So here’s Lila with her new glasses. (I shared the story of how we learned she needs them here.) I have to thank all of you again for being so supportive and for providing so many helpful tips. I printed everything out, pored over all the great advice, and headed to the optometrist feeling confident. Lila really surprised us by being very patient while trying on nearly a dozen frames, and then cried when we had to leave without any glasses. (Can’t blame the girl for not getting the concept of ordering lenses and waiting for them to arrive.) In the end we went with plastic frames (several of you mentioned that the nose pieces on metal frames can bother some kids), transitional lenses (nearly doubling the price but at least setting Lila up to succeed in the sun), and no strap in the back (the optometrist said it tends to be more trouble than it’s worth).
Last Thursday night we picked up her new specs and she seemed to like them just fine. She only had to wear them for a little while before it was bedtime. Friday morning I pulled her bangs back with a barrette (another big change), put on her glasses, and brought her into the bathroom. I saw a flicker of disappointment cross her face when she looked in the mirror. “Don’t you look so pretty?” I asked. She shook her head and in a very quiet voice, she said, “No.” Gulp.
That brought up an interesting question: We were having lots of family over on Sunday for Easter. Should we all make a fuss over Lila’s new look, or downplay it? Before I went too far down that road of thinking, I decided not to micromanage this. Our loved ones could react however they want.
And by yesterday, she was already used to her glasses. She keeps them on for surprisingly long stretches of time, though at one point yesterday my nephew walked into the kitchen with Lila’s glasses, saying, “She chucked these and ran away.” She’s definitely discovered the power these little spectacles hold, so I need to work on dialing down my reaction when she takes them off. (I remember at least one of you suggesting simply putting them back on with a smile. I have to keep that in mind!) But all in all, so far so good.