Rosie to the Rescue: Room for Improvement
Let’s face it, parenting is full of life’s best moments, but it can also be very stressful. Even if you’re Mom of the Year, you’re bound to make mistakes. I had one of my own recently when I decided to try a new bedtime routine with my boys, ages 4 and 19 months.
My sons share a room, but go to bed at different times. For some crazy reason, probably because I was dramatically sleep-deprived from having a newborn—I’m also the mom of a four-month-old girl—I decided that the two boys were going to go to bed at the same time, not staggered, as had worked so well for so long. Everyone would get to sleep earlier and have more energy the next day, I reasoned.
Ha. Instead, chaos ensued: My little boy could see his big brother and wanted to get out of the crib and play. Then he cried, which freaked out my older son, who ran out of bed and into the living room screaming. Next the baby woke up. Nobody fell asleep and soon everyone, including me, was crying!
Once I’d finally got my younger son to sleep after rocking him and singing a thousand songs in my terrible singing voice—I’m no Christina Aguilera—I found my big boy, looking confused, sitting on the couch. I felt so defeated I could’ve collapsed on the floor, or at least ask my husband to pour me a glass of wine, but instead I smiled, gave my boy a hug and said, “Well, buddy that was not a good idea of Mommy’s!” I explained that I tried something new but that it didn’t work very well, and the important thing was that when I realized it wasn’t working, I decided to change my plan.
Evaluating your actions—and then changing course should they be misfiring—was a great lesson for my son. I often see professionals from politicians to doctors sticking to plans that are failing. The best leaders are those who can evaluate as they go, and be big enough to admit when they’re wrong and change direction.
I know that I taught my son something very valuable that night, even though I’m bound to make some crazy mistake again soon! Whether your error or your child’s is big or small, remember to teach him that in failure, we can almost always find success.
Now, please pass the wine.
Want to meet Rosie? Attend one of her upcoming author events for her new book, Mommy IQ: The Complete Guide to Pregnancy. The full schedule:
Monday, Oct. 1 | Ridgewood, NJ | 7:00 – 9:00 PM | Bookends
Tuesday, Oct. 2 | New York, NY | 5:00 – 7:00 PM | Destination Maternity – Madison Avenue Store
Wednesday, Oct. 3 | Calabasas, CA | 7:00 – 9:00 PM | Barnes & Noble
Thursday, Oct. 4 | Glendale, CA | 7:00 – 9:00 PM | Barnes & Noble
Saturday, Oct. 6 | Dallas, TX | 3:00 – 5:00 PM | Barnes & Noble – Lincoln Park
Sunday, Oct. 7 | Minneapolis, MN | 1:00 – 3:00 PM | Mall of America – Macy’s Court
Monday, Oct. 8 | Chicago, IL | 12:00 – 2:00 PM | Macy’s State Street
Monday, Oct. 8 | Chicago, IL | 5:00 – 7:00 PM | A Pea in the Pod – Water Tower Place
Wednesday, Oct. 10 | Atlanta, GA | 6:00 – 8:00 PM | Fox Tale Book Shoppe
Friday, Oct. 12 | Bethesda, MD | 6:00 – 8:00 PM | Bethesda Row Mall
Saturday, Oct. 13 | Cherry Hill, NJ | 12:00 – 2:00 PM | A Pea in the Pod at Macy’s