Monday, January 31st, 2011
Should a child be banned from preschool for having too many potty accidents?
At a preschool in Arlington, VA, a 3-year-old named Zoe was recently suspended for failing to comply with the school’s potty training policy. Even though Zoe had already been potty trained, the new preschool schedule changed Zoe’s potty dynamics. Since she began having too many accidents in a short amount of time at preschool, she was reproached by the school and asked to leave for one month. Eventually, her mom found another preschool (one without a potty training policy) willing to enroll Zoe, and she has not had any accidents since starting her new preschool.
News about this suspension worries parents who are already feeling the pressure to speed up their children’s education from an early age, from enrolling toddlers in sports to getting preschoolers to read chapter books. Since some preschools now accept only students who will be less hands-on in the potty department, parents are feeling the need to potty train their kids even if they’re not ready for it. There is also a social stigma that if a child is falling behind in developing certain behavioral or language skills, the child is delaying his achievements.
However, as expert Elizabeth Page pointed out in The Washington Post, potty training is considered a motor skill that depends on a child’s own pace, much like other milestones such as walking, talking, and reading. Adults shouldn’t force kids to potty train before they are ready or shame and embarass them if they aren’t progressing as fast as other children. Potty training can take time and even those who are potty trained could still have accidents. In short, children should be allowed to progress on their own terms to potty training success.
Get potty training tips on Parents.com:
- 20 Best-Ever Potty Training Tips
- 10 Things to Know About Potty Training
- Potty Training Problems and Solutions
As a parent, are you worried about potty training your child? What potty training techniques and tips would you recommend?