Tuesday, November 5th, 2013
Now Kristen Bell is totally enamored with her 5-month-old daughter, Lincoln. But the House of Lies star would be the first to admit that her motherly instincts didn’t actually kick in until after her daughter was born. She told Flare that while she was pregnant she felt no connection with her baby bump—whatsoever.
“It could have been a water bottle in my belly, that’s how connected I felt to her during my pregnancy,” Kristen confesses. “I kept saying to [husband Dax Shepherd] in all sincerity during my pregnancy, ‘I just don’t know how I’m going to like her as much as I like the dogs [pugs Lola and Mr. Shakes].’”
While it may sound like another one of Kristen’s hilarious jokes, she’s actually very serious. “I love people the more I know them, and
I didn’t know [my baby].” While your initial reaction to that may be, How could you not feel an instant connection with your baby, he or she is inside you?!
I can somewhat relate. Of course I was thrilled to be pregnant, and I couldn’t wait for my little man to be born so I could get to know him, but I didn’t feel that mother-son bond at the moment of conception, like some moms-to-be seem to. I really didn’t feel that bond until I knew his sex. Then it got stronger when he started kicking (we were finally able to communicate, and I could feel he really was in there!), and then when he was born my total obsession with him really started.
So if you’re like Kristen (and me) and you’re not feeling majorly connected to your bump just yet, not to worry! No, you are not the worst mom-to-be in the world! Yes, you will still bond with your baby! Kristen now says that there’s no one on this planet she’d rather spend time with than her little girl. Aww!
TELL US: Did you instantly bond with your bump, or did it take time to feel that mother-baby bond?
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Friday, August 23rd, 2013
Jennifer Love Hewitt told People magazine that she’s delaying wedding plans until after she gives birth and loses the baby weight. Putting “carriage before marriage” seems to be a new trend, especially in Hollywood. Jessica Simpson and fiancé Eric Johnson still haven’t said “I do” and they now have two kids—Max, 15 months, and Ace, nearly 2 months old. Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard have been engaged for four years, now have 5-month-old daughter Lincoln, and still haven’t tied the knot. Kristin Cavallari wed Jay Cutler 10 months after baby Camden was born.
But celebrities aren’t the only ones who are choosing to have babies without a marriage certificate. As of 2012, more than half of the babies born to American women under 30 are born out of wedlock. Is marriage a thing of generations past?
Lots of couples —young and old—now think, Why do you need the piece of paper to have a commitment? And with marriage failure rates being so high anyway, many feel that living together and having a family only gets more complicated—and more expensive—if you get married and end up splitting.
I think it’s a very personal choice, and don’t think having kids without being married should be looked down upon like it once was (though I was admittedly married before getting pregnant myself). I was surprised to read that there do seem to be downsides to these new, modern families. According to the New York Times, “researchers have consistently found that children born outside of marriage face elevated risks of falling into poverty, failing in school or suffering emotional and behavioral problems.”
So are married couples who have kids more committed to their families? Do the kids feel more secure and stable knowing that mom and dad are married? This reminds me of another celebrity pair: Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, who have been together over eight years and have always said that marriage wasn’t a priority for them. That is, until their kids started asking why they weren’t married, and encouraging them to wed. So it will be interesting to see If they ever do walk down that aisle, and it will be interesting for me to hear if you think you should be married before you bring kids into this world.
TELL US: Do you think it matters if family comes first—literally—before marriage?
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