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Tuesday, May 7th, 2013
This post is by Julianna W. Miner, who writes the blog Rants from Mommyland (recently named The Blog Most Likely to Make you Laugh by Parents Magazine). She has three kids, a long-suffering husband, a very naughty dog and a geriatric, ill-tempered cat. In addition to blogging, she teaches at a college she couldn’t have gotten into because she made bad choices in high school.
I love Mother’s Day, but I’m somewhat confused by it. I think it’s like New Year’s Eve; a combination of high expectations and inevitable disappointment. It always feels like there’s some ideal that only specials get to experience. I’m a regular, so it doesn’t happen to me.
I feel kind of stupid and whiny complaining about Mother’s Day. It’s not like my husband and kids ever got it wrong, per se. Or that I had really high expectations. Mostly I just wanted to sleep. FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, LET ME SLEEP. But then someone would always get an ear infection. And I would forget to go to the grocery store the day before so my “special” breakfast would be comprised of an old Capri Sun and a crumbly granola bar fished out of the bottom of a school bag.
But here’s the problem: what I really wanted, they couldn’t give me. Because the only people who truly understood what I needed to hear on Mother’s Day were other moms. They get it. I needed someone to look at me and say: “Remember that time you showed up at preschool and you hadn’t slept all night and there was a booger stain on your shoulder and you were counting the minutes until you got back to your empty house so you could shower and possibly take a nap? But your kid was upset and needed you to stay and so you did? THAT WAS AWESOME OF YOU. High five.”
I needed someone to tell me that even though sometimes I yelled at my kids or let them watch too much TV, that I was still doing a good job. That making mistakes is part of it. That waking up every day and trying as hard as you can to be the best person you can be is enough. That you fall short. But you get up and start over. And that is what makes you a good mom. Not being perfect. Not being a person who never messes up. With the notable exception of Gwyneth Paltrow, those people don’t exist. Those imaginary perfect moms are like the idealized New Year’s Eve or the “Pretty In Pink” prom moment that none of us actually got.
Realizing all that made me feel better. It also gave me some much-needed perspective. I have a family who tries to make Mother’s Day special for me every year. I have friends who get it and who love me, even though I’m a big weirdo. I began thinking about all of the moms who have nothing. Who work twice as hard as I do with half the resources to support them. I began thinking about the women who struggled to provide a home for their kids. Or who were brave enough to leave bad situations to make a better life for their families. For those women, Mother’s Day is just another Sunday. Another day struggling and living in need.
What better way to acknowledge Mother’s Day (and give thanks for my own blessings) than to honor moms living in homeless and domestic violence shelters? So that’s what I decided to do. I enlisted my friends Courtney and Christine from Naughty Betty (the world’s most amazing gift and greeting card company) and together we designed a bunch of hilarious Mother’s Day eCards for the Real World. Then we found a sponsor. The folks from Sweet Relish.com stepped up and offered to donate up to $10,000 to Shelter House (an organization that helps families struggling with homelessness and domestic violence).
So here’s how you can help moms in need this mother’s day: check out our eCards, and if you like them, share them! The more they’re shared across the internet, the more money Sweet Relish will donate. We think the cards are pretty awesome on their own, but if you factor that they’re going help families who need it, we think they could go viral.
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Friday, March 8th, 2013
In her lifetime, 1 in 3 women will be beaten or coerced into sex by her partner or husband, and quite often in her own home. As I type, I wonder how many women reading this are personally affected by domestic violence. If you are, you can get help immediately by calling the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-999-SAFE. There are people ready to help you 24 hours a day, every single day.
The Avon Foundation for Women—which is best known for its work fighting breast cancer—is a major advocate for women suffering from domestic violence. Today is International Women’s Day, and to help commemorate it, yesterday the Foundation held its second Communications Awards ceremony. The Avon Foundation recognized non-governmental organizations from Pakistan, Tanzania, Nepal, Peru, and a governmental organization from the Ukraine, for their innovative communications campaigns that are helping change communities, policies, institutions, and behaviors to end violence against women. The awards were presented at the United Nations Headquarters during the 57th session of the Commission on the Status of Women, and among the impressive list of speakers and presenters was actress Salma Hayek.
“I just presented at the Academy Awards a few weeks ago, and I wasn’t half as nervous or scared as I am now,” she confessed. “But I also wasn’t half as excited.” Domestic violence is a cause very close to Hayek’s heart; she’s been advocating for victims since she was a 17-year-old in Mexico, she explained. And in 2004, she went to Avon with a suggestion: How about printing the National Domestic Violence Hotline number in all of the Avon product catalogs? Avon did that, and much more, and since then the Avon Speak Out Against Domestic Violence program has donated nearly $50 million globally to end violence against women. Hayek got choked up when she said of all of her accomplishments, that simple idea is one of the things she is most proud of in her life.
Among yesterday’s winners was a weekly radio program in Nepal that incorporates the experiences of 12 women “community reporters” who have survived violence themselves and talk about issues that are normally taboo. Another was a campaign from the Government of Ukraine aimed at men, primarily during the 2012 Euro Football Cup, spreading the message that violence against women needs to end. It was incredibly uplifting to be in the presence of these advocates from all over the globe, and to know that there are so many people devoted to making sure that horrendous 1-in-3 statistic is a thing of the past.
If you want to help Avon in its quest, one simple way is to buy the Avon Empowerment Charm Necklace. It’s only $5, and $3.80 of that goes directly to the Foundation’s programs. The charm features the infinity symbol–in part to represent a woman’s infinite possibilities when she lives in a world free of violence.
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Friday, April 20th, 2012
CDC: 2011 Was Worst Measles Year in U.S. in 15 Years
Last year was the worst year for measles in the U.S. in 15 years, health officials said Thursday.
Birth Defects a Third More Common in IVF Babies
Babies conceived through certain fertility treatment techniques are about one-third more likely to have a birth defect than babies conceived without any extra help from technology, according to a review of several dozen studies.
TV On in the Background? It’s Still Bad for Kids
Too much television can be detrimental for kids’ development, even when they’re not plopped directly in front of the screen.
Domestic Violence May Stunt Babies’ Intellectual Growth
A longitudinal study uncovers the lifelong consequences of child abuse and exposure to interpersonal conflict in the first two years of life.
Controversial Ad Uses Breast-Feeding to Sell Cookies
The latest in the breast-feeding wars comes all the way from South Korea and involves the epitome of American snacktime: the Oreo cookie.
Working Moms’ Challenges: Paid Leave, Child Care
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The past week’s political firestorm in the presidential race focused on stay-at-home moms, but two-thirds of women with young children now work. What some feel is being lost in the political debate are the challenges they face in the workplace.
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Thursday, March 8th, 2012
Around the world, at least one in three women has been abused—most often by a member of her own family. Shocking, isn’t it?
On International Women’s Day, I want to encourage you to take even the smallest step to put a stop to it. Last week, I was honored to attend the 2nd World Conference of Women’s Shelters in Washington, D.C. There actress Reese Witherspoon, who’s the honorary chairman of the Avon Foundation for Women, introduced Avon’s newest Empowerment product: the Circle of Support necklace ($5, avon.com). The circle is comprised of infinity symbols that represent the unlimited potential of women everywhere. More importantly, 100 percent of its net profits will be donated to the Avon Foundation for programs dedicated to ending violence against women.
So spare a few dollars, won’t you? Together we can make the world a safer place.
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Tuesday, September 6th, 2011
Study: Kids exposed to secondhand smoke miss more school
Children who live with smokers miss more school due to illness than those who live in households with non-smokers, according to a new study published in the journal Pediatrics.
Spotting autism’s unique shape in the brain
Doctors currently diagnose autism in children by observing behavior. But researchers at Standford University believe they have developed a way to use brains scans that may help identify autism in children in the future.
Family violence linked to child obesity
Children whose mothers said they were chronically abused by their partners were more likely to be obese by age 5 than similar children whose mothers did not report such steady family violence, Boston researchers report.
The case for the 4-day workweek
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Is a 4 day work week better or worse for families? Would working 10 hours, 4 days a week be better for you? Here are both sides of the debate…
Thursday, January 6th, 2011
Eating for two: Obesity is risky during pregnancy
The new year is a good time to discuss a serious epidemic in the United States today — obesity — and how it affects a woman and her baby during pregnancy. Most women who are obese go on to have healthy babies, but they should be aware that this condition has a myriad of adverse effects. (South Coast Today)
Children In Formal Child Care Have Better Language Skills
Fewer children who attend regular formal centre- and family-based child care at 1.5 years and 3 years of age were late talkers compared with children who are looked after at home by a parent, child-carer or in an outdoor nursery. This is shown in a new study by the Norwegian Institute of Public Health of nearly 20,000 children. (Medical News Today)
Brain Scans Show Children With ADHD Have Faulty Off-Switch For Mind-Wandering
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Brain scans of children with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) have shown for the first time why people affected by the condition sometimes have such difficulty in concentrating. The study, funded by the Wellcome Trust, may explain why parents often say that their child can maintain concentration when they are doing something that interests them, but struggles with boring tasks. (Medical News Today)