Sleep Success

Last week, I wrote about my high hopes for a new plan to help my 3-year-old, Jane, fall and stay asleep on her own. I vowed not to spend another night asleep on her floor. Inspired by Dr. Alan Kazdin’s new book, The Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child, I poured on the praise ("WOW!!! That’s so great!! You fell back to sleep without me in the room!!!! I’m so proud of you!!!!!) and gave her big hugs and put rainbow-colored star stickers (thanks, Oriental Trading) on her pink sleep chart. We played the "going to sleep game" where we pretended that she was falling asleep and I said goodnight and left the room, as well as the "going back to sleep game," where she pretended to wake up in the middle of the night and come into my bedroom and then go back to her room to sleep by herself. Every time that she pretended to do what I wanted her to do "in real life," she got the same mega-praise and a sticker (or three) on her chart. Amazingly, she totally jumped on the bandwagon. We only spent two days practicing, and she fell asleep solo all week. To celebrate, we went to Target and bought her a new princess nightgown. "I slept through the night!" she now says gleefully when she wakes up in the morning, "How did you sleep, Mommy?"   So far, so good!

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  1. by Andrea

    On July 9, 2008 at 10:07 pm

    Congrats on the success! Any ideas on this one… my little girl (almost 3) does fall asleep on her own but does a lot of calling for me, asking for things, saying “mommy I need something”, wanting to change her pj’s, put on socks, saying “i CAN’T sleep”. Drives me crazy. She has always slept on her own she just really fights falling asleep now and wants to be a night owl like me. I’m thinking some variation of chart would help, just have to think of the right wording. Any tips?

  2. by John Hobby

    On July 10, 2008 at 1:55 pm

    I just ordered Kazdin’s book to help deal with some behavioral problems in my 4 year old. It sounds like you have already started to put some of his method into practice, what are your thoughts on its effectiveness in general?

  3. by Diane

    On July 10, 2008 at 10:02 pm

    The method is based on his extensive research and I definitely think its worth a try. It comes with a DVD that demonstrates exactly how to do it right.