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Last week, I wrote about my high hopes for a new plan to help my 3-year-old, Jane, fall and stay asleep on her own. I vowed not to spend another night asleep on her floor. Inspired by Dr. Alan Kazdin’s new book, The Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child, I poured on the praise ("WOW!!! That’s so great!! You fell back to sleep without me in the room!!!! I’m so proud of you!!!!!) and gave her big hugs and put rainbow-colored star stickers (thanks, Oriental Trading) on her pink sleep chart. We played the "going to sleep game" where we pretended that she was falling asleep and I said goodnight and left the room, as well as the "going back to sleep game," where she pretended to wake up in the middle of the night and come into my bedroom and then go back to her room to sleep by herself. Every time that she pretended to do what I wanted her to do "in real life," she got the same mega-praise and a sticker (or three) on her chart. Amazingly, she totally jumped on the bandwagon. We only spent two days practicing, and she fell asleep solo all week. To celebrate, we went to Target and bought her a new princess nightgown. "I slept through the night!" she now says gleefully when she wakes up in the morning, "How did you sleep, Mommy?" So far, so good!