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Study: Equal Division of Parental Responsibilities May Make for Less Happy Families

Wednesday, January 26th, 2011

a_stayinglovers_artWhile splitting child caregiving duties down the middle may seem like the fairest route a couple can take, a new study published in the January 2011 issue of  Developmental Psychology suggests such a division could very well increase parental conflict.

According to Sarah Schoppe-Sullivan, co-author of the study and associate professor of human development and family science at Ohio State University, research shows that the stronger, more successful co-parenting relationships occur when a mother is the primary caregiver and a father spends more time playing with their child—rather than sharing in reponsibilites like preparing meals or giving baths.

Researchers found that “in general, when fathers indicated they played more with their child at the beginning of the study, the couple showed more supportive co-parenting one year later.  However, when fathers said they participated more in caregiving, the couples showed lower levels of supportive co-parenting one year later.”

The findings go on to suggest that couples are more successful when they, simply put, have their own turf. Those attempting to perform the same caregiving tasks in a household are more likely to become competitve and at odds with each other, while those with assigned, non-shared roles (mother as gate-keeper and primary caregiver and father as main activity provider) feel more in control, relaxed and willing to collaborate as a team.

 “I don’t think this means that for every family, a father being involved in caregiving is a bad thing. But it is not the recipe for all couples,” Schoppe-Sullivan said. “You can certainly have a solid co-parenting relationship without sharing caregiving responsibilities equally.”

Where do you stand on the division of parental responsibilites within a household? Tell what works for your family and share your take on this study!

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Should Silly Bandz Be Banned from School?

Friday, October 22nd, 2010

Silly Bandz Sea CreaturesMommy blogger Dr. Wendy Walsh at was recently shocked with bad news: Her child’s elementary school officially banned silly bandz.  Across the nation, the fun-shaped rubber bracelets have become contraband after proving to be a constant distraction and source of conflict in elementary and middle schools.  Instead of paying attention in classes, young kids are flinging and filching silly bandz or fidgeting and fighting over them. 

Some parents see the confiscation of silly bandz as a welcome way to refocus students’ attention on the teacher instead of on trading with other students.  Other parents believe schools may be going too far in stifling student’s creativity and “freedom of expression” (  For now, though, some schools are adamant about keeping silly bandz out of sight and, hopefully, out of mind.  Maybe one day, silly bandz will be forgotten like pogs (remember those?) that were once popular years ago.

As a parent, do you support the banning of silly bandz?  Has your children’s school banned them?

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