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Moms Can Ban Dads From Delivery Room, Says Judge

Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

Sure, most pregnant women have wanted to kick their partners out of the delivery room for one reason or another (i.e. he’s too squeamish and you’re a little too busy to take care of him too; he’s making inappropriate and/or lame jokes to try to break the tension and keep your mind off the pain; or he’s squeezing your hand even tighter than you’re squeezing his). But would you ever really consider banning him? Superior Court Judge Sohail Mohammed recently ruled to uphold a mother’s right of privacy and the right to control her body, which says “she is neither required to notify the baby’s father that she is going into labor nor required to admit him into the delivery room against her wishes,” according to the New Jersey Law Journal.

This is a historical case because this subject has never been litigated anywhere else in the United States. In the case at hand, the couple—who are not married—is estranged, but technically this ruling could set precedence for all couples throughout the United States.

The judge felt that if his ruling was in favor of the father being allowed in against the mother’s will, he noted: “It would create practical concerns where the father’s unwelcomed presence could cause additional stress on the mother and child. Moreover, such a finding would also lead to a slippery slope where the mother’s interest could be subjugated to that of the father’s.”

So it seems that the act of carrying the baby inside you actually does come with (even more) privileges. I can’t imagine not having my husband beside me when I gave birth to my son. He was the right amount of supportive, without being an annoying rah-rah cheerleader. He made the best hospital playlist to pump me up when I needed it most. As cliché as it sounds, he was my rock.

But I agree that a woman should have the right to decide who is—and isn’t—with her during that sacred time when you’re giving birth. The last thing you want is something else to cause tension in an already stressful situation that could spike your blood pressure and put your baby in jeopardy. In my opinion, if a husband or partner is abusive, or hasn’t been there to support you throughout your pregnancy, his mere sperm donation should not grant him a golden ticket into that delivery room. So I’m glad this judge, who’s a dude, agrees!

TELL US: Do you think a father has a right to be in the delivery room no matter what? Who do you plan on having in the room with you when you give birth?

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12 Hours of Labor (and a Baby Boy!) for Kate Middleton

Monday, July 22nd, 2013

Kate Middleton Gives Birth in About 12 Hours of LaborAfter Kate Middleton and Prince William arrived at London’s St. Mary’s Hospital around 5:30 am London time, and got settled into the super-posh private Lindo Wing, nearly 11 hours later Great Britain has a new prince, the Prince of Cambridge to be exact!

The third in line to the throne (behind Prince Charles and Prince William—and before Prince Harry) was born at 4:24 pm, weighing in at 8 lbs, 6 oz. The Prince was brought into this world in true royal fashion, in a luxury $9,000 a night suite that included an individual birthing room, birthing pool, satellite television, radio, internet access, daily newspaper deliveries and a personal safe. And for the parents and their guests, the Lindo Wing comes equipped with a catering staff, complete with a wine list and champagne to celebrate the happy occasion!

Contrary to reports, Kate’s mom Carole, a trained midwife, was not on hand in the delivery room.  While most moms-to-be only see their OBs sporadically throughout their labor, at this high-end facility and with the royal heir waiting to come out, you can be sure that Kate’s every request was catered to by the nursing staff and her two doctors (the Queen’s former gynecologist and her current one).

Though we don’t know exactly what time Kate officially went into labor, the birth was at least 12 hours in the making—which isn’t bad for a first-time natural birth (she was not induced even though she was said to be past her due date). Perhaps Kate’s prenatal yoga paid off? She reportedly had been seeing a private yoga instructor at least one day a week for close to her entire pregnancy. Building core strength through yoga is said to help with both pushing and breathing during labor.

As expected, the official Royal announcement has been placed on an easel outside of Buckingham Palace for all the world to see. Now that His Royal Highness has arrived, we can all start obsessing over what his name will be! That news likely won’t be released for days. Congrats again to Kate and Will!

While we wait to hear the new Prince’s name, check out pics of Kate’s pregnancy and baby’s new family, or watch Rosie Pope’s tribute to the new royal baby.

TELL US: How long were you in labor with your children? Any tips you can share with first-time moms?

Image of the official birth announcement courtesy of The British Monarchy’s Instagram.

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Kate Middleton’s In Labor With The Royal Baby!

Monday, July 22nd, 2013

Kate Middleton is in labor in the Lindo WingThe Great Kate Wait is almost over! That’s right—Kate Middleton is in labor. After photographers and Royal Watchers have been on high alert since Kate Middleton’s rumored due date of July 13, and talk of needing to induce her started swirling, The Duchess of Cambridge was admitted to the private Lindo Wing at St. Mary’s Hospital around 6 am today in west London. Already in early labor, she and hubby Prince William were escorted through the back door to their exclusive room. Kate’s labor is said to be progressing normally (whatever that means since every pregnancy is so different!).

I’m sure no matter how many labor classes she and Will have taken, Kate is still nervous, anxious, exhausted, and completely excited. I know I was. My water broke at 4 am, and I arrived at the hospital around the same time as Kate. My doula told me not to rush to get to the hospital, but to take my time and take care of myself.

As crazy as it sounds, I freshened up and got dressed as my husband made us eggs and bacon for breakfast. How I could eat when I was so freaked out, I’ll never know! But my doula advised that labor could take many, many hours and once admitted to the hospital they don’t let you eat anything but white liquids. So I hope Kate had a full English Breakfast. Otherwise, she’s probably starving right about now!

Delivery rooms are so sterile, so I also hope that the royal team has made it comfy for Kate, packing her favorite pillow, like I did. It made a world of difference for me. According to E!, Kate is said to have planned a labor soundtrack of Bruno Mars, Calvin Harris and Of Monsters and Men tunes. I highly recommend letting your hubby play iPod DJ, ladies. It gives them something to do to make them feel useful, and the music really took my mind off of the pain. My soundtrack included Kanye West’s “Stonger” and Black Eyed Peas’ “Let’s Get It Started”. I wanted music that would pump me up (Think: energizing gym mix). But some women prefer a relaxed soundtrack to keep them calm. My husband prepared both just in case, but the party mix won out.

While I probably would have crumbled under such public scrutiny of my pregnancy, Kate has gone through her entire pregnancy with such grace. She made it look so easy! The good news for Kate is that the hard part (all that pushing!) is almost over for her, and she’ll soon be introduced to her precious baby, then the fun really begins. Congrats Kate and Will—you are going to love parenthood!

While you wait for the royal baby to arrive, take a look back at Kate’s pregnancy!

TELL US: Are you as excited about Kate’s birth as you are your own?

Image of the Lindo Wing, where Kate Middleton is in Labor, courtesy of BasPhoto / Shutterstock.com

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Birth Trend: Tans, Waxing and Makeovers (Oh My!)

Thursday, June 27th, 2013

Spray tanning waxing blow outs pre-baby makeoversOf course you want your labor to go as smoothly as possible, but is it important for you to look good while actually pushing out your baby? Apparently it is for a growing number of women, according to the Daily Mail.

The new trend is to shell out bushels of bucks to look your absolute best before you go into labor, so you can guarantee an amazing post-birth photo op with your brand new baby. As if everyone will be looking at you in the photo!

While everyone in the article seems to have prepped to the hilt with French manicures and pedicures, highlights and blow outs, bikini and leg waxes, and spray tans, 29-year-old Heather wins for most high maintenance by actually applying another layer of self-tanner while in labor. Yes, while in labor! I’ve heard of  keeping busy to get your mind off of things (like pain), but that is crazy!

I think it’s a bit ridiculous to have a spray tanner, bikini waxer, nail technician and hair and makeup artist on high alert so they can bronze you, dehair your nether regions, paint your nails, add color to your pout and straighten your locks for what could be 24 hours or more of hard, painful labor!

While some say if you feel beautiful, you’re more confident, and therefore you’ll get through the labor pains easier, for me, a face full of makeup is the last thing I would have wanted since my birthing room was already a total sauna thanks to a bum air conditioner in the dead of summer. I assure you it wasn’t pretty!

I went into labor 10 days early, with my water breaking at 4 am, so I was not prepared whatsoever. My mani and pedi were chipped, my hair was a mess, and I was still wiping sleep from my eyes as I was in shock and wondering if what I thought just happened really did (Could I be dreaming?). But once I gathered my thoughts—and things—I knew I wanted to be completely comfortable for what could be a long wait at the hospital. I wore a loose sundress and flip flops with no makeup whatsoever (Heather, mind you, was in heels and full hair and makeup).

I admit, though, I see those first photos taken right after my son was born and the vain part of me thinks, “Jeeze, I look awful!” instead of concentrating on what an awe-inspiring experience it was to hold my son in my arms for the first time. I was absolutely elated, proud, and in love with this tiny little Buddah baby that would one day call me mom!

Sure, a part of me wishes I looked straight off of the red carpet rather than the treadmill in my very first photo with my little man, but I now know  from other moms that there is a happy medium between my carefree attitude and the makeover madness of other women. Some friends I know had the baby au naturale, but then had hair and makeup people come to the hospital for a post-birth touch up on the day the family was checking out of the hospital. It also served as a mini spa day for the mamas, and much needed pampering as their bundles of joy were getting all of their tests ran before they could be discharged anyway.

Waiting that extra day or two, mom and baby had a chance to bond, rest, and lose some of that blotchy coloring that comes with extreme labor pushes for mom, and the wild ride down the birth canal for baby. That way, they had their (possibly cringe-worthy, but emotional) first photos for family viewing only, and then the glamour shots that were sent to everyone. It’s the best of both worlds.

TELL US: Will you be getting a makeover before you give birth?

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Pregnant Kate Middleton’s Surprise Birth Plan

Tuesday, May 28th, 2013

Pregnant Kate Middleton Royal ChildbirthWhile billions of people worldwide are waiting with anticipation to see when Kate Middleton will go into labor this July, there’s only one person who will make her child’s birth an event that will go down in history: Prince William. According to reports, he is planning to be in the delivery room with Kate, which may sound like no big deal (um, aren’t all dads these days?), but it is apparently a historical occasion.

This would be the first royal birth ever where the dad was present for the delivery. That’s right, when Prince William was born, Prince Charles was off playing polo. When Prince Charles was born, Prince Philip was playing squash. And the list goes on and on.

I can’t even begin to fathom what it would have been like going into the delivery room without my husband holding my hand, encouraging me, and DJing the occasion (I needed party music to keep me energized for the big labor pushes). You need all of the support you can get, especially for your first birth, where you’re pretty much clueless no matter how many books you’ve read and classes you’ve taken. Sure, if Will follows the royal precedence, Kate Middleton could have her mom Carole and/or sister Pippa by her side, but it’s just not the same.

Whether Prince William is present or not, the birth of the royal heir, who is the third in line to the British throne, will likely take place in the Lindo Wing of St. Mary’s Hospital in London, where Princess Di gave birth to Prince William—and it might even be a water birth. The Duchess of Cambridge is said to be researching all kinds of birthing methods, and according to British mag, Grazia, Kate is also considering Hypnobirthing—the use of hypnosis to reach maximum relaxation and comfort during childbirth.

In my opinion, there is no one—or anything—who can help you achieve total relaxation like the one you love. So I hope for Kate’s sake, William does break the royal tradition so he can be there for Kate and their newborn. I think he’d kick himself if he missed it. Prince William, here are some support tips for you (and other dads) to follow in the delivery room. Don’t let Kate down!

TELL US: Should your partner be in the delivery room with you, or would you rather have your mom or someone else? What if your guy chose to play or watch sports instead?

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