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Pregnancy Sex: Even Better Than Regular Sex

Tuesday, August 13th, 2013

Orgasms and Sex Drive While PregnantWhile trying to do my due diligence in reading everything I can about pregnancy for this blog (and you), I came across this article in GQ UK, which is basically a how-to article on having sex with a pregnant woman. Keep in mind it’s not some clueless guy pontificating about pregnancy sex. The story is written by a woman, Rebecca Newman. So even though the piece is parading around under the guise that it’s supposed to help men, obviously it’s way more helpful to us women!

Most men like to pretend they have a Wiki-level of knowledge when it comes to a woman’s desires, but the truth is they need to be told what we want. Sure, it’s probably best coming directly from a guy’s partner so he knows his woman actually wants the same things as this writer, but we can’t always verbalize exactly what we’re looking for, especially in the heat of the moment, so that’s where this article comes in handy (maybe leave a copy lying around for him to read?).

Being pregnant is not only a confusing time for a woman whose body is going through major changes, and whose hormone levels are going nuts, it’s also an adjustment for your guy for those same reasons. I love that Ms. Newman tells it like it is to the male readers: “She’ll either want you as never before … or she’ll find the idea of intercourse with you as arousing as an asthma attack.” Both are true in my experience, and either can change instantaneously.

That said, there are a lot of perks for you and your guy with pregnancy sex. So it shouldn’t be dreaded and feared, which it sometimes is. You should be excited. Why? Two words: Ultimate orgasms. Thanks to increased blood flow and off-the-charts hormone levels you can be aroused a million times easier and faster than ever before. Or as Ms. Newman puts it to men: “Now is your moment to cement your status as the keenest lover that ever lived.” You have amazing orgasms and he feels like a sex god—it’s a win, win.

Also, pregnancy sex insures you two shake things up as missionary position is out relatively soon. You shouldn’t have any added pressure on your abdomen, and by week 16 women are no longer supposed to be on their backs for long periods because it constricts blood flow to the baby. So if you’ve gotten into a sexual rut lately, you’re about to find your way out of it!

Ready, set, go!

TELL US: How has your sex life changed since you’ve been pregnant?

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Pregnancy Sex Drive: Is Yours Normal?

Thursday, May 30th, 2013

sex life, sex drive, female viagraAll of this talk of women’s so-called low libidos, and the desperate need for a female Viagra (aka Sheagra) to save sexless marriages worldwide, got us thinking about the craziness that is the female sex drive. It’s all over the place: Everyone has a friend who’s a Samantha, a self-confessed panty-dropper (and proud of it!), and a Charlotte, a sexually-conservative girl that other friends call a prude behind her back. Of course there’s a huge spectrum of Carries and Mirandas in between.

Once you add pregnancy hormones into the mix, women’s sex drives go completely haywire and it’s a bit like spinning the big wheel on The Price is Right—you have no idea what you’re going to land on. With extra blood flow to your vajayjay and estrogen levels spiking, you may suddenly start thinking about sex every second of the day, and even during your sleep with super-charged erotic dreams (with guest stars like Ryan Gosling and Bradley Cooper!). Instead of waiting for your guy to initiate, your sex drive might be in such overdrive that you’re all over him as soon as he enters the door. For that, he will love you and want you to forever be pregnant!

Jessica Simpson told Elle magazine that when she was expecting her first child her sex drive was “unstoppable.” She couldn’t get enough, and the sex was amplified to an 11. “The Big O is, like, the biggest O ever!” she (over)shared.

On the flip side, Snooki, who clearly knows her way around the smush room, had her pregnancy sex drive take a total nosedive. While due with son Lorenzo, she told In Touch that she and fiancé Jionni’s sex life was “hardly there!” Fans everywhere worried that their beloved Snooki had changed forever when she explained, “I just feel too icky and gross. I’m not in the mood!”

How is it possible that you (or Snooki!) could easily go from having sex practically every day to dreading the mere thought of anything sexual? The scientific answer is that the progesterone in your body is telling it to just say no to sex, while the estrogen is making sure you’re ready and willing. So it just depends which you have more of at any given time.

To confuse yourself even more, you could be sleep-deprived, your breasts may be sore (“Don’t touch!”), you might still be nauseous even if you’re way past your first trimester, you might not know how to maneuver this new curvilicious body of yours, and your hormonally-challenged psyche may be sabotaging your usually high self-esteem. All of this can make you doubt whether your guy still sees you as sexy. (Trust me, he does!)

So, for those of you who are wondering whether your pregnancy sex drive is normal—it is. Whether you’re in the mood for non-stop sexy times, or you’d rather close down the shop for a trimester or two, you’re just dealing with the unpredictability of pregnancy hormones.

If you want to boost your sex drive, though, read this. It really could help. And if you’re having the best, most orgasmic sex of your life? Enjoy!

TELL US: Has your pregnancy sex drive increased, lowered, or stayed exactly the same?

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