Wednesday, June 29th, 2011
I posted a blog this week about how I’ve basically turned my baby into a more affectionate child. Then a friend sent me this article. It basically says that in asking our kids to perform on cue—whether it’s a hug or kiss or a word or gesture—we are in effect, pimping them out. She goes on to say, “And the currency you’re using is the single most powerful in the world: parental love and approval.”
Ouch. That’s hard to hear. But I think the author, Jennifer Lehr, might be onto something.
Here’s the whole article here. It’s short and very worth reading.
Granted, I don’t have to ask for the hugs and snugs as much now that I’ve “trained” her (cringe), but there are still plenty of times I can catch myself pushing her to “do” or “show off” something. I hate to think she might be getting her self worth from trying to please me.
So where do we draw the line at asking our children to “perform on cue?Add a Comment