Wednesday, March 9th, 2011
When photos surfaced this week of almost-5-year-old Suri Cruise out and about with a pacifier in her mouth, some on the media wasted no time wagging their virtual fingers at her rich and famous parents, Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise. I, of course, am above such judgmental behavior. Or more accurately, I feel for them rather than judge them. We parents all know how difficult it can be to negotiate such things with our kids, and how often we find ourselves making compromises—or making peace—with things we wish we didn’t have to accept.
That said, I am not above offering some friendly advice to Katie and Tom, because really, guys, it is time to pull the plug on the binky. From my own experience, I can say definitively that bribery works. You just need to hit on the right bribe. Perhaps young Suri is so pampered that there is nothing they can dangle as a goodbye-pacifier prize, but surely there is some reward they can conjure up for the little one.
Our daughter Adira, for all her attempts to be fully self-sufficient and grown up, was still addicted to her pacifier at 3-and-a-half years old. With a new baby (and therefore new pacifiers and older-sibling regression) on the way, we felt urgency to get her to give it up, but no amount of reasoning, encouraging, discussing, cajoling, and even bribing was working. She was thrilled at the idea of having a party and getting a coveted new scooter when she gave up her beloved pacifiers, but not thrilled enough to actually take the plunge. We were at a standstill. (more…)Add a Comment