Wednesday, December 3rd, 2014
Here’s the newest installment of the Parents beauty department series on mommy bloggers. Each installment will feature what beauty means to real moms no matter what their beauty routine is like—and how they take time to themselves after having children.
After adopting her first son, Elijah, six years ago, Kortni wanted a place to document her adoption and motherhood journey. Love is All You Need is now home to what she thinks is most valuable to her family so her kids “will have something tangible to connect them to their childhood. This vault of memories will make them very rich with love someday.” Today Kortni tells us all about her ever-changing beauty identity and her affinity for red.
How has your beauty routine changed since adopting Elijah (6) and Oliver (2)?
Before I adopted my boys, I thought I had to fit into one defining box of who am I, what kind of mom, friend, wife, writer, home decorator, clothes-wearer, picture taker and person I am—as if I had to choose only one. Now instead of pushing myself toward one defining area, I’m accepting that it’s okay to be a hodgepodge mess of everything. After kids, my beauty routine changes daily. Some days, I am boho-chic-funky-mismatched-don’t-forget-the-hat-girl and others, hair up-messy-bun-and-high-heel-girl.
What is the importance of taking time to yourself?
Every mama has a quiet, built-in, “comes-with-the-package-of-parenting,” part of herself that sacrifices her needs when responsibility calls for it. And while sacrificing and taking care of others before ourselves feels good and right, those feelings can only last so long before that inner self, that source from which we give, starts to wither, slowly taking with it our motivation, inspiration, contentment and patience. The cardinal rule of flight should apply to the journey of motherhood as well. Put on your own oxygen mask before you assist someone else with theirs. In other words, you can’t be who others need you to be without taking care of yourself first.
I can live without my … Sephora classic red lipstick, flat iron, a slouchy beanie and mascara.
What’s the best beauty advice you’ve ever received?
When in doubt, less is more.
My beauty advice for moms is… When stuck in a monotonous routine or when you start feeling bored with your looks, get red involved—red shoes, red nail polish, red purse, red lipstick. Red is ordinary’s kryptonite, and it will add all the flare necessary to make your day feel a little more magical.
My celeb mom beauty icon is … Jessica Alba. Sister gets it.
How do you find time to focus on yourself, your blog and your family?
I believe that every mom merits the title of Wonder Woman or Supahmom no matter what her capabilities are. When they hand you your baby for the first time, they should also include a pair of those awesome red boots and maybe a magic lasso in your welcome to motherhood bag—because that is what we do. We take on the world when we become moms. We juggle time and perform these marvelous balancing stunts. And we all do it differently with our own style and flare. The best part about owning the title of mother is that we don’t have to be defined solely by it. There is a framework of interests, dreams and passions that make us individuals who are strong enough to stand alone. I am also a wife. I read, I write, I pray. I am a nature lover, a picture taker and a beauty maker. I do my best to find the time to balance all of my individual interests throughout the day, and yet, there is nothing I would rather be defined by more than my children.Add a Comment