Perfecting the Art of Potty Training?

potty-training-toiletsShould a child be banned from preschool for having too many potty accidents?

At a preschool in Arlington, VA, a 3-year-old named Zoe was recently suspended for failing to comply with the school’s potty training policy.  Even though Zoe had already been potty trained, the new preschool schedule changed Zoe’s potty dynamics.  Since she began having too many accidents in a short amount of time at preschool, she was reproached by the school and asked to leave for one month. Eventually, her mom found another preschool (one without a potty training policy) willing to enroll Zoe, and she has not had any accidents since starting her new preschool.

News about this suspension worries parents who are already feeling the pressure to speed up their children’s education from an early age, from enrolling toddlers in sports to getting preschoolers to read chapter books. Since some preschools now accept only students who will be less hands-on in the potty department, parents are feeling the need to potty train their kids even if they’re not ready for it. There is also a social stigma that if a child is falling behind in developing certain behavioral or language skills, the child is delaying his achievements.

However, as expert Elizabeth Page pointed out in The Washington Post, potty training is considered a motor skill that depends on a child’s own pace, much like other milestones such as walking, talking, and reading.  Adults shouldn’t force kids to potty train before they are ready or shame and embarass them if they aren’t progressing as fast as other children.  Potty training can take time and even those who are potty trained could still have accidents.  In short, children should be allowed to progress on their own terms to potty training success.

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As a parent, are you worried about potty training your child?  What potty training techniques and tips would you recommend?

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  2. by Carole

    On February 1, 2011 at 1:42 pm

    There is way too much pressure. My 2 year old has no interest in potty training. Guess what ? My 18 year old is out of diapers. People need to relax and enjoy their kids, no one starts college with a paci, diapers and a bottle. Listen to you gut on developmental delays. Every kid is different. My fist 2 did not walk untill 14 months but my baby walked at 11 ‘onthe

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