Why I Need A Bullet Proof Vest in Oklahoma…

I was going to write again this morning about my anger at the gun lobby.

I was going to write about my anger at largely the GOP and how they are in bed with the NRA (though certainly the Democratic party needs a backbone as well to stand up to the gun lobby).

I was going to write about the mental health debate that is now at the forefront. I wanted to talk about the contradiction that the very same people who support the NRA agenda also don’t want their taxes raised. And guess what proper mental health facilities require? Money. From taxes. So we’re in a bit of a quandary aren’t we people?

I was going to ask you all to enlighten me. Democrats, republicans, survivalists (your end of the world comes tomorrow, right? I hope you’re snug in your bunker. Some of them now have televisions in them. Funny thinking about what television you’ll watch when the world ends, huh?), I’m all ears. I want to understand what you suggest we do about incidents like the Newtown massacre. If you say mental health, are you willing to have your tax dollars support it? I am. Not sure what we need, exactly…institutions? I am not sure some of these mass murderers would have been placed in one anyway. But I’m willing to try anything–and help pay for it. After all, we can’t expect someone else like Warren Buffett or Donald Trump to foot the bill (though Donald would certainly benefit from some mental health himself…)

But I digress. I was also going to write about video games. What is the correlation between these awful, violent games where kids learn to kill and become desensitized…and the violence in our society?

These are the things that have been running through my mind in the moments where I’m not grieving for the people of Newtown. I want to understand how this could have happened. And how to prevent another one.

But then I came across something that ignited even more rage. Oklahoma! Yes, the state made famous by Rodgers and Hammerstein has added more fame to its arsenal.  You ready for this? Back in October a law was passed allowing you to take your gun to yoga class! Or anywhere you want! Loaded and unconcealed! Yes, this requires many exclamation points of excitement!!!! Want to walk into a bank with a loaded weapon? No problem!  The only place you can’t carry is a government building, a school or a bar. Whew. But if you want to do downward dog with your gun next to you, you can. Breathe an extra Namaste while you’re at it. It may be your last.

This may be the most absurd thing I’ve ever heard. Well, almost.

You see, when the law went into effect, Oklahoma became the 15th state to allow people to openly carry firearms with a license. Huh? Fifteen states allow this?? Quoting from the New York Times article, here’s the skinny: “Those 15 states include Utah, Iowa, New Jersey and Connecticut. Several other states, including Arizona, New Mexico and Nevada, have even more permissive laws that allow the carrying of unconcealed firearms without a license. All but six states and the District of Columbia allow some form of open carry, said John Pierce, founder of OpenCarry.org.”

But here is where Oklahoma is different than the East Coast states, including Connecticut. Again, quoting from the article:

“On the East Coast, open-carry laws generate little controversy because several states make it hard for average citizens to acquire the permits necessary to display unconcealed firearms.

Oklahoma is considered a “shall-issue” state, meaning that once a resident meets the legal requirements, officials must issue a license. Others states, including New Jersey and Connecticut, are known as “may-issue” states, meaning that even if a resident satisfies the requirements, officials may or may not issue the license because they have the discretion to consider other factors.”

I mean, are you kidding me? WTF?? The thing is, Oklahoma isn’t the only lenient state either. That’s why we need federal reform. From the top.  Speaking of… I love how no pro-gun rights senators (31 of them were asked) would appear on Meet the Press this weekend. Cowards I call them.

I applaud President Obama for saying he’ll propose something. Because something is better than nothing. But if he doesn’t, he loses my support (though I suspect the real problem will come from   the members of Congress who bend over to the NRA). I applaud Senator Dianne Feinstein for saying she’ll push for an assault weapons ban.  And I vow to never contribute to another politician unless he or she has actively pushed for gun reform.  It trumps everything else I believe in. Because none of it matters if you or your children are going to be gunned down.

To those of you who say there’s a .000001% chance that it will ever happen to you or your kid, I use the old adage, yeah, until it does. Then it’s a 100% chance.

Once again I reiterate what I said in my Newtown piece: no one is saying to make guns illegal. No one is saying to get rid of the Second Amendment. But what does need to be amended is the right to carry assault style weapons. That should no more be a part of the Second Amendment than the right to carry around a nuclear bomb.

I know people who hunt. People in my own family. Whom I love. But if you’re a hunter who requires an assault weapon to kill your prey then a) you’re not a real hunter and b) find another hobby. Like knitting.

Lastly, I will say, it’s a helluva lot easier to write from a place of anger than sadness. And right now I don’t feel like being sad. I don’t want to look at the pictures of those murdered children. I don’t want to imagine how those parents feel.

I’m now going to sign off and play with Emmett. I’m going to pick Fia up from school. I’ll probably hit Target, maybe even the grocery store. A typical day for me. Any one of those Newtown parents would kill for a day like mine. Sadly, for them, someone killed that typical day. Forever.

By the way, before you comment on my blog, consider the following from Nicholas Kristof’s latest column. He is responding to comments (in italics) made after his incredibly, fact-driven piece that was published last weekend. (read that one here). 

What happened in Newtown, Conn., was heartbreaking, but gun laws are feel-good measures that don’t make a difference. Norway has very restrictive gun laws, but it had its own massacre of 77 people.

It’s true that the 1994 assault weapons ban was not very effective, even before it expired (partly because it had trouble defining assault weapons, and partly because handguns kill more people than assault rifles). But if that law’s ban on the sale of high-capacity magazines had still been in effect, Adam Lanza, the gunman in Newtown, might have had to reload three times as often.

As for Norway, its laws did not prevent the massacre therelast year. But, in a typical year, Norway has 10 or fewer gun murders. The United States has more than that in eight hours.

If people want to kill, you can’t stop them. Even a fork can be deadly. On the same day as the Connecticut tragedy, a man attacked 23 schoolchildren in China with a knife.

But, in the attack in China, not one of those children died. What makes guns different is their lethality. That’s why the military doesn’t arm our troops with forks.

Gun suicides (nearly 19,000 a year in the U.S.) outnumber gun murders (more than 11,000), and a gun in the home increases the risk that someone in the home will commit suicide. The reason is that suicide attempts with pills or razors often fail; with guns, they succeed. When Israel moved to have many soldiers store guns on base rather than at home, its military suicide rates plunged.

We have the Second Amendment, which protects our right to bear arms. So don’t talk about gun control!

There’s a reasonable argument that the Second Amendment confers an individual right — to bear a musket. Beyond that, it’s more complicated. Everybody agrees on a ban on fully automatic machine guns. The question isn’t whether to limit the right to bear arms, but where to draw the line.

I’d like to see us take a public health approach that reduces the harm that guns cause. We could limit gun purchases to one a month to impede traffickers, make serial numbers harder to file off, ban high-capacity magazines, finance gun buybacks, require solid background checks even for private gun sales, require microstamping so that bullet casings can be traced back to a particular gun and mandate that guns be stored in gun safes or with trigger locks.

And if you need to enter a code to operate your cellphone, why not to fire your gun?

If you were at home at night and heard creaking downstairs, wouldn’t you want a Glock in your night stand?

Frankly, at that moment, I might. And then I might creep downstairs and fire at a furtive figure in the darkened kitchen — perhaps my son returning from college to surprise the family. Or, God forbid, somebody who lives in the house might use the Glock to commit suicide.

The gun lobby often cites the work of John Lott, who argued that more guns mean less crime, but scholars have since thoroughly debunked Lott’s arguments. Published research makes it clear that having a gun in the home simply makes it more likely that you will be shot — by your partner or by yourself. Americans are safer if they rely on 911 for protection rather than on a gun.

Nancy Lanza is a case in point. She perhaps thought that her guns would keep her safe. But they were used to kill her and then schoolchildren.

As children were being rushed out of Sandy Hook Elementary School, they were told to cover their eyes. I hope we don’t do the same and blind ourselves to the lessons of this tragedy.


Picture of Oklahoma courtesy of Shutterstock

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  1. by Kim

    On December 21, 2012 at 4:12 pm

    Kudos on the `if you need an assault rifle to hunt` comment.
    Unfortuntly MANY people are saying we should outlaw guns. None with any real power thank God.
    Regardless, your spot on about all your political statements. I live in a shall issue state, and the requirements down here in Texas are impressive for a conceal carry license. I thought assault style guns were illegal, but that may just be down here. I can`t thing of anyone besides active, in a war, military personel that should have those. Ever.

  2. by Wendy

    On December 24, 2012 at 9:56 am

    This isn’t an answer…but maybe it helps move towards the question of “why us,” the United States that is. My husband is active duty military and we are stationed in Israel for three years. I have a friend here who is French. After university she moved to London and then, several years later, to Tel Aviv. That is only important in the sense of a foundation for a conversation we had recently. You see she works in publishing, children’s and young adult fiction specifically. I have a masters degree in literacy and used to teach…so I find her job very interesting. We were talking about young adult fiction and she said that of all publishing young adult is the least likely to be able to cross cultural barriers. I read quite a bit of young adult fiction, only American give or take Harry Potter. She said that the trend in young adult fiction towards self harm, anorexia, mental health issues, suicide, etc., is completely unique to the United States. I agree, there seems to be a very clear connection between our gun laws and our massacres compared to other countries, absolutely. But in addition to that I think we should take a long hard look at what we are teaching our children in comparison to those other countries. That won’t lead to a clear answer or solution but I imagine it might shed a great deal of light on the situation. What “normal” are we teaching our children, what “o.k.” Are we teaching them?

  3. by Chris

    On January 12, 2013 at 4:09 am

    I read your article and while I believe you want to do the right thing I certainly do not agree with you on this subject. For one a gun is a gun; I am currently in the army overseas and work with firearms on a regular basis, as well as when I’m back home. I can tell you that an assault weapon is just as dangerous as a musket. In fact most muskets are 54 caliber and some have breech loading actions capable of loading a new charge in less than 6 seconds, bet you didn’t know that; and that was designed in the 1860′s. my point is the problem is most people don’t really know what a guns is; and I’m here to tell you any gun is dangerous and on the same level “there all the same”.

    As for high capacity magazines this is also a pointless argument as one can have a dozen 10 round magazines and load them in just as fast as if they were 30 round magazines. So again any magazine is a magazine there really are not deadlyer ones; just another public misconception, not to mention the drum magazines every speaks of are point in fact very unreliable and jam consistently.

    I agree with gun control only in 2 ways I support extensive background checks, ,this insures the mentally insane are not getting weapons.

    I support that every gun owner be required to own a safe to hous the firearms; this insures theft of such weapons is almost impossible.

    Other than that all laws are pointless currently trying to be passed a gun is a gun so lets either ban them all together “everything and do a huge sweep go to everyone’s house and take them all” or lets just leave them alone.

  4. by wj

    On January 12, 2013 at 8:35 am

    I don’t really care what this sow thinks about guns. Just keep your hands off of mine. None of mine have ever been used in a crime.

  5. by EditorJP

    On January 14, 2013 at 12:54 am

    Here, since you upport more “gun control”, print these out and

    Put this bumper sticker on your car:


    And put this flyer on the front door of your home and at your place of business:


    And be sure to put this sign on the front door of your kid’s school:


    You know, I saw a great movie once about the effects of stringent gun control.

    It was called SCHINDLER’S LIST.

  6. by EditorJP

    On January 14, 2013 at 1:00 am

    “There’s a reasonable argument that the Second Amendment confers an individual right — to bear a musket”

    Really? Reasonable to WHOM? Someone who uses a COMPUTER instead of quill and paper?

    If you had paid attention in your history class instead of doing your nails or memorizing Betty Friedan, you would have read that this country was created because the British government didn’t want BRITISH civilians IN AMERICA having access to the SAME LEVEL OF WEAPONS AND AMMO THAT THE OCCUPYING BRTISH FORCES HAD.

    And thats why the Second Amendment was written, to insure that AMERICANS IN AMERICA would never be intimidated by their government, another government, or by criminals or tyrants ever again.

    You can tell us what weapons we can own when WE CAN TELL YOU WHAT TO PUBLISH.

  7. by Bill

    On February 16, 2013 at 7:37 am

    The author doesn’t like guns or violent video games. We’re not all wired to write poetry and arrange flowers.

  8. by Bill

    On February 16, 2013 at 7:57 am

    I agree with a lot of what Kim said. Sometimes I feel as though I’m the only moderate left in this country. I do favor background checks for example. Jill Cordes seems like a very cool lady and we should all agree with her on Donald Trump, but I don’t think guns in a yoga class is a serious issue. No sane person is going to use a gun because they didn’t like the cobra pose. And an insane person doesn’t care if you are allowed to bring a gun to class.

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