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Friday, January 23rd, 2015
When I was preparing for my scheduled C-section, there were plenty of details I considered. When would I be able to lift heavy things again? What would my scar be like?
But a new study suggests there’s a whole other facet to C-section recovery that most people would never even think to consider: painful postbaby sex!
Yes, it turns out that cesarean delivery is associated with persistent pain during or after sex, a condition known as dyspareunia. This is according to a new study, which sought to investigate which factors contributed to such pain. It also looked into breastfeeding, fatigue, postpartum depression, and even abuse.
More than 1,200 first-time mothers across Melbourne, Australia participated in the study. Most of those women who had resumed having sex by 12 months postpartum said they experienced pain the first time they did so after having their babies, and close to a fourth of those women still reported pain at 18 months postpartum.
But women in the group who had an emergency cesarean section, vacuum extraction, or elective C-section had double the risk of pain during or after sex at 18 months postpartum as women who had spontaneous vaginal births with intact perineums or unsutured tears.
Call it the painful side effect of surgery no one told you about (until now)!
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Alesandra Dubin is a new twin mom. She’s also a Los Angeles-based writer and the founder of home and travel blog Homebody in Motion. Follow her on Facebook, Instagram, Google+ and Twitter.
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Thursday, March 27th, 2014
Pregnancy sex can be a bit of a tug-of-war. Most men think it’s creepy to be getting it on when there’s a baby on board. Meanwhile, pregnant women’s hormones are at an all-time high, making their sex drives even greater than usual. While I was pregnant, I thought I finally knew what it would be like to be a man: I thought about sex all of the time!
Unfortunately for two pregnant celebrities it seems their husbands’ need to do the deed isn’t as strong when she’s with child. Kristen Cavallari recently told Fit Pregnancy that her football player husband, Jay Cutler, is weirded out by pregnancy sex. “Sex is funny when you’re pregnant,” said Kristin. “Guys get weird about it. I’m like, ‘Oh Jay, the baby’s kicking!’ and he’s like, not wanting to know about it.”
Her advice to women in the same boat? “It’s important for women to realize—if your guy is a little weirded out but isn’t good at expressing that, it can be isolating.” She also says that taking baths together and a little sexy lingerie can help smooth things over.
Kendra Wilkinson-Baskett can relate. In a recent blog for People, she confessed her hubby Hank Baskett has refused to have sex with her during the third trimester. In true TMI form, Kendra wrote: ‘I’m round, tired, grouchy, smelly and horny! Why would he want to touch me?!. When I cough, I either fart, pee or cramp!” Totally gross, but totally true! Lots of things become out of your control once you’re pregnant—including bodily functions.
But it’s not all bad news, ladies. Some men seem to get even more turned on when a woman is pregnant, like Dax Shepard, Kristen Bell’s husband. She said on an episode of Conan that he loved pregnancy sex because, “he felt like he was with a completely different woman.” She went on to say that it was like “legally cheating.” “I was also involved and he kind of got a freebie that didn’t hurt anybody’s feelings.”
And apparently Dax isn’t alone. Angelina Jolie told Entertainment Weekly that pregnancy sex is “great for the sex life. It just makes you a lot more creative so you have fun.” And Jessica Simpson confessed to Ryan Seacrest that when she’s pregnant her sex drive is unstoppable. “The Big O is, like, the biggest O ever,” she said (I agree that pregnancy sex can be some of the best sex ever: Read this).
Only time will tell how you, your body, and your baby daddy will feel about pregnancy sex throughout your pregnancy (it could change from trimester to trimester and your sex positions will likely need to change, too), but please promise me you’ll try to push negative thoughts out of your head about how big you’ve gotten and how if your guy isn’t into pregnancy sex, it’s because he doesn’t find you attractive. That is so not true! More often than not, the guy just feels like he and his enormous manlihood could somehow harm the baby, or that it’s the same as having sex in front of your kid after he or she’s born. So just talk to him, calm his fears, and get busy. You know you wanna!
TELL US: Are you and your guy on the same page with pregnancy sex, or does one of you want it more than the other?
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Thursday, October 3rd, 2013
Apparently, November is one big love fest. At least that’s what research from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention seems to point to, because more women conceive in November than in any other month. (Confession: I feed into that statistic. My son was conceived in early November, due in early August, but came a week early and ended up a July 28 baby).
While there’s no clear data on why everyone’s knocking boots in November, I have some theories of my own. First off, it’s cold out, and who wants to go outside in the cold and snow, when you can stay inside with your honey and keep yourselves warm (and busy!)? And if you do make your way out of the house to build that cute snowman or make snow angels, when you get back in, you’re going to want to dive right into bed and find some way to warm each other up.
And while November is the kick-off of the holiday season, it’s before the full-on December rush and stress hits you (don’t forget, people, stress hormones reduce your chances of getting pregnant!), so you’re still in good, happy spirits and open to both long, passionate romps or just a quickie. You’re also traveling a lot and so the many chances of forgetting to pack your birth control could be another reason for all of those babies.
Thanksgiving makes you feel all lovey-dovey and grateful for each and every amazing person in your life—and that of course includes the person you’re sleeping with! So to show your appreciation for each other, you—what else?—have sex. A lot.
In November, you also have your high school and college homecomings to attend, and nothing gets you more in the mood than reminiscing about the good ol’ wild days, right? Oh, and the tailgate parties! Let’s put it this way: for many women, booze = loss of inhibitions, which means all of those sexual fantasies you’ve had are about to come true (making tons of boyfriends and husbands very happy campers).
So now that you know November is the best time to conceive, you have exactly 29 days to plan every last sexscapade for the month. Here’s to getting lucky, ladies!
TELL US: Will you be trying to get pregnant in November?
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Wednesday, August 21st, 2013
True fact: Starting in November, parents in Germany can leave the gender of their baby blank on their birth certificate. For most of us, the only thing we’re worried about deciding on for our baby’s birth certificate is the name. But what if you weren’t sure of your baby’s sex? When babies are born, they don’t all fall easily into the category of boy or girl. Some are what are called “intersex”—that’s when a child is born looking like one sex, but possesses the genitalia or reproductive anatomy of the other, or in some cases they have both boy and girl parts. When an intersex child is born (experts say that roughly one out of every 1,500 babies is born with genitals that cannot be easily categorized as male or female), it has traditionally been left up to the doctor to decide which sex should be chosen on the birth certificate, which can lead to possible problems with gender dysphoria and general confusion later in life.
Germany is the first country to add a law that adds a third sex option to birth certificates to account for intersex babies. The law also states that these children, who’ve been marked “blank” at birth can go on to decide later in life whether they believe their gender should be identified as male, female or if it should remain blank. Though this might be seen as controversial among some here in the U.S., Germany is not alone in seeing a need for another option besides male or female. Australia and New Zealand allow citizens to select x for their gender on passports rather than to make people choose between the two when in some ways they fall into both categories.
TELL US: Do you think parents should leave a baby’s gender blank, if it is intersex and has both male and female characteristics? Or will not having a clear gender identity early on hurt them rather than help them later in life?
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Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
While trying to do my due diligence in reading everything I can about pregnancy for this blog (and you), I came across this article in GQ UK, which is basically a how-to article on having sex with a pregnant woman. Keep in mind it’s not some clueless guy pontificating about pregnancy sex. The story is written by a woman, Rebecca Newman. So even though the piece is parading around under the guise that it’s supposed to help men, obviously it’s way more helpful to us women!
Most men like to pretend they have a Wiki-level of knowledge when it comes to a woman’s desires, but the truth is they need to be told what we want. Sure, it’s probably best coming directly from a guy’s partner so he knows his woman actually wants the same things as this writer, but we can’t always verbalize exactly what we’re looking for, especially in the heat of the moment, so that’s where this article comes in handy (maybe leave a copy lying around for him to read?).
Being pregnant is not only a confusing time for a woman whose body is going through major changes, and whose hormone levels are going nuts, it’s also an adjustment for your guy for those same reasons. I love that Ms. Newman tells it like it is to the male readers: “She’ll either want you as never before … or she’ll find the idea of intercourse with you as arousing as an asthma attack.” Both are true in my experience, and either can change instantaneously.
That said, there are a lot of perks for you and your guy with pregnancy sex. So it shouldn’t be dreaded and feared, which it sometimes is. You should be excited. Why? Two words: Ultimate orgasms. Thanks to increased blood flow and off-the-charts hormone levels you can be aroused a million times easier and faster than ever before. Or as Ms. Newman puts it to men: “Now is your moment to cement your status as the keenest lover that ever lived.” You have amazing orgasms and he feels like a sex god—it’s a win, win.
Also, pregnancy sex insures you two shake things up as missionary position is out relatively soon. You shouldn’t have any added pressure on your abdomen, and by week 16 women are no longer supposed to be on their backs for long periods because it constricts blood flow to the baby. So if you’ve gotten into a sexual rut lately, you’re about to find your way out of it!
Ready, set, go!
TELL US: How has your sex life changed since you’ve been pregnant?
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