Thursday, February 7th, 2013
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Okay, so I am going to be bold and write about something that, to be completely honest, makes me a little embarrassed! I am British, after all, and we tend to be a bit awkward about these things. But then again, I don’t think most of us find this subject easy. Not until we’ve had a glass or three of wine any way!
But, with Valentine’s Day just around the corner, I thought it apt to address the subject of keeping that spark alive (hope my parents aren’t reading this!). As uncomfortable as it may make us to talk about it, it’s extremely important in a relationship, and our relationships affect both how happy we and of course our children are.
It is undeniable that over time, no matter how in love a couple is, keeping the flame alive can be difficult, at least on a regular basis: kids in the bed, the sound of a baby cooing (or crying) on the monitor, total exhaustion…. Sound familiar? It takes–dare I say it?–work to muster up the energy or even find the time. But when you do, and the more you do, the easier it becomes and the more you enjoy it. It’s sort of like exercise (actually, it is exercise: bonus!), and well, practice makes perfect.
There are two easy, great tricks I want to share that you can implement immediately, at zero dollars and don’t involve rushing out to buy some crazy lingerie, chocolate-covered strawberries, or some bizarre accessories.
1. Don’t wait for everything to be perfect. Waiting for this amazing moment when the romantic stars align is just not going to happen. So pick a moment, any moment the kids are in bed, and go with it, sweatpants and all.
2. Remind yourself of your love story. Every couple has one, even if it was a long time ago. Tell yourself that story on your way home, whether it is the moment you met, your first date, your honeymoon. I promise it will make you smile and when you walk through that door or when he does, you’ll look at him with sparks again.
Dedicate yourself to these two easy steps and this Valentine’s Day will be one to remember. Even if you can’t get a babysitter and you’re not out at some fancy dinner, you’ll be off to a very romantic 2013!
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Tuesday, September 11th, 2012
Many couples experience a slump in their relationships and sex lives after Baby arrives — with all the minutiae of daily life and caring for kids, it can be hard to squeeze in time for intimacy with your other half.
In light of this issue, a provocative question has been raised: Should wives prioritize their husbands over their kids?
According to a recent YourTango survey, 50% of experts say yes. And while 80% of experts surveyed say couples become happier as their children age, 78% say couples with kids were most sexually satisfied before the birth of their first child.
Do you agree?
Weigh in on this heated topic via today’s Twitter party, hosted by @YourTango and @YTExperts between 2 and 4 PM EST. YourTango, experts, and other parents will be on hand to provide commentary and insight. All you have to do is log on and search #LoveAfterKids in the Twitter search bar (make sure you select “All Tweets” so you can see everyone’s tweets). To ask questions or post responses, include #LoveAfterKids in each of your tweets.
We hope to see you there!
For more about love and sex after baby, check out the following on Parents.com:
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Tuesday, July 3rd, 2012
As a parent, you want nothing more than to have your children love one another and play nicely. Not only is a sibling bond important, researchers say it’s also good for your child’s emotional health. According to a study from Brigham Young University, kids who had a sister throughout their childhood were less likely to feel fearful, lonely, or unloved than kids without sisters. Even if your children only show their emotions through endless arguing, researchers agree that sibling conflict is still far less detrimental than complete lack of affection.
Although kids don’t always get along, what if your child wasn’t even able to talk to her sibling, let alone utter the words “I love you”? One mom shares the story of both her daughter’s struggle to communicate with her brother, and her son’s single heartbreaking wish: to hear his sister say his name. To read Amy Kohn’s touching tale, check out our August issue or click here.
Image: happy sister and brother together via Shuttershock
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