Thursday, August 1st, 2013
In vitro fertilization is a very personal thing between you, your partner and your doctor. If you choose to share your story with friends or family, or other women going through the same extremely draining process, that’s up to you, and only you.
So I was really annoyed to see that In Touch is reporting that Jennifer Aniston is going through IVF in order to have a baby after 40 (don’t even get me started on how the tabloids always portray her as a pathetic victim who can never find love—um, have you seen Justin Theroux? She seems to be doing fine to me!) Who knows, maybe she is going through IVF. But is that really what so-called journalism has come to, trying to out a woman for using IVF? It’s like branding her with a scarlet letter.
I know Angelina Jolie shared her battle with breast cancer with the world, but that doesn’t mean Jennifer is obligated to share her most intimate details with us. IVF is not only emotionally taxing—never knowing whether it’s going to work or not—but it’s also very physically demanding. Women have to undergo daily hormone injections, and often end up bruised, sore and exhausted.
Of course, some women are open about their use of IVF and I applaud them for that. I’ve had friends who’ve needed someone to talk to about it because it was such an emotional roller coaster, and since their husbands were going through it with them, they didn’t want to burden their guys with even more baggage. They needed a sympathetic ear, and I was more than happy to be that for them.
Others are even more willing to include a larger group of people in their trials and tribulations with fertility treatments. Since IVF is so expensive (it can range from around $10-15k a cycle) and not all health insurance companies cover it, I’ve heard of couples getting very inventive and throwing fundraising parties to raise the cash for their IVF treatments, and even keeping “donors” abreast of their progress (more and more people are taking out IVF loans as well).
The point is that there are different ways of handling who knows whether you’re going through IVF, and how you tell them (in your own way and in your own time). No one should feel like they don’t have a choice in the matter—including Jennifer Aniston.
TELL US: Would you share your IVF story with others, or keep it to yourself?
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