Time Magazine Breastfeeding Cover: Get Over It.

Maybe it’s just because I’m currently nursing, but I’m surprised that the Time magazine breastfeeding cover (at right) is causing such a stir. Top Google search? Newspapers across America? Entertainment Tonight? Really? This is the most-talked about topic out there right now?

First off, Time sure knows how to get our attention. I get glances while discreetly nursing my tiny three-month-old under a blanket in public. Throwing a hot young mama up there openly attached to not young child? Yes. People are gonna talk. More than even I expected. All this press, and from what I can tell, the issue hasn’t even hit newsstands yet.

That said, I’m not going to comment on attachment parenting, which is what the cover is actually addressing. (I do have Beyond the Sling, by Mayim Bialik, aka TV’s Blossom, waiting in the reading pile at the moment, so we’ll resurrect that thread when I finish it, hopefully sometime before my kids leave for college, dammit.)

But I can comment on breastfeeding past a certain age. Before I had a child, I’d decided nursing was for babies. Meaning small children with no teeth or verbal skills. It was a knee-jerk opinion based solely on the feeling I got when I saw grown children actually ask for the boob, then climb onto mom’s lap on their own to get at it. If the kid can ask for it, I thought, they shouldn’t be getting it anymore.

I’ve said this before, and I’m sure I’ll say it again: And then I had kids.

I’ve written about my own nursing experience on this blog before, most notably on my post about weaning, but to recap: Before I had my first, I didn’t even want to breastfeed. I told myself I’d give it three weeks, for the health of the baby and whatnot. I ended up nursing Roy until he was a year and a half old. By that time, it was limited to before and after bedtime, but still. You better believe he was able to ask for it.

He wasn’t as old as the kid pictured. But he was a lot older than I ever figured he’d be while still nursing. The experience pushed me into the “To Each Her Own,” breastfeeding camp. I know that’s often the theme of this blog, but it can’t be helped because it’s what I believe. We are different people, raising different kids, and no one has the one-size-fits-all magic formula. We need to quit judging and concentrate on trying to figure out what’s truly best for ourselves and our kids.

Meaning that at this point in my life, when I’ll nurse my child while getting my hair washed at a salon without batting an eye, this cover doesn’t bother me one little bit. You? If it does bother you, especially, I’d love to hear exactly why.

 

 

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  1. by Emily Totaro

    On May 11, 2012 at 9:52 am

    It’s the shock value they went for that annoys me and the title. “Are you Mom Enough?” Honestly, how horrible for mothers who tried and did not succeed at breastfeeding at all.

  2. by Merri

    On May 11, 2012 at 9:56 am

    My personal opionion is that you should be breast feed a child that old. That being said I also believe that each child and mother only know when its right to stop. However, if you still feel it nessicary to breast feed your child that old i dont feel it nessicary to share it (espically a picture of it) with the whole world. Somethings are meant to be private and i believe a child this age breast feeding should be private. This poor child will have to deal with this picture for the rest of his life.

  3. by Angela

    On May 11, 2012 at 9:57 am

    <3 I could have written this exactly. :)

  4. by erica wandemberg

    On May 11, 2012 at 9:58 am

    I use to think if a child can walk ,talk and get around its time to stop breast feeding. My child is 15. Months. He was breast feed n he actually comes to my boob more then he use to because I breath and pump feed. I think its great for a child and the pediatric has incoraged it. I think extended breastfeeding is fine. It’s there choose. I do think the child would have attacment issues so I would think when they start school it ends

  5. by Eve

    On May 11, 2012 at 9:59 am

    I think the issue is similar to the placenta encapsulation story. Put a sensationalized picture with it, and people react. I did a double take when I saw the Time cover. At first I couldn’t tell it was a toddler. I agree with you, get over it.

  6. by gwen

    On May 11, 2012 at 10:02 am

    If he is old enough to eat pizza and pork chops, he is too old to nurse! Ick!

  7. by Elizabeth

    On May 11, 2012 at 10:03 am

    I also breastfed my children (until they were a little over 1 year when they naturally weaned and preferred table food). I also support breastfeeding for however long you like, to each his own. However, having said that, I DO take personal offense to this cover for two reasons- the condescending title and provocative image. To imply that I or anyone else is not “woman enough” if we choose to not breast feed our babies till they get to preschool, or at all for that matter bothers me. In the same way that YOU do not want to be judged for nursing a 4 year old, extend me the same courtesy and don’t judge me.

    Also, despite the fact that the mom is “a real mom and not a model”, the pose and facial expressions of both the mom and little boy are quite honestly provocative and sexual in nature, as I’m sure they were intended to be for shock value. Why not use a picture of a discreetly covered mom nursing her baby instead?… because we would all not be talking about this today, that’s why. Shame on you, Time magazine….

  8. by Jennifer

    On May 11, 2012 at 10:03 am

    Breastfeeding doesn’t at all bother me. Actually, I wish more women were willing/able to do it, because of the many, many benefits we already know about. I breastfed my son until he was 17mos old (and for the record- he’s got a whopping 6 teeth, never bit, and can’t ask for it in words). And I think that you’re absolutely right in that there’s no one-size-fits-all formula here.

    This cover is getting so much attention because (1) let’s face it, that kid does NOT look 3 years old, and (2) breasts are so over-sexualized here in America that the actual functional utility seems to make a ridiculously large number of people uncomfortable.

    When the kid is potty trained, speaking multiple words at a time, and more than comfortable on solid foods, but you’re STILL breastfeeding, it’s not about the baby anymore, it’s about Mommy. She needs to back off or this kid will never be independent.

  9. by Amanda

    On May 11, 2012 at 10:04 am

    I agree with Emily’s comment. As, with both of my children, I could not continue to produce past three months, the title is insulting. Especially for those of us that really try and can’t.

  10. by Karen Bond

    On May 11, 2012 at 10:06 am

    Why does this cover bother me? It’s not the exposed breast, it’s not the extended toddler nursing; it’s the bold declaration that in order to be “Mom Enough” one has to extended breastfeed. That message is absolutely dreadful! The “mompetition” that exists in our society is demeaning to all mothers and to use the very emotional topic of nursing to further undermine a mother’s self-esteem is just wrong! Nursing moms are giving their babies the best they can yet stating that one isn’t “Mom Enough” unless that time frame extends well into toddlerhood is unfair and ridiculous.

    We don’t need more mommy wars. We don’t need more comparisons. We don’t need moms feeling inferior because they only breastfed for a month, a year, or not at all.

    I’ve nursed 11 babies, the last two of who are twins, yet I am not more of a mom than the woman sitting next to me at the mall feeding her baby formula. Nor am I less of a mom than the woman on the cover of Time magazine.

  11. by Jessica

    On May 11, 2012 at 10:07 am

    I’m a very proud breastfeeding mother. I weaned my first at 1 and half as well, and I still regret it. I am hoping to go until my second is at least 2. My plan was to wean from breast, but keep giving breast milk until closer to 5. Sadly, my husband was very opposed to this idea, and after many days of fighting, we finally decided he was against it more than I was for it. I occasionally give my 3 year old leftover breast milk though (don’t tell my husband). I don’t support breastfeeding past a certain age though. 3 is pushing it for me personally, 5 or older seems very inappropriate to me. I feel like the bonding and health benefits could be reached by giving your child a glass of breast milk and having some relaxing snuggle time. Especially for boys, 5 or older seems too old to be seeing a mother topless anymore. I agree with you though, that it is more important to do what works best for each family and child. Who knows, if my second really doesn’t want to wean when I want him to, my opinion might completely change.

  12. by Rachel

    On May 11, 2012 at 10:11 am

    The title is what offends me. I would never Judge any mom because being a mom is hard and we need to make our own choices. On the other hand the title makes me feel judged. I was not “mom enough” to breastfeed it didn’t work out for me. I am “mom enough” to keep trying to do a good job raising my 3 year old twins and my almost 2 year old little girl. I shouldn’t be made to feel badly about something that was impossible for me to manage.

  13. by Michelle

    On May 11, 2012 at 10:11 am

    This does bother me, I am a mother of 3 and I breast fed all of my children. I understand the importance the children get from breast milk, however there comes a time to stop letting them nurse on the boob. If you feel you still want to give your child the breast milk because you think it is healthier for them, then express the milk and let them drink it from cup. I fell moms that go past a certain childs age and still lets them nurse has some sort of separation issues with their child. I can see maybe going to the age of 2 but come on ladies what are you going to do when your kids have play dates and want to nurse infront of the other kids. Let me tell you I wouldn’t be letting my kids at your house if I know there was a chance you would be breast feeding your 4 or 5 year old infront of my child. On another note I do not see anything wrong with someone breast feeding in public as long as it is done modestly.

  14. by Barbara

    On May 11, 2012 at 10:12 am

    I also dislike the shock value and title. I am “mom enough” to admit that breastfeeding didn’t work for my first child and I made an unsuccessful attempt with my second and if I have more kids will probably not try to breastfeed. The breastfeeding debate is getting annoying–it makes those of us who couldn’t breastfeed feel like awful mothers who should be looked down upon and those who do breastfeed like to flaunt it and feel it’s their right. It doesn’t make anyone a better mother because she breastfeeds! My husband does not appreciate seeing other women’s breasts when he’s in public–why? Because to him they’re a sexual object and he can’t get past that (which many men have issues with). I wish we could just believe that each mother is doing what is best for her family and child whether that be breatfeeding or not.

  15. by Sandy

    On May 11, 2012 at 10:14 am

    Get over it? Its the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever seen and she should be embarrassed that someone took that picture…it sets breastfeeding back not forward and it is unacceptable….I breastfed All four of my children…I had twins!!!!! I am offended by this picture…The boy is too old and the mom is too skinny and she probably isnt even producing milk…so why do it? Shock value…they need to get over themselves….breastfeeding is a benefit to the CHILD…not to the peeping toms of the world…and he’s old enough for table food and he goes to school….how enbarrassing for him…bad mom…bad idea….

  16. by Shelly

    On May 11, 2012 at 10:17 am

    This child is to old to be breast feeding from the boob, Put it in a cup for him if you still want to give him breast milk.

  17. by Mary Myrick MSW

    On May 11, 2012 at 10:18 am

    It bothers me that they are making such a big deal over it. I am concerned for those children who are breastfed that seeing such controversy over something so natural and innocent might be detrimental to their development. Something that is intended to be nurturing and comforting and a security for them is being broadcast as shameful. People need to learn to do what works for them and respect the rights of others to do what works best for them. We are all unique; respect that!!

  18. by Janick Simard

    On May 11, 2012 at 10:25 am

    I don’t understand why we have to discuss this. I have not yet read the article but I am planning on getting a copy today. “Are you Mom enough?” The title brings upon all mothers so much judgemnent. The mothers who don’t brestfeed feel defensive and start explaining that they weren’t able to brestfeed and that anyways you shouldn’t be brestfeeding children who can walk and talk. Mothers who brestfeed feel defensive and explain that they do this for their child and that it is what’s best for the child’s health. Jeez, different peolple make different decisions depending on their personnality, their occupations and their job. Even their maternity leave can influence the decision they make. Does the fact that a mother needs to go back to work make her less of a mother? Stop judging and start helping one another. We’ve go enough judgement from peolple who haven’t had children, can’t we stick together?

  19. by nicole

    On May 11, 2012 at 10:33 am

    I have breastfed all my children as long as they would allow. My longest has been 14 months. I would have loved to continue fcarther but she was not interested. That being said, I don’t know when I would have stopped. I might not have felt comfortable nursing at 3 years but I could have stil. The comments about pumping and putting it in a cup offends me because I can’t pump. I do not express by pump enough milk to feed my babies so how am I suppose to put it in a cup? To each their own. The cover offends me because it deliberatly sexualizes the breast and was used to cause an uproar. Shame on you Time Magazine!

  20. by Solana

    On May 11, 2012 at 10:41 am

    I also thought breastfeeding was for babies….BEFORE I had my kids. But then my daughter came and I said I will give it a year. Then the year came and passed and I ended up breastfeeding my daughter till she was just over 2. It was only morning and night, but she could ask for it herself that’s for sure. I probably would have gone longer but I became pregnant with my son and between the teeth and pregnancy breast sensitivity I had to stop. And she didn’t even miss it or ask for it again.

    So… now after having my kids I can’t say I wouldn’t do this. I would. But I believe that is a choice for mother and child.

    I do feel bad for the mommies who want to breastfeed and can’t for whatever reason. That cover may be hurtful to those mommies.

  21. by krista

    On May 11, 2012 at 10:50 am

    Ok, well…let’s see where do I start. This photo is very offending and I agree with Barbara, the “to breastfeed or not to breastfeed” debate is very annoying, breastfeeding moms, let’s quit rubbing it in other womens noses and making other mothers who couldn’t feel like a horrible mother. I am honestly so sick and tired of hearing about all of it. I think if the child is old enough to eat table foods, he/she is too old to be sucking on the boob, that child will not learn independence. Normally if you formula feed a child you stop giving them formula at a year of age. I had 3 children and di breastfeed all of them for about 3 months each, I feel they got the best of the breastmilk (colostrum) and they have been pretty health overall (no major issues), I am a proud mother and love my children with all my heart and soul, but there is definately an age that is too old to be breastfeeding. And I AM DEFINATELY WOMAN ENOUGH for my children.

  22. by Megan

    On May 11, 2012 at 10:58 am

    It is not the picture that is upsetting..it’s the title “Are You Mom Enough?”

    A direct insult to any woman who does not breastfeed at all, or beyond a certain age. Shame on TIME magazine for insulting women around the world. I was so eager to breastfeed my son but sadly was not able to do so. Yes. Some women cannot due to medical reasons; so all you mothers on your high horses about every woman can and should breastfeed can stop now. I nearly bled to death when my son was born. As a result I was severely anemic and as a result of that I could not breastfeed. So, I ask, does that not make me mom enough? I still woke up every two hours to feed my son, I still bathe him, feed him, play with him, teach him, love him, hug him, kiss him, and now he is two years old. But, according to TIME I would only be mom enough if I was currently breastfeeding him. What a disgusting outrage right before Mother’s Day.

  23. by me

    On May 11, 2012 at 11:00 am

    Ok…to all you people commenting that to each it’s own and you breastfed until your kid was 1 or 15 months or such,uh, newsflash!! That kid is 3 years old!! a huge difference from one! Most children are off bottles and some even sippy cups by that big boys age! How ridiculous! That kid clearly eats plenty of regular meals so that fact that his mom still breast feeds him is just one more instance of the coddling and selfishness that some parents do…this is all about her and her attachment issues and has nothing to do with him. shameful!

  24. by Sonya

    On May 11, 2012 at 11:01 am

    I am a mother of three children and I breastfed all of them till the age of one. That being said I think this pic is disturbing to say the least. It looks more like pornograpy then an endorsement for breastfeeding to me and with all the sickos out there this day in age even publishing this picture makes me sick. That child is too old to be at that mothers breast. And that mother should be ashamed of her self for putting her child on display like that for all the perverts in this world to look at. The whole thing leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

  25. by Jay

    On May 11, 2012 at 11:36 am

    the title bothers me. my 3 all weaned between 12 months & 17 months. that was what worked for us. But “Are you Mom Enough?”…Hell yeah I am mom enough and don’t try to make me think I am not because I did something different. The title is insulting to mom’s everywhere…period. I say to each their own, but the title is way off base.

  26. by Heidi

    On May 11, 2012 at 11:45 am

    I have breastfed my children until they were 2 1/2, 3 1/2, and I am currently nursing my youngest who is now 2. I really don’t see what the big deal is. Yes, they have teeth, but they never bite me, OK, maybe once when the teeth first come in, but they learn pretty quickly not to! I also did some bed sharing, not all the time and not all night long (usually from 3 AM until morning) and that wasn’t a big deal either, they happily sleep in their own beds all night now, not one of them wants to sleep in my bed until they’re 20, and my older kids aren’t overly attached to me or unable to function; on the contrary, they are very independant and get all A’s or “exceeds expectations” in school, they have lots of friends too. I am not a radically strange mother, I am not a new age hippie, I am not perfect but I am not a terrible mother either. People are making WAY too big of a deal out of a few simple parenting practices. What really disturbs me is all the comments about how breastfeeding a toddler is somehow sexual abuse or pornographic, to those people I would ask, how did you deal with the “sexual abuse” of being diapered and bathed as a baby and toddler and even a preschooler? Seriously, there is nothing sexual about breastfeeding and people that find it sexual are the sick ones.

  27. by Jodie

    On May 11, 2012 at 11:45 am

    I’m not bothered by the fact that these women are breastfeeding beyond the baby years – go for it! I’m bothered by how woefully inadequate the article (and, in particular, its title) makes me feel. I’m still breastfeeding my 10-month-old and I still manage to feel like crap. If it’s not nursing, it’s solid foods, immunizations, diapering and dressing – no less than five different buttons have been hammered this week alone. I’m sick of feeling pathetic in the midst of ‘Mommy Olympians.’

  28. by Jen

    On May 11, 2012 at 12:00 pm

    IMHO, Breastfeeding is a private matter and should be kept that way. I am not against breastfeeding in public as long as it is done modestly. This picture does not show an intimate moment of feeding, it is set up to look too sexually implicit. Also, I really feel bad for the kid in the picture. Can you hear his peers when he is a teen? – “HA! I saw you sucking your mom’s tit! She’s hot, I’d like to suck her tit!” Really, Seriously, no matter how many bullying laws are put in place – this will likely happen.

  29. by Laura

    On May 11, 2012 at 12:00 pm

    I think it’s beautiful. And nothing more.

  30. by zoney200

    On May 11, 2012 at 12:02 pm

    The picture doesn’t bother me, it is the title, “are you mom enough?” that gets me. I tried to nurse my son but wasn’t able to. He didn’t like to be in a sling for more than 10 mins at a time so I wasn’t able to wear him. I sleep with lots of pillows and blankets and didn’t feel that it was safe to co-sleep with a new born. So I was unable to do the whole attachment parenting, does that make me an unfit mother or not enough of a mom?
    I don’t think so.

  31. by Kat

    On May 11, 2012 at 12:07 pm

    Ironically, I am nursing my 15 month old as I read this…

    The title is the most offensive, as many have said. The image is provocative as well. Any mother who takes care of their child, whether they give their child breastmilk or formula, nurse for a few months or a couple years, it all boils down to taking care of your child the best you can. I personally wish to start weaning my 15 month old, but she still enjoys nursing. I feel now that I want to feel connected to her by cuddles without her latching on. But since she’s really only just now starting to like table food, I have a feeling i’ll be nursing for a bit longer…but since that is what my daughter needs I’ll do it! But hopefully not for much longer…

  32. by Brittany

    On May 11, 2012 at 12:24 pm

    I have to agree with many of the previous comments. Breastfeeding doesn’t bother me, nor does extended breastfeeding~if you want to nurse your child until age two or three, fine. Older than that seems a bit extreme. Whatever you do, please be discreet about it.

    What does bother me about the cover is that Time magazine stooped so low as to do a shock value cover and the author of the article chose such a confrontational title. That is in poor taste to me.

  33. by Janice

    On May 11, 2012 at 2:11 pm

    The title is extremely offensive and the picture is just terrible! I am okay with extended breastfeeding including in public. However, this photo is not showing how women really do breastfeed older kids. The pose is just plain wrong. But to those who say he is too old: newsflash – breastfeeding toddlers and pre-schoolers eat regular food and meals and dont nurse all that often. When I weaned my daughter at 17 months she only breastfed at bedtime. And I couldn’t give it in a cup if I wanted because my body doesn’t respond to pumping. If you are going to comment at least have legit arguments.

  34. by Josephine

    On May 11, 2012 at 2:26 pm

    For all the terrible parenting going on in this world, a child being nursed to 3 is NOT a deed among them, we should be focusing our attention on actual parenting failures. Extended breastfeeding to age 2 has been scientifically backed to show numerous health benefits, breastmilk has shown to KILL cancer cells and it’s certainly a lot more healthy for our kids than pasteurized cow’s milk; a substance meant to raise an 150lb calf to a 1200lb cow (not to mention, all the damn hormones and antibiotics in it). Attached parenting does not create “pansies” or kids that can’t “cut the cord”, I would challenge anyone to produce a valid scientific study supporting this, especially since attached parenting produces the OPPOSITE effect; children that feel safe, secure and well loved and feel they have the support of their family when they go off into the world as they grow older. It’s terrible, the strawman argument Time used here, but taking a much larger than normal 3 yr old and a very tiny, petite Mother, and then slapping a very provocative, dick-ish title on it. Attached parenting is not a provocative topic, it’s a lifestyle choice some parents make for their children. That’s it that’s all. I was perfectly happy bfing both of my children to just past age 1, as I returned to work, and no, we didn’t cosleep either. I just know that there are ONLY benefits that come with attached parenting and just because I or anyone else didn’t go that route, doesn’t mean our own insecurities should cause us to lash out at those who do. It also goes without saying that anyone forming their opinions on gut reactions and ‘personal feelings” about what other people are doing, including the super classy reactions of “ewww”, “gross” or “ick!” wont be taken seriously. Science is cool, try using it to support your bs.

    As for the title making women feel badly or guilty, bah! No one can make you feel guilty or badly about your decisions if you don’t let them. If you’re letting them, it means YOU don’t believe in your own decisions, simple as that! If I make a decision or, am forced into a decision I have no choice but to make, no one anyone else says is going to make me upset, angry, guilty etc about them because in my mind, I did what was best for myself (or my children) or, I had zero choice in the matter. Worse, many MANY mothers aren’t breastfeeding because they’re told it’s not important or required (because formula is “just as good” apparently) or because they get zero support at home or from their doctors, so they inevitably “fail” at breastfeeding. How many women just on this thread think that nature/God is a big fat failure in designing mammals so that, while almost ALL other mammals feed their children without difficulty, female humans fail at breastfeeding every single day? Why is it that we’re the only species that has all these issues doing what nature/God intended us to do with our breasts?! Because, as I said, we don’t have the right support, we don’t have the right guidance and information, because it’s socially acceptable to substitute dehydrated cow’s milk instead, because the darn hospital sends you HOME with a freaking can of the stuff, because we have no idea just how beneficial breast milk really is and, because we’re constantly attacking bfing mothers in public when meanwhile, boobs are hanging out sexualized all over the place.

  35. by cassie

    On May 11, 2012 at 3:19 pm

    to respond to Josephine’s comment on how mothers are “letting” people make them feel bad about their “decisions”… um who ever said not being able to breast feed was a decision? My son has a lactose allergy, not an intolerance, an allergy, and when I would feed him he would become violently ill and failed to gain any weight. We did two cleansing cycles (weaning me off of dairy products and pumping and dumping for 7 straight days both times) and he was unable to take my milk, why? because lactose is in things you would never have considered… like hot dogs and lunch meat, who would have known and yes I saw a lactation specialist and yes I saw several doctors and no none of them mentioned that there was lactose places where you don’t normally look for it, so I could have continued fighting crying hurting pumping and nearly killing my child, or at 20 weeks I stopped the BFing drama and fed my child organic soy formula, bonded with him in a way I hadn’t been able to before and loved the experience finally. I never chose to be unable to breastfeed, it was the hand I was dealt but every single doctor I see says “why didn’t you breastfeed it’s so much better for him?” and I’m supposedly “letting” them make me feel bad? no there is a struggle in our country where yes there’s not enough available information for women about breastfeeding or support but there’s also that fleet of people ready to jump on you if breastfeeding is not something you are CAPABLE of doing, in the middle ages women would go to a wet nurse if they couldn’t do it it’s not an issue with our species it’s an issue with our culture, even when dogs cannot produce milk, the pups are given it from a bottle, but our culture says if you can’t make your own you’re a horrible person… I say to all those out there ringing their own bell over the fact that they could breastfeed… get off your high horse cause I’m sure there are other parenting issues you have and I don’t, no mom is perfect, no child is easy, but if you are loving them and doing the best you possibly can, other moms should be sitting there encouraging you!

  36. by Naomi

    On May 11, 2012 at 5:20 pm

    There are plenty of Moms out there who can t produce enough breast-milk to feed their child, whether its some fluke of nature or a byproduct of what we put in/ don’t put in our bodies or what happens at the hospital or whatever. It’s a terrible feeling wanting to breastfeed your baby and trying everything and still not being able to. So don’t say that this is something we should be able to do naturally. Nature fails a lot, that’s why in nature, a lot of babies DIE. we have formula so that doesn’t happen. I don’t think anybody has any clue how common milk production issues are and I don’t think anyone is doing any research in to what causes it.

  37. by Sarah

    On May 11, 2012 at 6:44 pm

    I think all women should at least try breast feeding. I just worry that after a certain age, the baby isn’t allowed to develop into an independent child. I worry about the emotional development more than anything else about this picture. The idea that “because I’m mom, I know best” just doesn’t fly in certain areas. If a kid broke a bone, one doesn’t say “well because I’m mom, I can fix this bone.” It’s the same with mental health. I don’t know the answer, but I would like to hear the opinion of doctors on this matter. I’d like to hear from someone who has actually studied the mind and development of children.

  38. by Gigi

    On May 11, 2012 at 8:49 pm

    The author said it “what’s truly best for ourselves and our kids”. Breastfeeding past the infant stage has nothing to do with what is best for our kids -its suits the mother, the mother’s needs and the mother’s wants. I could go on and on but I think everyone gets it including the mothers nursing their kids past what is really necessary.

  39. by Carrie

    On May 12, 2012 at 4:52 pm

    I wrote about this article, too, on my blog Huppie Mama. the piece is called “TIME to Get a Clue”. Feel free to visit the post and comment there as well. Thanks! http://huppiemama.com/?p=1884

  40. by Jill Cordes

    On May 14, 2012 at 5:47 pm

    Nice job Berit.I’ve been following the controversy and your comments. It’s crazy the mole hills that become mountains–in this case..the boobs! Hope your Mother’s Day was lovely with your wee one.

  41. by Eileen

    On May 14, 2012 at 10:55 pm

    Well I just had to throw in my 2 cents. I started to read the article, but haven’t finished it. I hate the cover and the sensationalism they are trying to stir up…picking the biggest toddler they could find and the pose is so unnatural. Having said that; it turns out I was one of those attachment parents…never knew that label before. I breastfed my 1st and 3rd till they were just about 3 (by then it’s just for comfort and not nurishment) but my middle one weaned himself at 9 months. By the 3rd one I didn’t even bother getting a crib because I just found the family bed so much more easy to get sleep and the little one wouldn’t wake up the bigger ones with crying. I don’t know, I just went with my gut on most of this stuff. I did watch alot of Phil Donohue back then :) I was blessed (and sacrificed to be) a stay at home mom. I didn’t want someone else raising my kids. I heard alot from family esp., how I wasn’t helping my kids in the long run and they would turn out to be too dependent and clingy. But that has not been the case at all. All three (34, 30, and 26 yrs old) are happy, independent adults….albeit pretty quirky and not mainstream, but I don’t blame breastfeeding…that’s genetics! haha Cheers to all the moms! I suggest everyone just stay true to themselves.

  42. by Jen Fischer

    On May 15, 2012 at 12:05 am

    You nailed it. I knew I would breastfeed before I had my sons, but have always felt that “to each his own” is the right attitude. My husband sometimes gets weird about me nursing in public (with a blanket, of course), but since the second baby won’t even drink pumped milk out of a bottle, I just get on with it and tell him to deal. My first son weaned (naturally) at 14 months — probably because I had just gotten pregnant with our second. I have a feeling he’ll nurse just as longer, if not longer. I haven’t nursed at the salon, but I have breastfed the baby while making chocolate chips with my toddler. Whatever works!

  43. by Betty KnowsBreast

    On June 5, 2012 at 4:35 pm

    From my perspective, the people who are most offended by this cover/article are the ones who take it out of context and only view the picture on the cover. If people would look at the bigger picture, I feel that they would probably nod their heads and say, “Oh, I see.” Not that they would necessarily agree, but perhaps it would make more sense. I don’t think this cover is implying that you are NOT “mom enough” if you don’t breast feed until the child can pick out his own camo pants, but rather asking, “Are you mom enough to do what you personally believe is best for your child?” In other words, are you going to be oppressed by society’s view of what is “right” or are you going to listen to your own maternal instinct?

  44. by Jean

    On September 17, 2012 at 10:01 am

    Enough is enough. We, in this country are alaysa trying to get girls to compete against girls and women against women, for the choices that they make and whether their bodies are okay enough for a man. This has got to stop now.

    Women stop allowing these scolding articles to divide females. We are so easily brainwashed by men and women who follow men. We are not yo yos, animals, or puppets for men’s satisaction and do what you wanna.
    Women, you can breastfeed or not breastfeed. Stop allowing men and breast advocates to tell you you are bad for not breastfeeding. Would men allow women to make judgemental statements about their testicles??
    Stop this men mind control. If anyone wants to join me in a campaign to protect women’s decisions to not show their breasts or for breasfeeding discretion, you may. I will stand up to anyone and I am not afrid.

    Jean 9-17-12

  45. by Jean

    On September 17, 2012 at 10:11 am

    Sorry folks about all the typos. I know how to spell :), but it doesn’t look like it. I have got to slow down, when typing.

    Jean ( from Wildcat country)

  46. by Bella

    On February 13, 2013 at 10:56 pm

    It didn’t bother when I saw the cover, but I didn’t agree or like how they question if you are a mom enough. There are moms that couldn’t breast feeding their child either by choice or they had to, but doing great jobs in many other ways. I think that there are more of being a mom than just breast feeding or carrying her child.

    To teach a child right values and become a good and responsible person requires more than that. I do agree that attach parenting helps building relationship with your child. If your child trusts you, it is easier to guide him to be a good person and make right choices in the future.