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Kim Kardashian Reveals Her Pregnancy Struggles

Thursday, December 4th, 2014

Kim KardashianOnce again, Kim Kardashian has revealed herself in a fashion magazine. But this time, instead of showing her skin, the mother of the most powerful baby in the world told Elle UK about her pregnancy struggles.

“A few years ago I was told I could never get pregnant,” she told the magazine. “Three different doctors told me the same thing, which is why I wanted to have my eggs frozen. I was just about to do that when I found out I was pregnant with North.”

As for baby number two, Kim revealed, “I want a boy and another girl; I want it to start happening straight away.” And should “straight away” take an unexpectedly circuitous route, Kim is ready to lean on ART. “We’d do IVF if nothing happens, but we both want to keep trying naturally.”

Okay, time for some honest self-talk. My heart goes out to any woman struggling to conceive. Infertility can be so isolating; it has the power to strip you of your sense of community. I think it’s great that more celebs are doing their part to let women in the struggle know they are not alone. Does it really matter who speaks out? Sure, the most famous Kardashian doesn’t always score that high on the relatability scale, but that doesn’t make her story of triumph over infertility any less encouraging.

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Trying to Conceive: 5 Common Fertility Mistakes
Trying to Conceive: 5 Common Fertility Mistakes
Trying to Conceive: 5 Common Fertility Mistakes

Debbie Rigaud is an author of Young Adult novels and short stories. She and her husband welcomed a baby girl in early 2014, and life as they knew it has (thankfully) never been the same. Follow her on Twitter @debbierigaud

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5 Things Infertility & Pregnancy Loss Taught Me About Motherhood

Monday, December 1st, 2014

Infertility Does everything really happen for a reason? I don’t know, but no matter how gut-wrenching the experience, I can’t help but look for the silver lining. It’s the little graces that get you through the emotional devastation of infertility and pregnancy loss. After three failed IVF treatments and several early miscarriages, here are five things I learned that ultimately prepared me for motherhood:

  1. Be Resilient. Without a blues band backing me up, it’s difficult conveying the lows to which I’ve sunk (see detailed hardships above). But eventually, I learned to adopt some bounce-back tricks—like visualizing myself knocking out infertility as I punched the air while dancing in my Zumba class. This is the brand of resilience I hope to model for my daughter as she grows. But for now, whether exhausted, sick, stressed, or just having an off day, I know I can shake it all off and tend to my baby’s needs whenever she calls.
  2. Have Faith. My struggling friends and I agree that infertility would be halfway bearable if we were just given a guarantee there was a healthy pregnancy and delivery in our future. The not knowing is what torments you. Soldiering on for years in one-month intervals is a strenuous exercise in faith. Remaining hopeful despite the unknowns molds your resolve into a “Hallelujah”-shouting old lady in a fancy church hat. I tapped into this grit through the frightening first trimester when I finally did become pregnant, just as much I do now when a million alarming child health and safety reports are flung at me from all directions. Leaning on that same faith muscle de-clutters the mommy fears polluting my mind, one day at a time.
    3. Never Lose Sight of Who You Are. Going through infertility and pregnancy loss is like stepping into some sci-fi conversion chamber. You enter as a bright-eyed, buoyant being and exit as some grey-haired, green-eyed goblin. It not only has the potential to change you physically (especially if you’re taking hormone injections), but also on the soul level. Believe me, I did mental check-ins like the evil queen consults the mirror, mirror on the wall. (Who is this the new me? I know I’m not a hard, bitter, closed-hearted person.) Holding on to that person I was before those painful years—and now, before motherhood—keeps me centered. It’s this is a part of me I want my children to know.
    4. Show Compassion. Lots of people say having a baby deepened their empathy. They credit parenthood with infusing them with more understanding for others. Well, infertility and pregnancy loss have the ability to do the same thing. I’ve never met people more kind and nurturing than the women and men on fertility threads who support each other as lovingly as I now dote on my child. This journey also breeds compassion because it reminds you that anyone you meet may be privately nursing a heavy heart. You never know.
    5. Laughter Heals. Before she died, my mom asked me to laugh when I think of her. She knew the power laughter holds. She would laugh through her problems, which made them look smaller, and taught me that we are more than our circumstances. Years later, I held on to my humor as I endured infertility and suffered miscarriages. And now when the baby won’t sleep or when, as happened recently, she lets loose a poop mudslide at the voting polls, I’m grateful to be adding to my arsenal of funny stories.
Debbie Rigaud is an author of Young Adult novels and short stories. She and her husband welcomed a baby girl in early 2014, and life as they knew it has (thankfully) never been the same. Follow her on Twitter @debbierigaud

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What to Expect After Miscarriage
What to Expect After Miscarriage
What to Expect After Miscarriage

 

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Would You Fund Another Couple’s Pregnancy?

Tuesday, August 5th, 2014

Kickstarter campaigns used to be reserved for funding business startups or helping families in medical crisis. But these days, more and more couples are using internet sites like Kickstarter and GoFundMe to help cover the big price tag of growing a family, whether through expensive infertility treatments or pricey adoptions. (GoFundMe estimates that over $1 million has already been donated through its site toward IVF treatments, and in the past six months, they’ve already seen more donations than all of 2013.)

A recent New York Post article highlighted a few couples who are using the internet fundraising sites to build their families, including some who offered perks like autographed CDs and theater tickets to people who donated at certain levels. (Others just went with a plea to the heartstrings of friends, family and strangers willing to pony up toward surrogates or fertility treatments.)

But the practice isn’t without its detractors. Some people say that if you can’t afford to pay for the infertility treatments or adoption fees on your own (or through a line of credit), you have no business adding to your family. In adoption circles, where families sometimes use heartbreaking pictures of the child they wish to adopt and a “save this child” wording, it feels even more exploitative.

What do you think? Would you fundraise for your fertility treatments or adoption fees? And would you be willing to donate toward a friend’s (or a stranger’s) attempt at building a family?

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Trying to Conceive: 5 Common Fertility Mistakes
Trying to Conceive: 5 Common Fertility Mistakes
Trying to Conceive: 5 Common Fertility Mistakes

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The Surprising (Infertility-Related!) Reason This NFL Player Got Suspended

Friday, June 27th, 2014

We’ve all heard of drug testing in professional ball leagues, but one case now in the news comes with a surprising—and for many, upsetting—twist.

Indianapolis Colts linebacker Robert Mathis—a star player and six-time Pro Bowler—was suspended by the NFL for four games this upcoming season after he tested positive for drugs. But it wasn’t for the kind of drugs that probably first come to mind in such instances. Instead, the substance in question is Clomid, well-known for its application as a fertility drug.

More background: Robert and his wife Brandi are already parents to twin boys. But when Robert learned his mother was suffering from stage-four cancer and was given just a short time to live, the pair was eager to conceive another child that she could meet before it was too late. Because of what Robert’s sports management agency EAG calls “certain health risks associated with Brandi taking prescriptions,” the couple’s doctor instead prescribed a course of Clomid, which can increase sperm production, for Robert in the hopes of expediting fertilization.

Robert’s management company said further that the football star asked his doctor prior to taking the drug whether it would interfere with the league’s drug testing policies, and the doctor said it would not. However, it turns out that Clomid is actually banned by the NFL because it may enhance athletic performance.

In the end, the couple is expecting a new baby girl next month—so the Clomid appears to have served its intended reproductive purpose for Robert’s personal life, despite the controversy swirling around his professional life.

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Trying to Conceive: 5 Common Fertility Mistakes
Trying to Conceive: 5 Common Fertility Mistakes
Trying to Conceive: 5 Common Fertility Mistakes

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Dealing With Infertility? Read THIS for Inspiration!

Wednesday, May 14th, 2014

As women, we often think, “Of course, I’ll be able to get pregnant” no matter what our age. But, unfortunately, that’s not always the case. And though it may become harder to get pregnant as you age, you can still have infertility issues in your twenties or thirties—not just your forties. That said, here’s a happy story about good things coming to those who wait.

Hart of Dixie star Jaime King, 35, recently revealed to ABC News that she tried to get pregnant for four years before finally conceiving her son, James Knight, with husband Kyle Newman. Though she didn’t reveal what the key was to finally getting pregnant (a reproductive surgery? IVF or another fertility treatment? I guess you have to keep some things private), she shows that it is possible to become a mom, even when you’re not a Fertile Myrtle.

“This baby was a long time in the making,” she said about James, who is now 7 months old. “And I feel like the universe put a little extra magic dust in him. He’s like the happiest, most joyful, social, and loving child.” Aww!

“Everything takes on a new meaning,” she added about becoming a mom—something she’s always dreamed of. And though she’s a naturally skinny model-turned-actress, Jaime embraced her curves, and even shared a beautiful bikini bumpie of herself.

“There’s definitely an identity crisis you go through [when your body starts changing], but it took a long time to get pregnant,” she said, acknowledging her infertility struggle. “For me, the baby was such a blessing that the most important thing for me was that I was active…I was never obsessive about dieting or exercise. I didn’t care how much I gained. I just wanted to make sure he was healthy.”

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Infertility Talk

Photo of Jaime King and James Knight Newman via Instagram.

 

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