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Fighting Toddler Temper Tantrums With Supernanny Jo Frost

Thursday, March 13th, 2014

Can’t handle one more toddler temper tantrum? “Supernanny” Jo Frost can handle them all, and in her new book Jo Frost’s Toddler Rules: Your 5-Step Guide to Shaping Proper Behavior, she shares her child caring superpowers with you. Parents caught up with the (wo)man of steel for an expert take on toddler discipline. 

Parents: At what point did you realize that you had a knack for connecting with children and that you could help other families?

Jo Frost: I got into this industry because I’m passionate about looking after children and helping families. As a professional nanny, dealing with different dynamics and circumstances and problemswhether they be eating or sleeping, or life experiences like families moving from different countries or divorced parentscertainly gave me a vast amount of real, practical experience in the field. It wasn’t a light box switching on and me saying, “I’m good at this.” It was very instinctual for me to do the job that I was doing every day and enjoying. And, of course, I had the opportunity in 2004 when “Supernanny” came about to take my knowledge and experience to a much wider platform.

P: What will your audience get from reading your books that they can’t get from watching your show?

JF: I can talk the hind legs off a donkey. Being able to write books is a wonderful way for me to put not just the techniques that we use, but also to help parents understand why situations happen, to understand how your toddler ticks, to really understand the practicalities of living your life to the best of your ability. And to be able to do so, you have to know what parents want. People share their issues and challenges with me, and I’ve found that many a parent are in disarray when it comes to temper tantrums and knowing how to handle and understand them. How can they do best by their children? How can they give them a helping start? There’s a general feeling of parents really wanting to do the best that they can and needing a frank, honest, practical solution in being able to do so.

P: What do you think about the state of discipline in America today?

JF: You turn on the television and see airlines that are turning around the airplane because children are having temper tantrums. You’re seeing restaurants kicking out families because their child is having a melt down because they don’t want to eat their dinner. This isn’t okay. We need to be realistic in understanding what is appropriate behavior and how disciplined we need to be as parents. In America, we need to take away that stigma associated with being a disciplinarian. When you mention the word “discipline” in America, people think that you are harsh and unreasonable. Let’s break that word so that we understand the importance of what’s necessary to give our kids the best.

P: What was your goal in writing Toddler Rules?

JF: I wanted to very clearly, through my 25 years of observation in watching children interact with other children, whether in a classroom or at playgroup, identify: What are the types of temper tantrums that children have? How can we identify them? And how can we respond? The immediate response when a child has a temper tantrum is how to control it, rather than how to understand that every time your child has a temper tantrum, it’s an opportunity to learn exactly what’s going on in the child’s life at that particular moment and connect and respond to the situation at hand.

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P: The book emphasizes your S.O.S. methodStep back, Observe, Step inwhich is applied to sleep, food, and play. Can you give us an overview of how this method works? 

JF: S.O.S. is what I use all the time, and I think that if parents could stand to adopt the S.O.S., we can healthily identify what is going on so that we can step in with a resolution. The resolution may be listening to both sides and making a decision, recognizing that we have to jump in and do something that protects our children, or empowering them so that they feel they’ve got some choice. We can’t do that if we continue to be sidetracked by emotion and not proactive in helping. You have to do; you can’t just ignore. You have to be active in actually making decisions and knowing what’s going on. You have to be able to make things better.

P: What would you say to parents who claim to have tried everything, yet still can’t get their kids to behave?

JF: Stop trying, and do. “Try” has become this great word in the land of nowhere. You’re either going to do it, or you’re not.

P: Any final words of wisdom?

JF: I love helping families and answering questions that come up. Sometimes they’re questions about challenges, and sometimes they might be practical questions that they’re just not too sure about. I would love for people to reach out to me on Twitter @Jo_Frost and on my website at www.jofrost.com. It’s more resources for them that may be very helpful.

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Parents Daily News Roundup

Thursday, April 18th, 2013

Infant mortality rate in US drops again 
The infant mortality rate in the United States declined again in recent years after reaching a plateau in the early part of this century, according to a new government report. (via Fox News)

Texas School Evacuated As Precaution After February Planned Burn At Plant
A school near the Texas fertilizer plant that was leveled by an explosion says it wasn’t warned about a controlled fire at the plant in February and evacuated its students to another school as a precaution. (via Huffington Post)

Harms of Harsh Discipline Are Softened by a Loving Mother
A new study published in the journal Parenting: Science and Practice suggests that painful effects of harsh discipline can be moderated by the child’s feelings of being loved by their mother. (via Science Daily)

Warstler Elementary School In Ohio Shuts Down Mindfulness Program Due To Parent Complaints
Recent research may tout the benefits of mindfulness programs in schools — including improved test scores and decreased stress — but some parents aren’t convinced. (via Huffington Post)

Chicago Teachers Union Political Activity Hones In On Ousting Rahm And Shaking Up School Board
The Chicago Teachers Union has said Mayor Rahm Emanuel is destroying their jobs in the wake of a massive proposed closing, so now the union is gunning for his. (via Huffington Post)

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Parents Daily News Roundup

Tuesday, December 4th, 2012

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Westwood High School Students In Arizona Forced To Hold Hands As Punishment For Fighting
When two Westwood High School students got in a fist fight during class this week, Principal Tim Richards gave the teens an choice: suspension or public humiliation — by sitting next to each other holding hands in the school courtyard. (via Huffington Post)

Emigration of Children to Urban Areas Can Protect Parents Against Depression
Parents whose children move far away from home are less likely to become depressed than parents with children living nearby, according to a new study. The study suggests that children who migrate to urban areas are more likely to financially support their parents, which may be a factor for lower levels of depression. (via ScienceDaily)

Google Gives $23 Million To Charities To Spur Innovation, Help Girls And Minority Students
Google is announcing $23 million in grants to spur innovation among charities and increase education for girls and minority students in science and technology. (via Huffington Post)

Scientists Find Gene Link to Teenage Binge Drinking
Scientists have unpicked the brain processes involved in teenage alcohol abuse and say their findings help explain why some young people have more of a tendency to binge drink (via Reuters)

Contact Sports Leave Pattern of Brain Injuries, Study Finds
Years of hits to the head in football or other contact sports lead to a distinct pattern of brain damage that begins with an athlete having trouble focusing and can eventually progress to aggression and dementia, a study released on Monday says. (via NBC News)

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Dads Have Unique Powers of Persistence

Thursday, August 9th, 2012

Looks like Dad is going to get a little more appreciation than just on Father’s Day! A recent study from Brigham Young University shows that dads play a huge role in helping their young children develop persistence. According to researchers, fathers who practiced “authoritative parenting” raised persistent kids who had better grades in school and lower rates of recklessness later in life.

The key to being an “authoritative” parent and not an “authoritarian” is granting kids personal freedom, while still holding them accountable for their actions. Dishing out appropriate levels of discipline will help children build persistence, so try to refrain from making empty threats that they will inevitably tune out.

Of course, it’s tempting to get your kids to break out the toothpaste by telling them dirty teeth will fall out, but it won’t benefit them in the long run, as one of our readers quickly found out. The funny dad’s best threat? “Either you get dressed right now, or you’re never going to get dressed again.” (For more seriously silly warnings, click here!) Rather than pretend to revoke clothing privileges, though, why not give your discipline tactics a makeover that will encourage perseverance instead? Your kids will thank you for it later.

Well, hopefully.

Image: Father and son via Shutterstock

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Parents Daily News Roundup

Wednesday, April 18th, 2012

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Abducted Baby Found After Mom Slain in Texas
The mother of a woman who was shot to death as her newborn son was snatched from her arms outside a suburban pediatric center near Houston said her daughter died “trying to save her baby.”

Parents of Dead Toddler Settle Tainted Wipes Lawsuit
The parents of a toddler who died after contracting a rare bacterial infection blamed on contaminated medical wipes have settled their lawsuit against the Wisconsin firms that made them.

Exposure to Air Pollution in Pregnancy May Boost Chances of Obesity in Kids
In a study published this week in the American Journal of Epidemiology, scientists at the Mailman School of Public Health at Columbia University found that exposure to air pollution during pregnancy may be associated with a greater chance of having heavier kids.

Boy Who Inspired Thousands to Join Bone Marrow Registry Dies
A 5-year-old boy whose story inspired thousands of people to become bone marrow donors died Monday after a lifelong battle with a rare immune disorder, the Boston Herald reported.

Parents Force Girl to Wear ‘I like to Steal’ Sign
Two parents in southwestern Illinois took the punishment of their 8-year-old daughter public by forcing her to wear a sign that read: “I like to steal from others and lie about it.”

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Parents Daily News Roundup

Tuesday, November 8th, 2011

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National Study Finds Widespread Sexual Harassment of Students in Grades 7 to 12
Nearly half of 7th to 12th graders experienced sexual harassment in the last school year, according to a study scheduled for release on Monday, with 87 percent of those who have been harassed reporting negative effects such as absenteeism, poor sleep and stomachaches.

Mississippi voting on ‘Personhood’ Amendment
Mississippi voters are casting ballots Tuesday on an amendment to the state constitution that would define life as beginning at the moment of conception.

What Not To Buy Online: Lollipops Laced With Chickenpox
A woman in Nashville, Tenn., advertised lollipops contaminated with the varicella virus on Facebook. The tainted pops were intended for parents who want to expose their children to the disease.

Tantrum Tamer: New Ways Parents Can Stop Bad Behavior
Forget everything you may have read about coping with children’s temper tantrums. Time-outs, sticker charts, television denial—for many, none of these measures will actually result in long-term behavior change, according to researchers at two academic institutions.

When Dads Have Depression, Kids May Be at Risk, Too
Children of fathers who seem depressed are more likely to show signs of behavioral and emotional problems, although the nature of the link isn’t clear, researchers report.

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The Spanking Debate Rages On

Wednesday, October 12th, 2011

Few topics divide parents more than this disciplinary approach.  We want your opinion!  Weigh in and see what percentage of parents share your perspective on this issue.

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Daily News Roundup

Wednesday, July 20th, 2011

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Can a Playground Be Too Safe?
Efforts to regulate playground equipment to prevent injuries may stunt emotional development, a new study suggests.

School Discipline Study Raises Fresh Questions
Raising new questions about the effectiveness of school discipline, a report scheduled for release on Tuesday found that 31 percent of Texas students were suspended off campus or expelled at least once during their years in middle and high school — at an average of almost four times apiece.

Geography Report Card Finds Students Lagging
Even as schools aim to better prepare students for a global work force, fewer than one in three American students are proficient in geography, with most eighth graders unable to explain what causes earthquakes or accurately describe the American Southwest, according to a report released Tuesday morning.

Birth control should be fully covered under health plans, report says
Contraceptives, sterilization and reproductive education should be covered by health insurance plans with no cost to patients under the health care reform law, a new report recommends.

‘Breast Milk Baby’ Coming to U.S. Market
A controversial doll that allows children to imitate the act of breast-feeding is coming to America.

Mothers jailed at Rikers Island don caps and gowns for parenting course graduation
The women, who have all been sentenced to less than a year at Rikers, attended biweekly lessons about parental discipline, communication skills and how to be positive role models in their children’s lives.

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