Posts Tagged ‘ growing up too fast ’

Our Kids’ Independence & Our Tears

Friday, September 17th, 2010

Walking to SchoolTa-Nehisi Coates, a blogger for, takes a break from his usual coverage of culture and politics to admit he got weepy this morning seeing his 5th-grade son off to school by himself for the first time on public transportation, a NYC bus. Coates’ tears came despite the fact that he supported his son’s greater independence and assumed he’d be “pretty emotionless about the whole deal.”

For me, it was dropping my daughter off in day camp the first time. And seeing her say good-bye to her friends and counselors at the end of the summer. And let’s not forget the first time she went to youth group in synagogue and told us it was ok for us not to stay with her. And letting her spend a night at grandma’s without us. And… You get the point. Yes, I can be a weeper. And yes, I am an advocate for her growing independence, and even push her–maybe sometimes too hard?–to take those steps even when she’s not sure. Still, a daddy can shed a tear or two when she actually listens and shows that she’s growing up.

Let us know in the comments: When have you gotten weepy at your kids’ accomplishments and independence? Ta-Nehisi and I will take comfort in your stories. Pass the tissues.

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A Hairy Story

Thursday, February 5th, 2009

403250910_8bc0c91efcI came across this story on Mom Logic today about whether or not chemical hair straightening is okay for an 8-year-old. I don't think I even brushed my hair at that age, so to me this seems just absurd. But the age to start primping keeps getting younger and younger, so maybe I shouldn't be too shocked.

What do you guys think? Is it safe- and even sane- to let young girls go to such lengths to change their appearance?

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