Now Kristen Bell is totally enamored with her 5-month-old daughter, Lincoln. But the House of Lies star would be the first to admit that her motherly instincts didn’t actually kick in until after her daughter was born. She told Flare that while she was pregnant she felt no connection with her baby bump—whatsoever.
“It could have been a water bottle in my belly, that’s how connected I felt to her during my pregnancy,” Kristen confesses. “I kept saying to [husband Dax Shepherd] in all sincerity during my pregnancy, ‘I just don’t know how I’m going to like her as much as I like the dogs [pugs Lola and Mr. Shakes].’”
While it may sound like another one of Kristen’s hilarious jokes, she’s actually very serious. “I love people the more I know them, and
I didn’t know [my baby].” While your initial reaction to that may be, How could you not feel an instant connection with your baby, he or she is inside you?!
I can somewhat relate. Of course I was thrilled to be pregnant, and I couldn’t wait for my little man to be born so I could get to know him, but I didn’t feel that mother-son bond at the moment of conception, like some moms-to-be seem to. I really didn’t feel that bond until I knew his sex. Then it got stronger when he started kicking (we were finally able to communicate, and I could feel he really was in there!), and then when he was born my total obsession with him really started.
So if you’re like Kristen (and me) and you’re not feeling majorly connected to your bump just yet, not to worry! No, you are not the worst mom-to-be in the world! Yes, you will still bond with your baby! Kristen now says that there’s no one on this planet she’d rather spend time with than her little girl. Aww!
TELL US: Did you instantly bond with your bump, or did it take time to feel that mother-baby bond?
Ok, so it’s not exactly on the market, but Huggies has developed a “pregnancy belt” that has given some dads-to-be the ultimate Father’s Day present: the ability to feel his baby kick—not by putting his hands on his baby mama’s bump, but in the dad’s own belly! It took four months to create the belt that “replicates in real time the movements and the baby’s kicks, from mom’s belly to dad’s belly.” (If this thing were at Brookstone, I’m sure it would sell out way faster than those massage chairs!)
As you can see from the video, the dads are overcome with emotion when they feel their babies kick—as was I. I wish my husband had been able to experience that overwhelming love I felt each time our son kicked. After of course I realized that’s what was happening—it took a few times before I knew what I was actually feeling. Early on the sensation felt like butterflies in my stomach, but as my son got bigger and stronger his kicks and elbow jabs were unmistakable. I’m pretty sure he was dancing nonstop—kind of like his mom and dad. While it wasn’t always the most comfortable feeling, every tap brought a smile to my face, knowing that my little one was somehow communicating with me as if to say, “Hi, mom!”
As much as we moms say we wish our guys knew all that we had to go through while pregnant, I was really surprised when my hubby came down with a bad case of sympathy pains. I had morning sickness for months, and there were days when my husband felt nauseous too without any real explanation. His back and knees were also hurting right along with me—and I admit I was not sympathetic at all. Puh-lease! There’s no way what he was feeling could ever compare to my sharp-as-glass pains. Or so I thought.
And while I gained 20 pounds of baby weight with my pregnancy, my husband gained 15. Who could blame him, if he was going on a donut run for me, why not get one—or two, or three—for himself? But getting the post-baby pounds off has proven to be just as hard for him as for me.
So it’s fair to say that my pregnancy wasn’t easy on him either (and I didn’t even mention my emotional mood swings he had to endure!). If he had to suffer right alongside me with pains and belly fat, I wish he had experienced the good stuff too, and nothing beats the warm-and-cozy feeling you get when you feel your baby inside you. All men should feel what these lucky few got to. Come on Huggies, get this belt in stores stat!