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Pregnancy Sex: Even Better Than Regular Sex

Tuesday, August 13th, 2013

Orgasms and Sex Drive While PregnantWhile trying to do my due diligence in reading everything I can about pregnancy for this blog (and you), I came across this article in GQ UK, which is basically a how-to article on having sex with a pregnant woman. Keep in mind it’s not some clueless guy pontificating about pregnancy sex. The story is written by a woman, Rebecca Newman. So even though the piece is parading around under the guise that it’s supposed to help men, obviously it’s way more helpful to us women!

Most men like to pretend they have a Wiki-level of knowledge when it comes to a woman’s desires, but the truth is they need to be told what we want. Sure, it’s probably best coming directly from a guy’s partner so he knows his woman actually wants the same things as this writer, but we can’t always verbalize exactly what we’re looking for, especially in the heat of the moment, so that’s where this article comes in handy (maybe leave a copy lying around for him to read?).

Being pregnant is not only a confusing time for a woman whose body is going through major changes, and whose hormone levels are going nuts, it’s also an adjustment for your guy for those same reasons. I love that Ms. Newman tells it like it is to the male readers: “She’ll either want you as never before … or she’ll find the idea of intercourse with you as arousing as an asthma attack.” Both are true in my experience, and either can change instantaneously.

That said, there are a lot of perks for you and your guy with pregnancy sex. So it shouldn’t be dreaded and feared, which it sometimes is. You should be excited. Why? Two words: Ultimate orgasms. Thanks to increased blood flow and off-the-charts hormone levels you can be aroused a million times easier and faster than ever before. Or as Ms. Newman puts it to men: “Now is your moment to cement your status as the keenest lover that ever lived.” You have amazing orgasms and he feels like a sex god—it’s a win, win.

Also, pregnancy sex insures you two shake things up as missionary position is out relatively soon. You shouldn’t have any added pressure on your abdomen, and by week 16 women are no longer supposed to be on their backs for long periods because it constricts blood flow to the baby. So if you’ve gotten into a sexual rut lately, you’re about to find your way out of it!

Ready, set, go!

TELL US: How has your sex life changed since you’ve been pregnant?

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Pregnant & Dating: A Good Idea?

Friday, May 31st, 2013

dating while pregnantFor the most part, women don’t usually set out to get pregnant without a partner by their side. And when they do, it’s something they’ve put a lot of time, effort and consideration into before making that hard decision to go solo. That’s why suddenly being single when you’re already pregnant is a terrifying thought for most. Can you imagine trying to land a date with someone—who’s not the baby’s dad—while pregnant? Me? No, never!

But that’s exactly what WEtv’s show Pregnant & Dating, which premieres tonight, explores. It follows the lives of five single moms-to-be out on the dating scene. There’s Rachel, a television and film producer, whose boyfriend walked out on her when he found out she was pregnant with twins. Megan, a nail technician in a trendy Newport Beach salon, got pregnant with a man her dad’s age, and now feels he’s not daddy material, so she’s looking for a guy more her age to help raise the baby. Celebrity stylist, Melissa, has her boyfriend run off with another woman while she’s pregnant, and the loser says he won’t be around for the birth either (Way to man up, dude!). Singer Kiesha (formerly of the R&B group, Xscape) says the father of her baby is “just a friend” and he doesn’t even realize she’s pregnant—let alone know he’s the dad!  Finally, there’s swimsuit model Shana, who is stunned when she finds out she’s pregnant, but is even more shocked to find out that men are still hitting on her with a baby on board.

To me, pregnancy and dating were both hard enough on their own, combining the two seems like mission impossible! Kudos to these brave women who aren’t willing to let their bumps get in the way of their pursuit of love. To be honest, though, I think it’s going to be très difficult. Let’s get real for a minute. Of course men are going be intimidated—and flat our scared!—of the idea of instantly becoming a dad, let alone to someone else’s kid! So many single moms I know have a hard time finding men who want to date women with kids as it is, but if they think the mom is just looking for a rebound replacement dad, they’re likely to bolt before you can say baby.

Don’t get me wrong. There are some advantages to dating while preggers: Many women find that they’re at their most beautiful and confident when they’re expecting. Skin has that natural glow, so you’re radiant and alluring. Having a special connection with the little one inside you plants a permasmile on your face and so you appear more approachable to the opposite sex. And because you want to create a stable life for your bun in the oven, you’re less likely to fall for the Mr. Right Nows, because they just aren’t good enough to be around your precious angel.

But there are a lot of downsides too: You may hit a point where you’re having some self-esteem crashes, and can then become extra needy, fishing for compliments to boost your ego. You might look around and see women with flat stomachs and hate every last one of them, while simultaneously coming off as a crazy jealous person if your new guy talks to any other person with a vagina. Since your hormones are raging, you might cry for no apparent reason (I know I did!). These are all major red flags for most men. Oh, and burping and passing gas? Not so cute on a first date! Swollen feet and hot flashes? Not exactly sexy.

So my advice is pregnant date at your own risk. Sure, you can find the man of your dreams, and then you know he really loves you for you—which is like winning the Lotto! Or, you could get your already sensitive feelings hurt when you can’t find your soulmate, and you dramatically and irrationally conclude that you’re completely undesirable and always will be. But realistically love is always a gamble, right? There are never guarantees you won’t get your heart broken. But when you’re on a reality TV show, I’d say the chances are higher than ever that you will!

TELL US: If you’re pregnant and single, how’s your dating life? If you’re paired up, can you imagine dating someone with a baby on the way? 

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