Nanny Driving=Me Crazy

My nanny wants to drive Fia places. Playgrounds, the zoo, playspaces–in other words, do things that Fia loves. This is fantastic news, right? Except that the worry will put me in the looney bin.

In Brooklyn, driving was never an option. No one has cars, plus you walked to everything. Rain, sleet or shine. Didn’t matter. It’s one of the things that kicked my mom ass…the constant schleping.

Now we live in Los Angeles, which is the equivalent of living in the suburbs. There isn’t anything in walking distance. You drive to places.

After a frustrating search, I found this amazing nanny to watch Fia part time. She’ll be full time once the new baby comes. With no family in the area, it takes a village, even if that means hiring the village. So that’s what I’m doing.

I’ll call her M.C. She raised 5 kids on her own, she’s here legally, she’s going to speak Spanish to Fia, and all the moms who have used her said that she drove their kids everywhere. She has a perfect driving record. I have her license and am running a check myself.

But man, putting your baby in someone else’s hands to drive is a whole new thing for me. As my one friend said, “It’s like putting your most prized possession in a death trap.” I drive with Fia everyday. But only I. Or Phil. No one else has driven with her before.

I guess this is where a leap of faith comes in. Another friend of mine once said, “At some point, you have to learn to trust.” Maybe this is one of those times.

I printed out a list of activities in the area that I thought they could go to. None of them requires the interstate and it’s all within a 5 mile radius. Still, I’m torn. It’s not fair to either of them to force them to stay at the house all the time. And to shuttle them around myself seems counterproductive to having help in the first place.

Any thoughts?

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  1. by Nanny

    On December 6, 2011 at 9:17 pm

    You’re nanny will be happier so she’s likely to stay w/ you longer. As a nanny it also feels like respect.

  2. by JackandLilysMominNJ

    On December 7, 2011 at 8:39 am

    JIll: I used to live in Brooklyn too so I know the mental leap you have to make here. I’m now in New Jersey with 2 kids and a nanny who drives my car and my kids everywhere. It was a hard adjustment for me, but I had to just make a mental leap of faith and trust that it would be ok. One thing that helped: I had our nanny drive with me a few times and I could see that she is cautious and thoughtful. Also I had 2 references who had great experience with her driving. At the end of the day, I’m trusting her to feed my kids, hug them, entertain them, change their diapers, and keep them safe and happy. Driving them where they need to go is the least of it. Good luck!!

  3. by Jill Cordes

    On December 7, 2011 at 11:12 am

    Thanks gals for your insight. I do think it’s just a leap of faith and you’re right on all counts: respect, the fact that they are taking care of them in every other way, etc. I am driving with my nanny and Fia today to the library about 2 miles away. So I’ll just transition into it. Will keep you posted!