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Friday, February 4th, 2011
The latest update on hot sauce mama Jessica Beagley is her claim that Dr. Phil’s producers asked her to produce the video of hot sauce and cold showers.
In an AP article, Beagley’s attorney revealed that the mom originally filmed a video of her threatening the children with cold showers, but no action was taken. The producers wanted to see the actual discipline demonstrated on film, hence the more controversial video. In defense, a spokesperson from Dr. Phil’s show said the producers asked that Beagley stop her discipline tactics after seeing the disturbing video.
Jezebel.com asks: “What’s worse — that they asked her, or that she agreed? …Ultimately, the victim is Beagley’s son, who never had a choice about whether he’d be on TV in the first place.”
As a parent, would you have made the video knowing you might get a chance to appear on Dr. Phil’s show?
Categories: Behavior, GoodyBlog, News | Tags: Behavior, cold showers, discipline, discipline advice, discipline style, discipline tactics, discipline tips, Dr. Phil, hot sauce, jessica beagley, misbehavior
Tuesday, February 1st, 2011
Jessica Beagley, who recently became known as the mother who forced her son to swallow hot sauce and take cold showers, was charged with misdemeanor child abuse today by a court in Anchorage, Alaska.
Beagley first appeared on the “Mommy Confessions” episode of Dr. Phil in November 2010. During the segment, she shared a video that her 10-year-old daughter taped of Beagley disciplining one of her 7-year-old twin sons with the above-mentioned tactics. Even though she was not present in court, her team of lawyers pleaded “not guilty” on her behalf.
While some support the hot sauce method, such as former “Facts of Life” start Lisa Whelchel who advocates it in her parenting book Creative Correction, the majority of parents who saw Beagley’s video were shocked and horrified at her discipline tactics. A media firestorm has increased since November, causing parents to wonder how to discipline their children effectively.
I’m reminded of a time when I was 4-years-old and I was still sucking my right thumb. To get me to stop, my grandmother rubbed a chili pepper against my thumb. While my grandmother wasn’t being cruel or trying to discipline me, she chose a specific method to help me break a “bad” habit. Just one taste and needless to say, I never sucked my thumb again. Thankfully, I escaped childhood without being traumatized from chili peppers, but Beagley’s son may grow up fearing hot sauce.
No parent wants to resort to cruel and unusual punishments to stop misbehaviors. But even though some parents have the best intentions to discipline without yelling and spanking, no amount of time outs or distractions seem to work. We’re certainly not advocating for hot sauce or chili peppers as a means of tough love, but as parents, we want to hear your thoughts on discipline. How do you discipline your child in a positive way? What are some no-fail discipline tactics you use? What are the ones you would never use? Share in the comments section below.
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Categories: GoodyBlog, News, Your Child | Tags: Behavior, cold showers, discipline, discipline advice, discipline style, discipline tactics, discipline tips, Dr. Phil, hot sauce, jessica beagley, misbehavior
Tuesday, February 1st, 2011
If your 3-year-old shows remarkable self-control, congratulations: Your child will most likely become a successful adult.
A New Zealand study recently published in Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences involved scientists following 1,000 children from birth to adulthood. The study analyzed the children’s “health, wealth, family and criminal status when the participants reached age 32, then looked for correlations between the self-control score and these outcomes, correcting, for I.Q. and socioeconomic status” (MSNBC.com)
The study revealed that children who displayed self-control at 3-years-old made less bad judgments when they were teens, such as smoking cigarettes, taking drugs, dropping out of school, and getting pregnant. According to ScienceDaily, self-control was defined by factors such as a child’s threshold for tolerance, persistence in sticking with and executing goals, ability to think before acting, and patience in waiting. Children who either learned or grew up teaching themselves discipline and self-control had a better future that didn’t include credit card debts, substance abuse, or low self-esteem.
So instead of just natural intelligence, self-control can be important in propeling children to success.
Does your child have good self-control? What parenting tips do you have to help your kids to be more disciplined?
Categories: Behavior, GoodyBlog, Health & Safety, News, Your Child | Tags: discipline, preschool, preschoolers, research, research study, Science Daily, self-control, study, toddler, toddlers
Monday, July 26th, 2010
We’re looking for families to participate in an upcoming story about toddlers and discipline. We’re pretty psyched about this article because we’re collaborating with pediatrician and Parents advisor Harvey Karp, M.D. You may know Dr. Karp as the author of the mega-popular Happiest Baby on the Block. He’s also written The Happiest Toddler on the Block, and it’s stuffed with very practical, doable tips on dealing with your wild little one. I desperately need those tips, because I have a very headstrong 23-month-old little girl. (That’s her in the photo.) She’s quite different from her older sister, so my usual bag of discipline tricks have been wildly ineffective. A few months back, in preparation for a visit to our offices by Dr. Karp, I captured a few minutes of Lila doing her thing on video. I showed Dr. Karp the footage, and he was able to instantly prescribe all kinds of new tactics for my husband and me to try (which, I’m happy to say, actually work). He also gave me insight into my daughter’s mindset, and even offered some kind words of praise about her personality.
That’s what we’re aiming for with our article. We’ll need a few families across the country to submit a quick video of their child in action, so that Dr. Karp can offer personalized advice on how to get him or her to stop whining/throwing/tantruming/you name it. Your details will be printed in the magazine, but trust us—we’re not out to make any parent or child look bad. The goal is to help the many, many other families who are dealing with the same issues. If you’re interested in finding out more, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with the following information:
Your child’s name and birthdate
Your biggest discipline issue
If you’re not up for going public, keep an eye out for the story in an upcoming issue. I guarantee Dr. Karp’s advice will help you!
Friday, January 15th, 2010
My daughter Julia, who’s 4 and in PreK, has asked me every morning this week, “How many more days until Friday?” (That’s her at right.) She’s out of her mind excited for today because her teacher is throwing the class a “Zip-Up Party.” It’s official: All 20 students can zip their coats by themselves. (This is reason for my daughter’s teacher and the aides to party—the coat, hat, and mitten process can take them close to 20 minutes to complete.) The kids’ long-promised prize? A big dose of pride… and a box of Munchkins. I’m not kidding myself; Julia’s most psyched for a little donut. But that zipper is a pain—it’s the kind that has two pull tabs—and she feels really good about herself for having mastered it. I know there’s a lot of debate among parents and experts over the concept of rewarding accomplishments with food, but I’m here to say that in this case, it worked. Do you believe in giving your child a treat as a prize (or incentive) for a job well done? Curious to hear your thoughts.