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Monday, September 9th, 2013
Vanity Fair recently reported that sources close to the Duchess of Cambridge, Kate Middleton, revealed she told friends that her natural birth was “perfect.” And by “perfect,” she meant she had no complications and she was able to stick to her birth plan. For some reason, though, that description of perfection really stood out to me as odd—on so many levels.
Really, let’s be honest. Yes, the act of having a baby is a miracle. The big picture is a beautiful one; you’re creating life, specifically, you’re creating the person you’ll love the most in the world. But when you look at the small details, even if everything goes off without a hitch, pregnancy isn’t exactly a walk in the park, and childbirth is hard, exhausting work and can be really disgusting (like no one tells you that you can actually poop while pushing during delivery. I didn’t even know that was a possibility until friends who’d gone through it asked me if I had. For the record, as far as I know, I did not!).
Also, what if there are complications and you have to have an emergency c-section (about 30 percent of women have either a planned or emergency c-section)? I’m sure Kate was not trying to make any grand statements about natural childbirth being more perfect than surgically-assisted births, but it could be taken that way, and another Kate—Kate Winslet—did get into hot water for outright suggesting natural childbirth is superior. After having her second child, Kate Winslet, who is now pregnant with her third, revealed in New York’s Gotham magazine that she had lied for years about having her daughter Mia vaginally when she actually had an emergency c-section. “I just said that I had a natural birth because I was so completely traumatized by the fact that I hadn’t given birth,” she told Gotham. “I felt like a complete failure. There’s this thing amongst women that if you can handle childbirth you can handle anything. I had never handled childbirth and I felt like in some way I couldn’t enter the ‘powerful women’s club.’ It was an amazing feeling having Joe naturally. Fourteen hours with no drugs at all, but then I had to have an epidural because I was so tired. It was an incredible birth. It was really triumphant.”
Reading that really upset me, because I don’t think women should be made to feel that the only way or “the right way” to have a baby is if she delivers vaginally. So many women I know who’ve had c-sections already feel a sense of guilt, as if they did something wrong, or they just weren’t woman enough. This insanity should not be perpetuated. Childbirth is not a competition. Whether you choose to have an epidural or not is your business. If a cesarean section is needed in order to have a healthy delivery, do it without second thought! No one has the right to judge you. And remember that the end result is still the same: you’re taking home a beautiful baby, and any way you do it is “perfect” in my book! Don’t let anyone take that amazing feeling away from you.
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Must Read, Pregnancy News
Monday, July 22nd, 2013
After Kate Middleton and Prince William arrived at London’s St. Mary’s Hospital around 5:30 am London time, and got settled into the super-posh private Lindo Wing, nearly 11 hours later Great Britain has a new prince, the Prince of Cambridge to be exact!
The third in line to the throne (behind Prince Charles and Prince William—and before Prince Harry) was born at 4:24 pm, weighing in at 8 lbs, 6 oz. The Prince was brought into this world in true royal fashion, in a luxury $9,000 a night suite that included an individual birthing room, birthing pool, satellite television, radio, internet access, daily newspaper deliveries and a personal safe. And for the parents and their guests, the Lindo Wing comes equipped with a catering staff, complete with a wine list and champagne to celebrate the happy occasion!
Contrary to reports, Kate’s mom Carole, a trained midwife, was not on hand in the delivery room. While most moms-to-be only see their OBs sporadically throughout their labor, at this high-end facility and with the royal heir waiting to come out, you can be sure that Kate’s every request was catered to by the nursing staff and her two doctors (the Queen’s former gynecologist and her current one).
Though we don’t know exactly what time Kate officially went into labor, the birth was at least 12 hours in the making—which isn’t bad for a first-time natural birth (she was not induced even though she was said to be past her due date). Perhaps Kate’s prenatal yoga paid off? She reportedly had been seeing a private yoga instructor at least one day a week for close to her entire pregnancy. Building core strength through yoga is said to help with both pushing and breathing during labor.
As expected, the official Royal announcement has been placed on an easel outside of Buckingham Palace for all the world to see. Now that His Royal Highness has arrived, we can all start obsessing over what his name will be! That news likely won’t be released for days. Congrats again to Kate and Will!
While we wait to hear the new Prince’s name, check out pics of Kate’s pregnancy and baby’s new family, or watch Rosie Pope’s tribute to the new royal baby.
TELL US: How long were you in labor with your children? Any tips you can share with first-time moms?
Image of the official birth announcement courtesy of The British Monarchy’s Instagram.
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Who Is Pregnant
Monday, July 22nd, 2013
The Great Kate Wait is almost over! That’s right—Kate Middleton is in labor. After photographers and Royal Watchers have been on high alert since Kate Middleton’s rumored due date of July 13, and talk of needing to induce her started swirling, The Duchess of Cambridge was admitted to the private Lindo Wing at St. Mary’s Hospital around 6 am today in west London. Already in early labor, she and hubby Prince William were escorted through the back door to their exclusive room. Kate’s labor is said to be progressing normally (whatever that means since every pregnancy is so different!).
I’m sure no matter how many labor classes she and Will have taken, Kate is still nervous, anxious, exhausted, and completely excited. I know I was. My water broke at 4 am, and I arrived at the hospital around the same time as Kate. My doula told me not to rush to get to the hospital, but to take my time and take care of myself.
As crazy as it sounds, I freshened up and got dressed as my husband made us eggs and bacon for breakfast. How I could eat when I was so freaked out, I’ll never know! But my doula advised that labor could take many, many hours and once admitted to the hospital they don’t let you eat anything but white liquids. So I hope Kate had a full English Breakfast. Otherwise, she’s probably starving right about now!
Delivery rooms are so sterile, so I also hope that the royal team has made it comfy for Kate, packing her favorite pillow, like I did. It made a world of difference for me. According to E!, Kate is said to have planned a labor soundtrack of Bruno Mars, Calvin Harris and Of Monsters and Men tunes. I highly recommend letting your hubby play iPod DJ, ladies. It gives them something to do to make them feel useful, and the music really took my mind off of the pain. My soundtrack included Kanye West’s “Stonger” and Black Eyed Peas’ “Let’s Get It Started”. I wanted music that would pump me up (Think: energizing gym mix). But some women prefer a relaxed soundtrack to keep them calm. My husband prepared both just in case, but the party mix won out.
While I probably would have crumbled under such public scrutiny of my pregnancy, Kate has gone through her entire pregnancy with such grace. She made it look so easy! The good news for Kate is that the hard part (all that pushing!) is almost over for her, and she’ll soon be introduced to her precious baby, then the fun really begins. Congrats Kate and Will—you are going to love parenthood!
While you wait for the royal baby to arrive, take a look back at Kate’s pregnancy!
TELL US: Are you as excited about Kate’s birth as you are your own?
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Who Is Pregnant
Thursday, July 11th, 2013
No wonder Kate Middleton plans to have her mom in the delivery room with her and Prince William—not only will Carole Middleton be a great support system, but she’s also a trained midwife! Kate won’t be following the royal tradition of having a baby nurse, either. Instead, the Duchess of Cambridge plans to stay in Berkshire, England, with her parents for at least six weeks after her birth, where she’ll have her mom teach her the feeding, bathing, and diaper-changing ropes.
While midwives are routinely used in the UK (and can account for up to 80 percent of the births in most parts of Europe), in the United States obstetricians are still the go-to for delivering babies. But midwives are on the rise in the US, reaching an all-time high, now delivering 12.1 percent of all vaginal births (doctors are always called in to do Cesarean sections). New Mexico has the highest rate in the US with midwives delivering 24 percent of women’s births in the state.
So what is a midwife, anyway? Someone who approaches birth more from a woman’s perspective than most physicians do, giving both emotional and physical support. Starting in the prenatal stages, they often take more of a holistic approach and put an emphasis on diet and exercise to prepare your body for having a baby.
During labor, they tend to spend more time in the delivery room than most OBs (who are usually nowhere to be found till you’re ready to push), and encourage women to try to give birth naturally, using alternative methods of dealing with the pain, including having women walk around, using an exercise ball as a birthing ball, trying different pushing positions to see what’s most comfortable, and applying warm compresses to the vaginal area to naturally stretch the skin to help prevent tears.
Where I live in New York City, I feel midwives are really making a comeback. I’ve known women who have opted to have a midwife for home and hospital births (I always thought you had to have a home birth with midwives—I was wrong!). I took the middle ground and had my OB deliver my baby, but had a doula present for the emotional support. After learning more about midwives, I’m not sure why more women don’t use them. Studies show that moms who use midwives have increased access to prenatal care, lower rates of cesarean births and obstetric interventions (like inducing labor), and babies with higher birth weights.
A word of warning, though: Midwives should really only be used in low-risk pregnancies with no complications, and midwives can have varying credentials from Certified Nurse-Midwives all the way down to the lay midwife who has no license to practice, with lots of other levels of licenses in between. So make sure to do your homework before hiring one so you know exactly what skill level and training your midwife has received.
TELL US: Have you or would you use a midwife? Why or why not?
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Healthy Pregnancy, Who Is Pregnant
Tuesday, July 2nd, 2013
Of course I’m obsessed with the frenzy around Kate Middleton’s Bump Watch (who isn’t?). So I’m reading anything and everything I can get my hands on about her pregnancy. Us Weekly reports that if the Duchess of Cambridge goes into labor early, while she is still in Anglesey, Wales, that she will be flown—in a helicopter—to London’s St. Mary’s Hospital, which is 70 minutes away. I want to go on record as saying this plan is bananas!
Don’t even get me started on helicopter safety. According to Slate, they are a staggering 85 times more dangerous than cars! That jarring fact aside, I know it’s extremely rare for first-time moms to deliver babies so quickly (the average labor for a first-timer is 14 hours; while women who’ve given birth before tend to have an average labor of 8 hours), but there is an ever-so-slight chance that the future prince or princess could be born in a cramped helicopter! It’s not that outrageous of a thought, actually. This woman from Michigan didn’t think her husband would be delivering her baby in their car on the side of the freeway, either. But that’s exactly what happened. She wasn’t due for three more weeks, so she thought it was impossible for her to be going into labor. But after about four and a half hours of contractions, they hopped in the car to go to the hospital and—boom—baby on board!
I live in New York City, land of subways, busses and taxis and very high parking rates ($500 a month in our neighborhood!). My husband and I don’t have a car, so we knew that we’d be taking a taxi to the hospital when I was ready to deliver. My husband had nightmares about this (literally). With us living in lower Manhattan and my hospital being all the way on the Upper East Side, he was terrified that I’d go into labor in bumper-to-bumper rush hour traffic and that he would have to be the one to deliver our son in the back of a dirty taxi with the baby’s first smell being some awful mixture of incense and vomit. Oh, and did I mention that my husband’s so squeamish about blood that he almost passes out when he gets a paper cut? Yep, it’s that bad.
I, on the other hand, was convinced I would have an excruciatingly long labor that would go on for days, so there was no chance I’d be so lucky enough to give birth within a mere few hours. Needless to say, when my water broke at 4 am and we immediately found a taxi and made it to the hospital safely, then had the baby eight hours later (many of those hours I actually slept through!), we were both extremely relieved.
I hope for Kate and William’s sake that their baby’s birth goes as smoothly as ours, and that there are no transportation-related birth surprises in their future. Though, if Kate did deliver the royal heir in a helicopter—or even a car—that would make for an amazing news story, and I would devour every word of it!
TELL US: If you’re already a mom, how long were you in labor? Did you end up having the baby in a strange place?
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