Who says a Mother’s Day gift has to be expensive? There are other sweet, thoughtful, and heartfelt ideas moms will surely love. If it’s your family’s first time celebrating, here is a dad’s guide to making her Mother’s Day special. Below are some ideas that will make this year extra memorable.
Treat mom to some maid service by hiring Maid Brigade to help clean the home. Maid Brigade has 25 years of experience and is Green Clean Certified®, which means they use safe, environmentally-friendly cleaning products that won’t be harsh for the home or for your family’s health.
The Great Remember will dispatch photographers to a customer’s home to take high-resolution photos of artwork for mosaics. For textured appliqués, customers will need to send clothes by mail while for lockets, customers will need to send digital photos. Customers can also email their child’s favorite quote or saying to have it stitched into a handcrafted heart grid to be mounted on a mahogany shadowbox.
Prices for these truly unique gifts start at $99. Place orders by Monday, April 25 to ensure delivery by Mother’s Day.
Should a parent be locked up for lying to enroll her children in a better school system? The Ohio jury who found Kelly Williams-Bolar guilty of doing just that certainly thinks so. After listing her father’s ritzy Copely-Fairlawn address instead of her own in Akron on school registration and free lunch forms, the single mom was sentenced to 10 days in jail, reports the Akron Beacon-Journal. She was convicted on January 18 of two felony counts of tampering with records and given two years probation and 80 hours of community service, states her hometown newspaper.
Williams-Bolar, a teaching assistant for special-needs children, was released this week after serving all but one day of her sentence. According to Beacon Journal columnist, Bob Dyer, she is currently a few credits short of her teaching degree— a dream that will now go unrealized as she’s considered a felon in the state (and thereby prohibited from gaining employment within a school district).
Dyer, a resident of Copely-Fairlawn, elaborates: ”Williams-Bolar had no criminal record. She was working in a city school as a teacher’s assistant — helping special-ed kids…and when she wasn’t at work, she was working to better herself, taking education courses at UA…Still, do we really want to employ teachers who steal tax dollars from schools? Some folks have questioned whether she truly set out to deceive…What is indisputable is that she knowingly ripped off taxpayers for two years.”
While many argue that Williams-Bolar simply wanted what was best for her two daughters and was willing to do whatever it took to ensure them a good education, others see her as a plain and simple felon who tried to beat the system. Regardless, this case has sparked a heated debate nationwide.
Just about every major media outlet has covered this so-called “mean mom” and (no surprise here), the “Battle Hymn” memoir is ranked #4 on the Amazon.com Top 100 list and #1 on the memoir and biography lists.
This past weekend, a friend (who is Chinese) sent me a link and I read, with a mixture of horror, amusement, disbelief, and slight agreement, the Wall Street Journal article by Amy Chua, “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior.”
Being Chinese myself (and not even an American-Born Chinese or ABC), I wish I could tell you scary stories of what it was like growing up with an exacting, overbearing, and terrifying Chinese mother who would verbally beat me into submission. Except, believe it or not, I don’t have any. Growing up, I attended sleepovers and had play dates, watched TV, chose my own extracurriculars (including theater, but I didn’t act), rarely got grades less an an A (until college), and never played the violin (piano, yes, though I was far from being Lang Lang).
However, I did have Chinese friends with mothers like Amy Chua – and, those friends did excel better than me and also went on to Ivy Leagues, but some of those friends also grew up crying, feeling inadequate, and believing parental love and approval came with straight As. They extinguished their creative and artistic sides and prepared for life-long careers in medicine, engineering, and law. Over 147, 718 people (presumably Asians), including some of my friends, have shared Chua’s story on Facebook—and most of the comments have been the same: they remember what it was like growing up feeling criticized, never good enough, and uncertain whether the paths they chose was what they really wanted.
Amy Chua would probably say my parents became too Westernized when they moved to America and didn’t try hard enough. My own parents would probably be considered hippie Chinese parents even though they aren’t familiar with the term “hippie.” My parents never once yelled at me or called me “stupid, “worthless,” or “garbage.” They let me pull out of Chinese school when I refused to go and they encouraged my love for reading, art, and writing. As Patty Chang wrote on Huffington Post, not all children are the same so they can’t all be force-fed the same parenting style.