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Rosie to the Rescue: The “Choice” To Work Or Not

Friday, May 24th, 2013

Rosie Pope

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I met a woman today who was beginning her last day of work. Her son had just turned 11 months old, and she had decided that her job just wasn’t flexible enough for the work-life balance she wanted with her child. So after almost a year of angst, she decided to take the leap and put her successful career on hold.

I know a lot of women, and increasingly more men, who have made this decision, often to their surprise, after going back to work once their babies were born. I thought for a moment about what it would be like to decide not to work any more and to stay home with my three babies.

And that’s when it hit me, surprisingly for the first time! I realized just how impossible that would be for me and, I imagine, for so many of you. I can just imagine walking into our HQ and into my husband’s office (yes, we work together), sitting on the couch, and saying, “Honey, today is my last day.” Aside from immediately pouring himself a stiff drink, he would also have to find my doppelganger—not an easy feat considering I may be the palest person to have ever walked the planet!

But in all seriousness, our company is still very much at the point where I need to continue working at it, and my kids rely on it for their livelihoods. If I am completely honest with myself, though, the lack of choice made me panic, and, in that moment, I felt more trapped than I have ever before. Until I remembered… I actually enjoy my job and feel so blessed to be able to do what I do. (Not to mention the look of complete panic on my husband’s face when I threw the idea around the office in jest!)

But what about all the men and women who don’t enjoy their jobs and can’t make the choice to stay home for financial or other reasons? I started to feel trapped and panicked for all of them. It is not that either staying at home or working is better; it is simply that we’d all hope to be able to make that choice for ourselves and our families freely and not because of reasons like dollars and cents.

I meet many moms and dads who struggle with this; yet, I am often humbled by the businesses these individuals have started that allow them to work from home, or the ingenious ways they have structured their schedules to try to fit everything in. It is important, though, to know this goes both ways: There are stay-at-home moms who want to go back to work, just as there are working moms who want to stay home. The sad truth is that the choice is just not always there.

While I’m not in the position to choose not to work, it is my goal that all my hard work will mean that my daughter and sons will be able to have the choice to work or not when they get to be parents themselves one day. Working in part for “choice” (because I love what I do) and in part for my children relieves my panic. Being able to make a change for the better and for those that you love is empowering, and so, perhaps for a moment, I’ll stop freaking out!

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Parents Daily News Roundup

Monday, May 21st, 2012

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Cost of Children’s Health Care Hitting Families Harder
A child’s chronic illness can strain a family emotionally and financially — and children represent the fastest growing health care spending group in America, according to a new report.

Diabetes on the Rise Among Teenagers
A study found a sharp increase in the disease’s prevalence among teens, adding to worries that diabetes may progress more rapidly in children than in adults.

Fewer Girls Completing All Three HPV Shots: Study
Among girls and women who get their first human papillomavirus, or HPV, vaccine, the percent who complete all three doses is dropping, according to a new study.

Stay-at-Home Moms More Depressed than Working Moms, Study Finds
A Gallup survey of 60,000 women found that stay-at-home moms are more likely to have felt depression, sadness, anger and worry than working mothers.

Texas Sextuplets Improving, 3 Breathing on Own
A hospital official says three of the premature sextuplets born last month in Houston are now breathing on their own.

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Parents Daily News Roundup

Wednesday, December 14th, 2011

Goody Blog Daily News Roundup

Child Care Subsidies Drop When Families Need Them Most
Federal and state subsidies have taken a hit from budget cuts, forcing parents to find other arrangements to stay employed.

Getting Kids to Eat Veggies Can be Sticky Business
Researchers found that when parents gave their 3- and 4-year-olds a sticker each time they took a “tiny taste” of a disliked vegetable, it gradually changed the preschoolers’ attitude.

ADHD Drugs Safe for Adults’ Hearts, Research Finds
Ritalin and other drugs used to treat attention deficit disorder are safe for adults’ hearts, even though they can increase blood pressure and heart rate, according to the largest study of these medicines in adults.

More Women in Combat Means More Mothers with PTSD
With more female troops in combat, there has been an increase in PTSD diagnoses: One in five female veterans suffer from PTSD, according to the VA.

Mom’s Hug Revives Baby that Was Pronounced Dead
After being told her newborn son was dead, mother Kate Ogg was able to cuddle and caress her baby’s limp body back to life, astonishing doctors.

Why Working Mothers Are Happier and Healthier Than Stay-at-Home Moms
Despite the juggling act required to hold down a job and care for children, moms who work report they’re healthier and happier than moms who stay at home when their kids are babies and preschoolers.

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Parents Daily News Roundup

Wednesday, August 24th, 2011

Goody Blog Daily News Roundup

After Stillbirth, Courts Try to Put a Price on a Mother’s Anguish
These two cases are among the first to move through the legal system after New York’s highest court changed state law in 2004 and allowed mothers to sue for their emotional suffering when they claim that medical carelessness caused a stillbirth.

For sleeping babies, softer isn’t safer
Lots of African American moms put soft bedding such as pillows and blankets where babies sleep, despite warnings that the cushioning increases the risk of infant death, according to a new study.

Parents falling behind on saving for kids’ college
More parents are saving for their kids’ college educations before the youngsters even hit kindergarten. But between the pressures of a stalling economy and the ever-rising cost of higher education, those savings will cover just a fraction of the cost of a four-year degree, according to a new Fidelity Investments study.

Toddlers Understand Complex Grammar, Study Shows
New research suggests that even before 2-year-olds speak in full sentences, they are able to understand grammatical construction and use it to make sense of what they hear.

Stay at home moms more depressed?
A University of Washington study finds that working moms are less likely to be depressed than stay-at-home moms.

Writing problems common in children with ADHD
Children with attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) are more likely to have writing problems such as poor spelling and grammar than their peers, according to a study.

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Daily News Roundup

Friday, January 7th, 2011

Goody Blog Daily News RoundupNew look at study shows facts linking MMR vaccine to autism may be altered
Consider that from A British study linking autism to childhood vaccines is reportedly a fraud. According to the British Medical Journal, Dr. Andrew Wakefield altered information in the 1998 study. Unfortuantely, the scare is still very real to some families. More cases of measles and mumps have been reported in the last 10 years, than any other year since 1997. Dr. Katherine Burns is a developmental pediatrician for UAMS. She says after Dr. Andrew Wakefield’s false study in 1998 linking autism and vaccines — parents have been unnecessarily cautious before vaccinating their children. (Today’s THV)

Regrets of a stay-at-home mom
We had wonderful times together, my sons and I. The parks. The beaches. The swing set moments when I would realize, watching the boys swoop back and forth, that someday these afternoons would seem to have rushed past in nanoseconds, and I would pause, mid-push, to savor the experience while it lasted. Now I lie awake at 3 a.m., terrified that as a result I am permanently financially screwed. As of my divorce last year, I’m the single mother of two almost-men whose taste for playgrounds has been replaced by one for high-end consumer products and who will be, in a few more nanoseconds, ready for college. (Salon.com)

China: Pollution in China: Hundreds of children poisoned by lead
A factory in the eastern province of Anhui operated illegally for years a few feet away from homes. In 2010 they nine cases of lead pollution were officially recorded. The government is in trouble, as evidenced by the conviction of the activist who exposed the scandal of melamine-tainted milk. (Speroforum.com)
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