Rosie to the Rescue: The Right Number of Choices to Give Toddlers
For the most part, I pride myself on explaining to my children the importance of listening to me, and that I don’t ask them to eat their greens just because I feel like being mean! But I was having a particularly hard time with my eldest and food, and as I sat back to think about how to better handle the situation, I realized just how many choices I had been giving him, without realizing it. Do you want cheese on your pasta, or to the side? Do you want milk or water? Do you want to sit in this chair, or that one? Do you want the blue spoon or the red one? While I was trying to make things “just right” for my son to eat, I was overwhelming him with choices. So when the pasta was not exactly the right shape, at exactly the right temperature, on the exact right plate, let me just say it was not good!
Lying on my couch feeling defeated, worried, and very full (I kept eating large quantities of food to try and set a good example; let’s just say I was consuming far more than he was), I realized there’s a vital rule of toddler parenting that I needed to apply to this situation just as to any other:
Only ever give two choices. Yes, choices help children feel empowered, which is important. But presenting too many overwhelms toddlers. Children should be allowed to understand the difference between good choices and bad choices. The magic total number of decisions kids get to make, in our home, is two.
With that strategy, we were soon back to eating a peaceful dinner. And of course there’s one other thing that helps toddlers, and that’s never “too many:” your hugs and kisses!Add a Comment