Thursday, March 27th, 2014
Pregnancy sex can be a bit of a tug-of-war. Most men think it’s creepy to be getting it on when there’s a baby on board. Meanwhile, pregnant women’s hormones are at an all-time high, making their sex drives even greater than usual. While I was pregnant, I thought I finally knew what it would be like to be a man: I thought about sex all of the time!
Unfortunately for two pregnant celebrities it seems their husbands’ need to do the deed isn’t as strong when she’s with child. Kristen Cavallari recently told Fit Pregnancy that her football player husband, Jay Cutler, is weirded out by pregnancy sex. “Sex is funny when you’re pregnant,” said Kristin. “Guys get weird about it. I’m like, ‘Oh Jay, the baby’s kicking!’ and he’s like, not wanting to know about it.”
Her advice to women in the same boat? “It’s important for women to realize—if your guy is a little weirded out but isn’t good at expressing that, it can be isolating.” She also says that taking baths together and a little sexy lingerie can help smooth things over.
Kendra Wilkinson-Baskett can relate. In a recent blog for People, she confessed her hubby Hank Baskett has refused to have sex with her during the third trimester. In true TMI form, Kendra wrote: ‘I’m round, tired, grouchy, smelly and horny! Why would he want to touch me?!. When I cough, I either fart, pee or cramp!” Totally gross, but totally true! Lots of things become out of your control once you’re pregnant—including bodily functions.
But it’s not all bad news, ladies. Some men seem to get even more turned on when a woman is pregnant, like Dax Shepard, Kristen Bell’s husband. She said on an episode of Conan that he loved pregnancy sex because, “he felt like he was with a completely different woman.” She went on to say that it was like “legally cheating.” “I was also involved and he kind of got a freebie that didn’t hurt anybody’s feelings.”
And apparently Dax isn’t alone. Angelina Jolie told Entertainment Weekly that pregnancy sex is “great for the sex life. It just makes you a lot more creative so you have fun.” And Jessica Simpson confessed to Ryan Seacrest that when she’s pregnant her sex drive is unstoppable. “The Big O is, like, the biggest O ever,” she said (I agree that pregnancy sex can be some of the best sex ever: Read this).
Only time will tell how you, your body, and your baby daddy will feel about pregnancy sex throughout your pregnancy (it could change from trimester to trimester and your sex positions will likely need to change, too), but please promise me you’ll try to push negative thoughts out of your head about how big you’ve gotten and how if your guy isn’t into pregnancy sex, it’s because he doesn’t find you attractive. That is so not true! More often than not, the guy just feels like he and his enormous manlihood could somehow harm the baby, or that it’s the same as having sex in front of your kid after he or she’s born. So just talk to him, calm his fears, and get busy. You know you wanna!
TELL US: Are you and your guy on the same page with pregnancy sex, or does one of you want it more than the other?
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Thursday, May 30th, 2013
All of this talk of women’s so-called low libidos, and the desperate need for a female Viagra (aka Sheagra) to save sexless marriages worldwide, got us thinking about the craziness that is the female sex drive. It’s all over the place: Everyone has a friend who’s a Samantha, a self-confessed panty-dropper (and proud of it!), and a Charlotte, a sexually-conservative girl that other friends call a prude behind her back. Of course there’s a huge spectrum of Carries and Mirandas in between.
Once you add pregnancy hormones into the mix, women’s sex drives go completely haywire and it’s a bit like spinning the big wheel on The Price is Right—you have no idea what you’re going to land on. With extra blood flow to your vajayjay and estrogen levels spiking, you may suddenly start thinking about sex every second of the day, and even during your sleep with super-charged erotic dreams (with guest stars like Ryan Gosling and Bradley Cooper!). Instead of waiting for your guy to initiate, your sex drive might be in such overdrive that you’re all over him as soon as he enters the door. For that, he will love you and want you to forever be pregnant!
Jessica Simpson told Elle magazine that when she was expecting her first child her sex drive was “unstoppable.” She couldn’t get enough, and the sex was amplified to an 11. “The Big O is, like, the biggest O ever!” she (over)shared.
On the flip side, Snooki, who clearly knows her way around the smush room, had her pregnancy sex drive take a total nosedive. While due with son Lorenzo, she told In Touch that she and fiancé Jionni’s sex life was “hardly there!” Fans everywhere worried that their beloved Snooki had changed forever when she explained, “I just feel too icky and gross. I’m not in the mood!”
How is it possible that you (or Snooki!) could easily go from having sex practically every day to dreading the mere thought of anything sexual? The scientific answer is that the progesterone in your body is telling it to just say no to sex, while the estrogen is making sure you’re ready and willing. So it just depends which you have more of at any given time.
To confuse yourself even more, you could be sleep-deprived, your breasts may be sore (“Don’t touch!”), you might still be nauseous even if you’re way past your first trimester, you might not know how to maneuver this new curvilicious body of yours, and your hormonally-challenged psyche may be sabotaging your usually high self-esteem. All of this can make you doubt whether your guy still sees you as sexy. (Trust me, he does!)
So, for those of you who are wondering whether your pregnancy sex drive is normal—it is. Whether you’re in the mood for non-stop sexy times, or you’d rather close down the shop for a trimester or two, you’re just dealing with the unpredictability of pregnancy hormones.
If you want to boost your sex drive, though, read this. It really could help. And if you’re having the best, most orgasmic sex of your life? Enjoy!
TELL US: Has your pregnancy sex drive increased, lowered, or stayed exactly the same?
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