Tuesday, May 29th, 2012
My husband and I battled fiercely over my oldest daughter’s name. Even seven years later, he hasn’t quite let it rest, and still jabs me from time to time over it. And the lamest part was, it wasn’t even a battle over what name she’d actually get—it was just over how to spell it.
We decided to give both of our daughters family names, choosing their first and middle names to honor some of our favorite relatives. For our oldest, we chose Katharine after my husband’s grandmother, and Caroline as a middle name to honor my mother, Carol.
But my husband’s grandmother spelled her name Kathryn. I wanted a more traditional spelling, and pushed for Catherine. We battled furiously as our deadline approached—and as the days grew short before we’d have to put a name to our baby, neither of us would budge.
Finally, we ended the deadlock with a compromise spelling: Katharine, like one of our favorite actresses, Katharine Hepburn. Neither of us was perfectly happy with it, but we both felt that we at least got something—he got his “K,” while I got the “ine” ending I wanted.
The funniest part? When we mentioned it to Mike’s grandmother one day, we found out that officially, her name actually was Catherine, but she had changed it to Kathryn when she turned 18 because she preferred the modern spelling. So it really didn’t matter which of us had won—either way, we would have done her right.
I’m imagining that with so much creativity out there with name spellings, there are plenty of you out there with similar stories—Aidan or Ayden? Sofia or Sophia? Zoe or Zoey?
How did you resolve your spelling spat? Or are you still battling it out over your baby’s name?