ask Questions
Accept that you don’t know everything and don’t be afraid to seek council from others. More often than not, experience is the only way to learn, so it is helpful to talk to some experienced parents ahead of time to prepare yourself. You have a whole army of people in your life who have gone through this and are generally happy to dole out advice.
#3 Temper Your Expectations
Once your partner is pregnant, don’t assume she is going to react to things the way she used to. She is going through all sorts of physical and emotional changes, so bear with her and cut her some slack. Always act as if you are doing things for the first time and run it by her first.
#4 It’s All About We, Not Me
Start early on making choices that are in the best interests of you both, so that it will have become second nature once the baby arrives. For instance, maybe it’s not so smart to commit to those NBA tickets when your partner is vomiting incessantly.
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You will be making many compromises when you become a dad. Depending on how your partner handles her pregnancy, these compromises may begin early on or may not affect you until the baby arrives. Once your newborn arrives, choosing what’s best for all three, will become second nature and it will make you a more responsible dad.
Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
Today, a new book comes out that pregnant women won’t want to miss. Prolific writer and Harvard-educated economist Emily Oster has released Expecting Better: Why the Conventional Pregnancy Wisdom is Wrong–and What You Really Need to Know. She’s such a brilliant researcher and wordsmith that I’m just going to let her explain it in her own words:
“Making the right decisions during pregnancy and birth isn’t easy. Like many pregnant women I wanted to be sure I was doing the right thing, but I struggled to get good information about what that was. My doctor had a lot of rules about what I could and couldn’t do, but rarely was able to back those rules up with any evidence. In the end, I found I had to use my training in economics and statistics to sort through the data and find the real facts. Because you can’t make a good decision with bad information.
When I got the real facts, I found that sometimes I agreed with my doctor’s rules and recommendations, but not always. By getting the real facts – going back to the original medical studies and learning what the data really has to tell us – I was able to be more confident in my choices. And when friends came to ask about their own pregnancies, the data was able to help them be more confident, too.”
Thanks, Emily! Now read her thoughtful answers to my questions–including what she thinks is the most important advice for preggers people to take: (more…)
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Friday, October 5th, 2012
Obsessed with midwives? I am. Not so long ago, midwives were a lifeline for pregnant women and their families. Today, they’re wonderful additions to standard healthcare. Get advice about them here and here.
Get a dose of what midwifery was like in the old days with a great TV show, ‘Call the Midwife,’ and a moving novel, ‘The Midwife of Hope River.’
‘Call the Midwife‘ could be the new ‘Downton Abbey‘. It’s that good. It’s about Jenny Lee (pictured above), a young midwife in East London in the 1950s. She navigates the social mores of her era while helping pregnant women solve their complicated problems. She’s the new girl among the seasoned nuns at her Anglican hospital, and she’s just as shocked by the soon-to-be mothers as she is by the nuns who have become immune to their sad stories. I couldn’t stop watching. What happens to the Spanish mom who went into early labor? Can Jenny help another patient with her sudden case of preeclampsia? Find out this Sunday at 9 EST on PBS. (If you missed last week’s series premiere, catch it here.)
‘The Midwife of Hope River’ is a novel set in West Virginia during the Depression. Main character Patience Murphy loves helping women bring their new babies into the world, but she is hiding secrets that keep her from getting close to anyone. Patience is a loving, intriguing and enlightening protagonist. Her realistic birth stories are fascinating. That’s because the author, Patricia Harmon, was herself a midwife in rural communes and, later, in hospitals. Harmon’s memoirs, ‘The Blue Cotton Gown’ and ‘Arms Wide Open: A Midwife’s Journey,’ are also supposed to be informative and entertaining.
I love fiction that sheds light on history, especially the histories of mothering.
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