Tuesday, November 26th, 2013
Apparently, in our looks-obsessed society, struggling actresses and models in New York City are now the “it girls” for couples undergoing IVF. According to the New York Post, “In an industry where attractiveness is a prerequisite, and steady income is hard to come by, actresses often are an egg agent’s perfect target.” In fact, ads are even being placed on acting trade sites like BackStage.com to entice women looking for work to donate their eggs at a premium. The beautiful wannabes are being paid anywhere from $8,000 to $20,000 for their egg donations—much more than your average bartending actress would make in a month.
It’s like there’s this whole underworld designed to find eggs for rich people—like a black market, only legal. “Egg agents” do a full background check that includes school transcripts and SAT scores, blood tests for diseases, and a psych exam. The higher the woman’s GPA and SAT scores, the higher her payday.
But it’s not exactly easy money. A prospective donor is put on hormones for two to nine weeks to increase her egg production, and the harvesting of eggs for IVF can be very painful. After the surgery, she is left feeling sore and bloated, and as of yet researchers do not know if there are any long-term effects associated with donating eggs. What they do know is that you lose eggs, and it increases your risks of developing cysts. Because of that, there are rules in place that only allow a woman to make six donations in her lifetime.
Those donating the eggs are of course also helping to bring life into the world. But they will likely never know for sure if children were born from their donated eggs, because donors often sign waivers saying that they will not be notified of the outcome. Sperm donors have been around forever and are now becoming trendy with movies like Vince Vaughn’s Delivery Man, and MTV’s show Generation Cryo—which follows a girl and her 15 half-siblings as they try to find their sperm donor dad. So it’s no surprise that egg donors are now in demand, especially considering more than 7.3 million couples in the US struggle with infertility.
Does wanting to have attractive egg donors make us as a society superficial or smart—thinking of survival of the fittest in every sense of the word?
TELL US: Are you surprised actresses’ and models’ egg donations are in demand? Would you choose a pretty donor over a less attractive one?
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Wednesday, October 16th, 2013
The network that gave you an inside peek into the partying ways of Guidos (Jersey Shore), teens’ struggles to raise kids (Teen Mom), and misleading internet dating (Catfish), now explores the topic of being a sperm donor baby. The new docuseries, Generation Cryo, which debuts November 25, follows 17-year-old Bree as she tracks down 15 of her half brothers and sisters, and has them join her in the quest of finding their shared (and very busy!) sperm donor, the person responsible for half of their DNA.
Bree and her half siblings found each other through the Donor Sibling Registry, which has helped connect more than 10,000 children conceived through sperm donors. Like all of MTV’s voyeuristic guilty pleasures, this one has a high level of intrigue. Most people don’t know much about the world of sperm banks, add to that it’s a big scavenger hunt to find their biological father, and the kids quickly become supportive siblings, causing some major tugs on the ol’ heart strings.
But most people don’t go around talking about using a sperm donor, let alone being a sperm donor. But maybe this show will actually destigmatize the idea of using a sperm donor. The perception is that sperm donations are something guys do in college to make a quick, easy buck, because sperm donors receive anywhere from $40-$100 per sperm sample, and can earn up to $6k a year. Meanwhile, according to Newsweek, people wanting sperm can pay around $2k for it, and the whole in vitro fertilization process can cost $15-18k.
So who’s using sperm banks? About eight percent of couples are infertile due to a problem with the man’s sperm (low sperm production, misshapen or immobile sperm, or blockages that prevent the delivery of sperm), which is one reason to seek a sperm donor. Single women and lesbian couples also often turn to sperm banks to have children.
How would you feel if your child wanted to go on a televised quest to find her sperm donor—not only revealing to the world that you used one (!), but potentially inviting this stranger into your family once they connect? Knowing both of my parents and having a large extended family and loving genealogy, I think I would be understanding of my kid’s journey of self discovery and wanting to know where she had come from—the TV part I’m not so sure about!
Everyone involved in this show is gutsy to let people into their journey, where emotions are sure to run high: What if the sperm donor doesn’t want to be found, and rejects meeting his 16 kids? What if the kids’ dads who raised them feel it’s a slap in the face to find the donor, who has never been a part of their lives? What if the donor does keep in touch with all of his kids—what does that mean for everyone’s lives? The built-in drama of this show is pretty genius. Like everything MTV does, though, there’s a (un)healthy heaping of sensationalism involved. I just hope they find the balance of respecting these kids and their families, while still giving an accurate picture of what it’s like to be the child of a sperm donor, and a sperm donor, if we—the TV audience—do get to meet him.
Generation Cryo debuts Monday, Nov. 25, at 10 p.m. ET/PT on MTV.
TELL US: Will you be tuning into the show? Would you consider using a sperm donor? How would you react if your child wanted to find his/her sperm donor?
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