Ivanka Trump is a master multitasker. We asked the mompreneur and mom to Arabella, nearly 3, and Joseph, 5 months, to share her work-life balance secrets. Take note!
Is it easier going through life with a newborn the second time around? Yes! I’m already much less anxious than I was with Arabella. I feel prepared having gone through it once before and have a better understanding of the fact that, no matter how much you plan ahead, there is no avoiding the chaos!
Which is harder: being a high-powered executive or a mom? Though both are equally enjoyable for me, no matter how hard I work, how many hours I spend at my desk, how many countries I travel to, I’m much more exhausted on Monday morning after two full days of being a mom. Being a full-time mom is definitely harder!
Do you go through mommy withdrawals, being away from your kids all day? I’m lucky to live only two blocks from my office, so I run home any time I have a spare moment, see my kids, and then return to work. It’s never easy balancing both, but my time with my kids is so fulfilling that it’s worth it. Spending time together as a family throughout the day also means I’m not always feeling drained when I’m with them. Each morning we sit down as a family for breakfast, and on Wednesdays Arabella comes to my office for a lunch date (soon Joseph will join her!). It’s my weekly working lunch appointment, and it’s the best part of the day.
Is it possible to keep your home life off your mind while you’re at work and vice versa?
It took time for me to adjust and learn to let go of the guilt I initially felt. But I realized that having a fulfilling career makes me a better wife and mother, so I’m present at the office and I work hard knowing that at the end of the day I get to go home to my family. Nothing makes you more efficient than having children!
What’s your multi-tasking style tip for going from mommy to executive?
Accessorize. Making an outfit transitional is all about having the right accents, whether it’s beautiful statement jewelry, a scarf, or great shoes. Have fun with it!
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Zipping through your work to-do list so you can get home at a reasonable hour is even more important when you become a mom—after all, you’ve got that cute little moon face waiting to see you! It can be challenging to juggle your home life and your family life as a new mom. For an upcoming story in American Baby, we want to know how you balance it all (or try to!), so we can help make your life a bit easier. Please take two minutes to answer this survey. Your answers will help us with a stress-easing article in an upcoming issue. Thanks, Mama!
Today, one of my best friends embarks on a new adventure. After spending nearly two decades in a high-powered Wall Street career, she’s starting her own business. She’s hoping to achieve a new kind of success, one that includes plenty of quality time with her kids.
She was the last holdout among our group of friends—the last one with traditional, benefits and 401K kind of career. Every single one of the seven women who started our book club nearly a decade ago has dropped out of the corporate life to forge a new, more flexible career.
I left my fancy-office and expense-account editorial job six months after I became a mom, tired of the political intrigue of the office and too many nights where I didn’t get to kiss my baby good night. And as kids came into the picture, more and more of us grew tired of a dictated 9 to 6 (or in my friend’s case, often 6 a.m. to 9 p.m.) schedule, of missing out on preschool parties and arguing with our mates over who was taking the day off to tend to a croupy kid. And so, one by one, we bought into the 21st-century version of having it all—sacrificing job stability and benefits for the greater flexibility and autonomy that freelancing provides. We are now all guns for hire—a TV producer, a writer/editor, a personal chef/caterer, a grants writer, a content strategist, an instructor and now, a corporate communications consultant. (By the way, this isn’t just a “mom” thing—even our childless-by-choice member ditched the corporate career a few years back.)
I think we all finally realized that all that time we were sacrificing in pursuit of our ambitions wasn’t necessarily going to pay off the way we hoped. In fact, Forbes columnist Meghan Casserly pointed out that women are often are viewed as workers who value their home lives more than their work. “To prove this notion wrong, women often feel compelled to demonstrate their commitment to the extreme.” And what comes of that extra time we were putting in, to the detriment of our families? Often, nothing more than exhaustion and burnout. It’s no wonder that Forbes reports that nearly a third of women who graduate from the Harvard MBA program drop out of corporate work within 15 years of graduation. (Most of them, because of the inability to get a good work-life balance during their kids’ formative years.)
New York Times columnist Paul Krugman had an interesting post last week, about the work-life balance we lost in the decades as women entered the workforce. While in countries like France, more women in the workforce has meant that everyone’s working fewer hours and enjoying more vacation and time with the family, here in the U.S., it’s just meant that everyone’s working more hours outside the home. And more hours of work means fewer hours for living—less time for the day-to-day drudgery of cleaning and cooking and caring for our families, and much less time to squeeze in something fun with our kids, as fellow Parents.com blogger Nick Shell pointed out yesterday. Somehow, I don’t think that’s what the previous generation of feminists was aiming for when they wanted us to have it all.
I’m thankful that I have a supportive spouse (with some excellent health insurance), a person who believed in me and my talent enough to gamble our financial security on a dream of greater flexibility. And it paid off in spades—as I’ve been even more successful as a freelancer than I was as a full-time editor, and I still get to slip away on occasion to read to my daughter’s kindergarten class. But sometimes I wish I had simply pushed for greater flexibility and kept the stability of that full-time gig. Because if so many of us simply drop out instead of pushing for the changes that will make work-life balance better for everyone, it isn’t going to happen.
So today, I’m celebrating with my friend. But I’m keeping an eye on what our choices may mean for our sons and daughters tomorrow.
Mothers who want to breastfeed their children at work find that office spaces are rarely conducive to privacy and support. To make it easier for mothers to transition back to the workplace while maintaining a bond with their babies, the White House Council on Women and Girls announced yesterday that new efforts will be made to support the Affordable Care Act.
The White House would like to encourage companies to support breastfeeding moms because the benefits of breastfeeding include increased workplace productivity, increased company brand reputation and recruitment, increased health benefits for mom and baby (reduced risk of infection, breast cancer, obesity, diabetes, etc.), decreased absenteeism and employee turnover, and increased cost savings on company healthcare.
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As parents, it’s inevitable that you love your kids and want to spend a lot of quality time with them. However, spending every waking moment with your kids may not be the best thing for you or your kids.
The Wall Street Journal believes “intense parenting comes with a cost.” Based on recent research from a Focus on Workplace Flexibility conference, the percentage of parents (especially dads) spending time with their kids have increased dramatically since the 1960s. However, the percentage of parents multitasking has also increased, which means that even as parents are spending more physical time with their kids, quality time is lacking.
Some parents are giving up important healthy rituals such as regular sleep, grooming, planning and cooking meals, cleaning, exercise, and leisure time with the spouse. As parents multitask and split their attention, they feel increased stress, frustration, and irritation.
By sacrificing certain things for their kids, parents are losing focus on themselves to relax, breathe, and recharge. Parents are becoming more distracted and distant.
As parents, do you multitask when you’re with the kids or do you focus your entire attention on them? Do you take time to reboot on your own or with your spouse?
Though we may picture child stars in our minds as forever children, stuck at whatever age we watched them in our living rooms on TV, it goes without saying that they move on, even if we don’t. Today we’re using that most obvious of observations to talk about Mayim Bialik, a.ka. Blossom from the NBC sitcom of that name.
Blossom, I mean Mayim, went on from her early ’90s sitcom fame to earn a doctorate in neuroscience. Let’s pause a moment to reflect on that: childhood sitcom star earns a PhD. In neuroscience. Really.
Now Mayim is back to acting, which she decided would actually give her an easier time as a mom than the life of a professional scientist wedded, as it were, to her research. She’s now appearing as a regular on the popular and hilarious sitcom “The Big Bang Theory.” I’m sure she’s the only one on set who actually gets the geeky science jokes she and the other actors spew.
But we’re really talking about Mayim today because she’s also a mom, of two young boys, and is blogging about the experience for Kveller.com, a new Jewish parenting website that launched a couple of weeks ago. (Full disclosure: Kveller is run by a website for which I worked in the past as editor-in-chief, and I am on its advisory committee.) (more…)