Should a child be banned from preschool for having too many potty accidents?
At a preschool in Arlington, VA, a 3-year-old named Zoe was recently suspended for failing to comply with the school’s potty training policy. Even though Zoe had already been potty trained, the new preschool schedule changed Zoe’s potty dynamics. Since she began having too many accidents in a short amount of time at preschool, she was reproached by the school and asked to leave for one month. Eventually, her mom found another preschool (one without a potty training policy) willing to enroll Zoe, and she has not had any accidents since starting her new preschool.
News about this suspension worries parents who are already feeling the pressure to speed up their children’s education from an early age, from enrolling toddlers in sports to getting preschoolers to read chapter books. Since some preschools now accept only students who will be less hands-on in the potty department, parents are feeling the need to potty train their kids even if they’re not ready for it. There is also a social stigma that if a child is falling behind in developing certain behavioral or language skills, the child is delaying his achievements.
However, as expert Elizabeth Page pointed out in The Washington Post, potty training is considered a motor skill that depends on a child’s own pace, much like other milestones such as walking, talking, and reading. Adults shouldn’t force kids to potty train before they are ready or shame and embarass them if they aren’t progressing as fast as other children. Potty training can take time and even those who are potty trained could still have accidents. In short, children should be allowed to progress on their own terms to potty training success.
Below is a clip from Monday’s segment of the ”Today Show” in New York City, where Cheryl and her son (Dyson, now 5-years-old) speak about the importance of acceptance, inclusion, and embracing every child’s uniqueness. Plus, stay tuned for our own upcoming interview with Cheryl Kilodavis!
A hot debate is brewing among parents and among our readers: Would you let your little boy dress in girls’ clothing?
Cheryl Kilodavis is the mother of a 4-year-old boy who loves wearing sparkly and pink dresses, skirts, tiaras, and jewelry. She wrote and self-published a children’s picture book titled “My Princess Boy,” based on her son, to create a dialogue about traditional gender roles, acceptance of differences, and unique self-expression. Another mom named Sarah blogged about her son’s choice to wear a “female” Halloween costume.
As an educator with a master’s degree in education, a former preschool teacher of 7 years, and a mother to a toddler, it is perfectly normal for a child to play in a way that may not be classified as “gender appropriate.” Children learn the most by playing with other children, especially in the early years…It is all part of their development. Pretend play is a good way for children to model behaviors they see in their world. - Tracy Seng Wren
I do not approve or encourage my son to dress like a girl or act effeminate. As a father, my role is to teach him the appropriate male gender roles. I would have no problem with my son cooking, helping with household chores, etc. There is a big difference with that and a boy dressing up as a girl. - Jose Tadeo
What do you think? Take our poll below and read more comments after the jump.
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What if your child was—literally—too big to attend school?
A 3-year-old boy in the Guangzhou region of southern China was banned from the preschool he was attending for being a “health hazard” to other children. Despite being named Xiao Hao (“xiao” means “small” in Mandarin Chinese), there is nothing small about the boy—he weighs a whopping 140 lbs., nearly five times more than the average preschooler, making him the tallest and heaviest kid in his class and in the world.
Xiao Hao’s parents were able to find another preschool willing to let their son attend. They are also seeking medical help for their son to maintain good physical and heart health. Some doctors believe Xiao Hao may have a growth hormone disorder that is causing him to increase at an unusual rate. Others believe he is the sad result of “Little Emperor Syndrome,” when parents and relatives overindulge their kids as a result of China’s one-child policy.
Do you think it was right for the school to ban Xiao Hao? Would you let your child attend school with him?