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Drew Barrymore’s Girl Power

Monday, May 5th, 2014

Drew Barrymore and daughter, OliveInterview by Patty Adams Martinez

Mom of daughters Olive, 20 months (pictured), and Frankie, born April 22, Drew Barrymore is vowing to have less anxiety and more patience. Sound familiar?

Is it different being cast in mom roles, like the one in Blended, out May 23, opposite Adam Sandler, now that you’re actually a mom?

It means more to me now; it’s more emotional, because I know what it feels like to have kids and to know that kind of unconditional love, which is such a powerful thing. And I like that this character isn’t perfect, because I don’t believe in perfection. But I do believe in growing and that’s why my favorite thing about being a mom is what a better person it makes you on a daily basis.

Are you worried about the princess phase, and what it means for your daughters’ body image and self-worth?

I’ll be the best role model I can be for my kids. I can’t wait to show them my [1998] movie Ever After, so they can see that they can be a princess and still save themselves. They don’t need a prince for that! As far as body image goes, sure I’d love to have long,  thin legs—but I don’t. Instead I have the legs of a corgi or a dachshund! And I feel like bikini season is probably my worst nightmare, but I think it’s more about having a sense of humor about it and an acceptance of who you are. I’m ready to teach my girls what I learned early on in life—that insecurity and jealousy are the two biggest wastes of time on the planet.

Well said! Is there anything that scares you about having two children under 2?

How overwhelming it could be! But I love that they’ll be 19 months apart. I would have loved a sibling more than anything in the world when I was growing up—more than parents—so I think that’s why I got right on having kids plural because I wanted them to have each other. I’ve idealized that sort of partnership my whole life.

What mistakes did you make with Olive that you’ve vowed to never make again?

I was too uptight! Numerous people have told me you chill out a bit more per kid. I really hope that’s true! I was a stress case with Olive—having the worst visions of everything that could go wrong and worrying nonstop. But I don’t want my children to pick up on that stress. I want to provide them with a fun, silly, loving, consistent upbringing.

Now that you’re a parenting pro, what’s your best advice for a first-time mom on how to get her baby to sleep through the night?

I am extremely fanatical about sleep training. If you stick to a schedule very diligently and have naps, bathtime, and bedtime at the same times every day, you will get your child to sleep through the night very early on. Olive is down to one nap from 12 to 2 p.m., dinner is always at 5 p.m., and her bath is at 6 p.m., followed by bedtime. But it’s really hard. It’s not like free-hippie-love parenting, letting the baby sleep on my chest at the wrong hour, and being so easygoing and la, la, la. It’s a weird sort of military precision, and I’m driving home like a crazy person to meet the naptime, and living and breathing by the schedule. So it is a little harsh and panic-inducing, but I found it so effective.

And how do you handle tantrums in your house?

I got this fortune in a fortune cookie after pigging out on Chinese food about a year ago and I saved it in my wallet. In essence, it just said patience is the most rewarding thing in the world to those around you—and to yourself. So I just relax and try so hard to be there for her and not lose my patience, because I’ve realized if she freaks out and she doesn’t feel my anxiety, frustration, or listlessness, we can coast through it together, and it’s over before you know it. It’s easier said than done, but it works!

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