Who says a Mother’s Day gift has to be expensive? There are other sweet, thoughtful, and heartfelt ideas moms will surely love. If it’s your family’s first time celebrating, here is a dad’s guide to making her Mother’s Day special. Below are some ideas that will make this year extra memorable.
Treat mom to some maid service by hiring Maid Brigade to help clean the home. Maid Brigade has 25 years of experience and is Green Clean Certified®, which means they use safe, environmentally-friendly cleaning products that won’t be harsh for the home or for your family’s health.
The Great Remember will dispatch photographers to a customer’s home to take high-resolution photos of artwork for mosaics. For textured appliqués, customers will need to send clothes by mail while for lockets, customers will need to send digital photos. Customers can also email their child’s favorite quote or saying to have it stitched into a handcrafted heart grid to be mounted on a mahogany shadowbox.
Prices for these truly unique gifts start at $99. Place orders by Monday, April 25 to ensure delivery by Mother’s Day.
Just about every major media outlet has covered this so-called “mean mom” and (no surprise here), the “Battle Hymn” memoir is ranked #4 on the Amazon.com Top 100 list and #1 on the memoir and biography lists.
This past weekend, a friend (who is Chinese) sent me a link and I read, with a mixture of horror, amusement, disbelief, and slight agreement, the Wall Street Journal article by Amy Chua, “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior.”
Being Chinese myself (and not even an American-Born Chinese or ABC), I wish I could tell you scary stories of what it was like growing up with an exacting, overbearing, and terrifying Chinese mother who would verbally beat me into submission. Except, believe it or not, I don’t have any. Growing up, I attended sleepovers and had play dates, watched TV, chose my own extracurriculars (including theater, but I didn’t act), rarely got grades less an an A (until college), and never played the violin (piano, yes, though I was far from being Lang Lang).
However, I did have Chinese friends with mothers like Amy Chua – and, those friends did excel better than me and also went on to Ivy Leagues, but some of those friends also grew up crying, feeling inadequate, and believing parental love and approval came with straight As. They extinguished their creative and artistic sides and prepared for life-long careers in medicine, engineering, and law. Over 147, 718 people (presumably Asians), including some of my friends, have shared Chua’s story on Facebook—and most of the comments have been the same: they remember what it was like growing up feeling criticized, never good enough, and uncertain whether the paths they chose was what they really wanted.
Amy Chua would probably say my parents became too Westernized when they moved to America and didn’t try hard enough. My own parents would probably be considered hippie Chinese parents even though they aren’t familiar with the term “hippie.” My parents never once yelled at me or called me “stupid, “worthless,” or “garbage.” They let me pull out of Chinese school when I refused to go and they encouraged my love for reading, art, and writing. As Patty Chang wrote on Huffington Post, not all children are the same so they can’t all be force-fed the same parenting style.
While milk sharing is an age-old practice dating back to the days of “wet nurses,” it’s recently been given a very modernized twist, thanks to social media. Specifically, a popular new Facebook network established just a few weeks ago by a group of determined breastfeeding mothers looking to take milk matters into their own hands.
It all started with Shell Walker, an Arizona mid-wife who realized her social media account could provide an incredible and immediate resource for matching mothers unable to produce enough breast milk to those willing to donate their extra supply. Currently, it’s extremely difficult for families to access breast milk from milk banks unless a child is premature or very ill, and on top of that, it can cost upwards of $100 per day. Walker’s Eats On Feets page provided a creative work-around to these roadblocks.
According to a recent article on Time.com, “In just a few weeks the network has grown to 98 local groups, spanning all 50 states in the U.S. and 22 countries. More than 70 matches have been reported so far, with milk coming not only in bags and jars, but also sometimes directly from the source.” While informal milk sharing is a highly debated topic given present day stigmas and concerns regarding HIV, the Time article does report that “the World Health Organization recommends ‘raw’ donor milk if a mother’s own supply won’t suffice.”
This is an interesting example of how social media can lift restraints and provide a choice. What do you think about the Eats On Feets program? Would you consider getting involved in something like this?
In honor of Mother’s Day, I had to share this site that I’m loving. Women ONE2ONE , a campaign which is aimed at saving the lives and increasing the opportunity of women who live in extreme poverty, is giving everyone the chance to explain–in six words–why moms matter. Check out the lovely mini memoirs that people have come up with, and write your own six-word submission.