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Rosie to the Rescue: How to Keep the Love Alive

Thursday, February 7th, 2013

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Okay, so I am going to be bold and write about something that, to be completely honest, makes me a little embarrassed! I am British, after all, and we tend to be a bit awkward about these things. But then again, I don’t think most of us find this subject easy. Not until we’ve had a glass or three of wine any way!

But, with Valentine’s Day just around the corner, I thought it apt to address the subject of keeping that spark alive (hope my parents aren’t reading this!). As uncomfortable as it may make us to talk about it, it’s extremely important in a relationship, and our relationships affect both how happy we and of course our children are.

It is undeniable that over time, no matter how in love a couple is, keeping the flame alive can be difficult, at least on a regular basis: kids in the bed, the sound of a baby cooing (or crying) on the monitor, total exhaustion…. Sound familiar? It takes–dare I say it?–work to muster up the energy or even find the time. But when you do, and the more you do, the easier it becomes and the more you enjoy it. It’s sort of like exercise (actually, it is exercise: bonus!), and well, practice makes perfect.

There are two easy, great tricks I want to share that you can implement immediately, at zero dollars and don’t involve rushing out to buy some crazy lingerie, chocolate-covered strawberries, or some bizarre accessories.

1. Don’t wait for everything to be perfect. Waiting for this amazing moment when the romantic stars align is just not going to happen. So pick a moment, any moment the kids are in bed, and go with it, sweatpants and all.

2. Remind yourself of your love story. Every couple has one, even if it was a long time ago. Tell yourself that story on your way home, whether it is the moment you met, your first date, your honeymoon. I promise it will make you smile and when you walk through that door or when he does, you’ll look at him with sparks again.

Dedicate yourself to these two easy steps and this Valentine’s Day will be one to remember. Even if you can’t get a babysitter and you’re not out at some fancy dinner, you’ll be off to a very romantic 2013!

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Rosie to the Rescue: What Will Kate Middleton Name the Baby?

Thursday, January 31st, 2013

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Now that Princess Kate is into her second trimester, it’s only natural that England (and the world) is abuzz with the burning question, “What will the baby be called?” Well, if I may I’d like to shed a little light on the royal way of naming, so that you can make your own call!

The Royal Family tend to have multiple names. Prince William alone has four: William Arthur Philip Louis. They also tend towards traditional names, especially those of successful monarchs. Elizabeth and Victoria were both extremely strong and successful, as were Arthur and William. Less likely to make the cut would be Henry, considering King Henry famously married six times–and beheaded two wives. As for nontraditional names, only Princess Anne’s son (Prince William’s cousin) has gone that route, with Savannah and Isla.

To avoid confusion, the royals tend not to use the name of any living monarch. And while Diana is a possibility, her family name Spencer is not! (From the royals’ perspective, the extended Spencer clan has been nothing but trouble.) One good possibility is Louis, as Lord Louis Mountbatten was a close relative of the Queen’s and a favorite of Prince Charles. He was killed by the IRA, and William may choose to honor him. Finally, Kate’s family names are unlikely to be picked for this first baby in line for the throne, but may indeed be possibilities for subsequent siblings.

If I was a betting lady, I would put George and Louis at the top of my boy list, and Victoria or Carole at the top of my girl’s. British bookies have made some picks for Kate and Wills’s firstborn–see their choices below.

P.S. I love that they included Princess Waynetta as a possibility, even if it’s got 1000 to 1 odds!

10 to 1 odds:
Diana, Victoria; George

16 to 1 odds:
Anne, Frances; Louis, Richard

20 to 1 odds:
Grace, Mary; Edward, Henry, James, Peter, Spencer

25 to 1 odds:
Alice, Sarah, Catherine; Andrew, William

33 to 1 odds:
Alexandra, Amelia, Beatrice, Carole, Charlotte, Margaret, Marie, Philippa, Sophia; Michael, David, Alexander, Stephen, Thomas

50 to 1 odds:
Caroline, Jane; Christian, Oliver, Rupert, Bradley

1000 to 1 odds:

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Rosie to the Rescue: Why I Won’t Tell My Kids About Sandy Hook

Tuesday, December 18th, 2012

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It’s hard to think of much else this week other than this terrible tragedy at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, CT. I’ve struggled to make sense of it, and at the same time wondered how or what to tell my young children in these times, if indeed they should be told anything. I am torn between trying not to think about it, and then forcing myself to in some way pay respect to all who fell victim that terrible day. I am sure you are struggling with the same things.

I have not told my children about this tragedy. My oldest is only 4.

I remember as a child hearing of a plane crash and being terrified of flying. I asked my dad to promise me that the plane we were on would not crash. Even at that young age, part of me knew he could not truthfully promise such a thing, but as my dad, my protector, that didn’t matter. As long as I could hear him utter the words that it was safe to fly, I could believe in them. I still do.

A very wise woman, who I respect endlessly, told me, “Keep this tragedy from our young children. Do not carelessly leave newspapers lying around, do not leave the TV on, and tell all caregivers not to speak of this in front of them.” Our little ones, between ages two and five, need to know they are safe, even when we are not always sure ourselves how true that is. They do not need to know of this unspeakable act; their worlds need to be warm and fuzzy, full of love and comfort.

If my four-year-old hears about what happened at Sandy Hook Elementary, I will do the same thing my dad did. I will promise my son he has nothing to fear and that he is safe. That this terrible thing happened, but everyone is doing all that they can to make sure it never happens again, and he has nothing to fear.

Hold your children close to you, and let’s stand together to try and make sure a tragedy like this never does happen again. So we can be sure that when we talk to our children, there is no longer a reason to lie.

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Rosie to the Rescue: How I Solved My Son’s Food Fears

Thursday, December 13th, 2012

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My three children eat very differently: One boy eats anything he can lay his hands on, the other: not so much. At one point he had pasta and butter with cheese on the side (on-the-side was very important) for almost every meal! And well, my youngest is just not that pleased that I am trying to feed her pureed fruits and veggies. She is much more of a milk girl, at least this week!

With all of them, though, I’ve followed the same philosophy of introducing good foods, wholesome and varied, making sure to give a rainbow assortment at each meal starting around their first birthday. But I’ve found that just like adults, children have different taste buds and are exercising boundaries at different times. What’s important to remember is that while food and children can sometimes be tricky, I don’t know a single adult who only drinks milk, or has never allowed anything other than buttered noodles to touch her lips! The key is patience, constantly trying new things (even if it doesn’t work), not making meal times stressful, and setting good food examples yourself (yes I am guilty of sneaking a little candy behind the cupboard door every now and then!).

I want to tell you a personal story when a few months ago my son started refusing to eat lunch at school. He was visibly upset and would cry when the teachers or I would encourage him to eat. We tried everything, even allowing him to choose things for lunch I could never in my wildest imagination have imagined giving to him. Frankly, I was desperate and just wanted him to eat something. And he still didn’t eat it. This was clearly not about food.

What worked for my son, who is 4, was to finally explain why we eat food, and what happens if we don’t. I didn’t sugarcoat it: I explained how sick we get when we don’t eat or drink fluids. That we end up in the hospital. And how fortunate we are to be able to have all the food and drink we need. To be so honest–and in a way, dark–was not easy, but it worked. It opened my son up to talk about what was really going on: He was afraid of the classroom in which they were eating lunch. But, he didn’t want to get sick. Bit by bit he started eating a little more. And week by week I swapped out the unspeakable lunch items that I had given him with much more wholesome options. I also gave him some control by saying, “If you eat your lunch and therefore have energy, you can stay up 30 minutes later at night. If you don’t, you must sleep earlier to get that energy.”

I’m not saying this will work for you as this was such a specific problem, or that the many ideas out there will work for everyone, from hiding foods in scrumptious recipes, to standing firm and only allowing your kids to eat what you eat. But what I am saying is if it seems your child is really trying to cut out so many foods and making so many demands–rather than simply not liking peas–maybe consider if something else is going on. And work with him. Food is often one of the few ways kids can assert control over adults, and they will begin to do it in a situation in which they might feel out of control (in my son’s case, the big new scary classroom, with new kids).

You know by now I am big on communication with your kids. They understand much more than we can ever imagine, and just as our environment affects our eating, so does theirs.

In a society so full of eating problems, I encourage you to set good examples for your children. Just because your child knows when you’ve tried to hide the broccoli in that muffin, don’t give up!

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Rosie to the Rescue: What Kind of Mom Will Kate Middleton Be?

Thursday, December 6th, 2012

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With all the royal baby fever, I can hardly control myself. Or think about anything else, for that matter!

There are so many questions buzzing, from of course what Kate will wear, to what type of parents she and the dad-to-be will be to this child, girl or boy, who will be third in line to the throne after William.

Traditionally, the royal family has practiced a very hands-off parenting style. Attachment Parenting is certainly not what comes to mind! The Queen notoriously didn’t visit Prince Charles in hospital when he was admitted with appendicitis as a child. And there are countless other tales about the distance between the Queen and her children, not to mention her questionable involvement in choosing for Prince Charles his wife Diana, rather than validating his love for Camilla–prioritizing a union she thought was right for the crown, not the heart.

As fate would have it, Princess Diana ended up changing the face of royal parenting with a very hands-on approach, which at that time surprised the nation, and exposed what we all came to love about Diana: her loving and nurturing nature.

I am sure Kate (and William) will be far more like Diana than the Queen in her parenting style. However, Kate will be a working mom, and will have to juggle the balance between motherhood, a life under the media’s glare, and a heavy workload of public service both in the United Kingdom and around the world. While I wouldn’t dream of comparing her support team to what most mothers have access to, I am hoping to see her develop into a role model for balance. So far William and Kate seem to have prioritized their relationship; with the addition of a little one, I’m sure they will continue to put their family first. But as with so many of us, the necessity to work, whether for financial reasons or duty, in or out of the home, makes balance that much trickier. I am hoping she will be open and honest about it, and continues to be an inspiration to us all.

A new people’s princess? Only time will tell.

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Rosie to the Rescue: Moms, Let’s Not Be Gossip Girls!

Thursday, November 29th, 2012

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Whether you’ve become good friends with the parents of your child’s BFF, or you just make it work for the kids (you know what I’m talking about!), adult interactions during playdates can be tricky to navigate. While the kids are having fun, adult conversations can take an interesting turn, and we can forget that our children are potentially listening. (This doesn’t just happen on playdates, of course. Thanksgiving with extended family, anyone?)

I recently found myself at a playdate with a mom who shared her concerns about other kids our children play with. I noticed that my son was listening; we were, after all, talking about his friends. This got me thinking how often we potentially have inappropriate discussions around our kids, without even realizing it. It’s important to be more aware of what we say, as children can make assumptions or inferences that stay with them and can be damaging. I really want to encourage all of us to stamp out that alluring gossiping we can do when we get together during playdates, be active about the content of our discussions, and try and make them upbeat and not inappropriate. If you find yourself in a tricky situation just make a gesture to the kids, smile, and say “Let’s catch up about that later,” then swiftly change the topic. (“I love your shoes, by the way. Where did you get them?”)

After all, playdates and family gatherings should be fun for the kids, and you should never leave wondering whether little Joey heard you talking about his dad!

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Rosie to the Rescue: Making a Gingerbread House as Easy as 1-2-3

Thursday, November 15th, 2012

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As we start counting down the weeks before the holidays, a tradition in our household is to make a gingerbread house. The trick (and I am no Betty Crocker) is to let icing thoroughly dry before decorating every inch with candy. It’s not an easy feat to wait, I might add, as piling on the candy is without doubt the most fun part. The other trick is to support the gingerbread roof slabs with some homemade devices so they don’t slip. Ours usually involve empty yogurt pots, and some carefully placed Lego pieces!

Before you make the gingerbread house, draw one out on paper, and draw the different colors of candy on the house but make sure to do so in repetitive sequences. For example, red M+M, blue Skittle, green Nerd, and repeat. Do this all over the house and give this “blueprint” to your wee ones as a guide to follow. If they’re toddlers, picking out the right color will help with their vocabulary and grasp of color; if they’re of pre-school and kindergarten age, they can then carefully place the candy while learning about sequences. Make sure to let them create their own candy sequences also. If they’re a little older, let them design the gingerbread-house candy sequences themselves, and then implement them.

P.S. If you’d rather cut back on the candy, you can use dried and fresh cut-up fruits, which go nicely with the gingerbread flavor. You can also make your gingerbread houses from scratch, or buy a kit that comes with pre-made walls and roof. Either way, you get to combine tradition with candy (or fruit) and math! Simply perfect.

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Rosie to the Rescue: Get Your Baby to Sleep

Thursday, November 8th, 2012

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Sleeping through the night: four magical words any parent wants to be able to say about her child. However, they’re four words that seem so hard to achieve.

I think I get asked more sleep-related questions than other type. Sleep is something that makes us parents extremely anxious, not only because we want our wee ones to get enough sleep to help their development, but also so that we get enough Z’s and can be at our most functional, too. (BTW, I write this as I take another gulp of coffee, as we have not yet sleep-trained Vivienne!) Let’s face it, after months of a few hours of sleep a night, none of us are the best parents that we can be.

Still, a lot of parents, including me, have a very hard time doing what’s necessary to get our children to sleep through the night as early as we’d like, and that means doing some form of sleep training. Of course, you don’t have to sleep train, and maybe you have a sleep prodigy (lucky you!). But in my experience, a child won’t start sleeping through the night on his own accord truly, and that means approximately 7pm to 7am, until he’s well into his second year of life, and maybe much later than that. Teaching good sleep habits and the ability to self-sooth so that your baby can put himself to sleep, and fall back asleep if he wakes up in the middle of the night, is extremely important. And while I do find sleep training difficult, I make sure to do it and I am much happier (and so are my kids) for it. You’ve probably heard of the following options, and it’s up to you to decide what’s right for you:

  • Gradual Parent Removal Method/Chair Method: The parent puts the child in the crib awake, and sits in a chair close to the crib until he falls asleep. Over seven nights, the chair is moved further back until it’s no longer in the room and the child can self-sooth. You cannot engage with him while in the room.
  • Dr. Ferber’s Graduated Extinction Approach/The Progressive Approach: This basically involves putting the child in the crib awake and checking on him in regular intervals until he falls asleep, increasing the intervals each night for seven nights.
  • Dr. Weissbluth’s Extinction Method: The child is put in the crib awake and the parents don’t return until morning. This method takes around two to three nights.

I find the earliest possible time you can sleep train is at 4 months, if your baby weighs at least 14 pounds, and of course you have to first make sure that he’s eating enough during the day (24-32 oz milk) so that he doesn’t need milk during the night, which often means that sleep training occurs a little later.

I know people have mixed feeling about CIO but used in this setting for sleep, there really is no strong evidence that it harms our babies, and knowing that the “extinction” method only takes two to three nights, you could all be having sweet dreams sooner than you imagined. That being said, when we sleep train in our household, my husband has to sit on me, as it is not an easy thing to do.

Bottom line: Decide what is best for your family, and be consistent. Sweet dreams.

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