Friday, February 7th, 2014
Cozy: Curly-haired kids don’t need to shampoo as often as their straight-haired friends. Over shampooing is very bad for curly hair. It ruffles the cuticle, which makes it hard to manage and look frizzy. Always use a paraben-free (and tear-free of course) shampoo on them, like my SoCozy Shampoo in Verry Berry ( $12, socozy.com). I also strongly recommend using a thick and creamy conditioner that will hydrate and keep hair smooth.
The other mistake people make is brushing curly hair. You should NEVER, EVER brush curly hair! After bathing, ‘scrunch’ hair dry with a towel and scrunch in a light-to-medium hold gel (always alcohol-free) like my SoCozy Gel in Groovy Grape ($14, socozy.com) to help hold the hair’s natural curl. Air dry or dry with a diffuser. This topic is close to my heart because I have curly hair, but growing up I never really knew it or understood it. I would spend hours blow-drying my hair and then go outside and POOF- it was a frizz ball. I learned how to care for my curls the hard way!
Cozy: You’ll be comforted to know that you are not alone! I believe that a person’s hair is a very big part of their self-definition, as well as their self-esteem and that it’s important for a child to be able to express themselves. However, as a parent I know only too well how important it is that your child looks great. I think it’s important to find out why your child has a style idea in mind (is it to look like his friend or is it a power-struggle issue), so you know what is driving it and how to address and negotiate.
One summer both of my boys wanted buzz cuts. They both had long great hair and I really didn’t want them to cut it, so I said no and off to camp they went. Wasn’t I surprised on visiting day to find them both with buzz cuts?! I was even more surprised by how much I liked it and how happy they were with their cool new look. They are now 16 and 14 and needless to say they have gone through many different hair phases. One of my sons went through a phase where he wouldn’t cut his hair for over a year. He looked like he was wearing a wig! But he liked it and it made him feel good about himself and of course he eventually got a haircut. I can’t assure you that it will always be easy to navigate, but I can assure you that hair is just hair and it will always grow back!
Q: We just heard from the school that there’s lice going around! How should I check my kid and, if she’s got it, treat her?
Cozy: Oh boy, that’s never pleasant! I recommend that you check often. Be sure to check the head section by section, paying attention to the nape of the neck and area behind the ears, where lice like it most. (Here is what full-grown lice look like.) Also keep in mind that you aren’t just looking for the lice itself, but also for nits, which are the lice eggs. If you see tiny whitish/gray teardrop-shaped specks attached to the side of a hair strand, try to remove it with your fingernails. If it feels “stuck”, it may very well be a nit.
As for how to treat lice, there a few different schools of thought. Some people use chemicals and some prefer to smother the bugs (usually with thick, white conditioner or something like mayonnaise or olive oil). Regardless of which you choose, the most important part of lice removal is getting rid of every nit! I can’t stress this enough. If you leave even one nit, when it hatches you will have lice again. That is why it’s so hard to get rid of it. There is no way around physically removing all the nits, best done by sitting down and combing section by section (with a nit comb). That’s why so many parents choose to give boys, at least, a crew cut, because getting rid of the hair automatically gets rid of any nits on that hair. You will still have to comb out, but with less hair! It’s not fun, but unfortunately it’s often a part of growing up.Add a Comment