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Which “Bachelor” Star’s Stepmom Is ALSO Her Surrogate?

Thursday, February 19th, 2015

Shayne Lamas surrogate

Longtime fans of The Bachelor will remember Shayne Lamas; now 29 years old, she won season 12 of the ABC show. She’s also a mom of a 3-year-old daughter with husband Nik Richie.

And now, she’s got big pregnancy news. Having announced in the fall that she was expecting another child by way of a surrogate, she has now gone public with this fact: the surrogate is also her stepmom!

In the latest issue of Closer Weekly, she shared that Shawna Craig is “not just my stepmother. She’s like a soul sister. She’s an angel that blessed my whole family, including my father.”

Shawna, who is only a touch younger than her stepdaughter, is the fifth wife for Falcon Crest star Lorenzo Lamas, Shayne’s dad. Shawna told the mag that she never wanted a baby of her own.

Last February, Shayne lost a baby boy when her uterus ruptured during pregnancy, and she was forced to have an emergency hysterectomy. But now she is having another boy.

“It is weird. Somebody else carrying your baby is weird,” Shayne revealed. “But I lost my  son, and now Shawna is carrying [another] son. I have just been given the biggest blessing in the whole world, and I will always be grateful.”

Last week—exactly a year following her loss—Shayne posted an Instagram photo of her baby wearing angel wings, along with the caption, “I might not carry you in my arms, but I will always carry you in my heart.”

Beyond the Birth Plan
Beyond the Birth Plan
Beyond the Birth Plan

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Alesandra Dubin is a new twin mom. She’s also a Los Angeles-based writer and the founder of home and travel blog Homebody in Motion. Follow her on Facebook, Instagram, Google+ and Twitter.

Photo courtesy of Instagram/ShayneLamas

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Birth Trend: Tans, Waxing and Makeovers (Oh My!)

Thursday, June 27th, 2013

Spray tanning waxing blow outs pre-baby makeoversOf course you want your labor to go as smoothly as possible, but is it important for you to look good while actually pushing out your baby? Apparently it is for a growing number of women, according to the Daily Mail.

The new trend is to shell out bushels of bucks to look your absolute best before you go into labor, so you can guarantee an amazing post-birth photo op with your brand new baby. As if everyone will be looking at you in the photo!

While everyone in the article seems to have prepped to the hilt with French manicures and pedicures, highlights and blow outs, bikini and leg waxes, and spray tans, 29-year-old Heather wins for most high maintenance by actually applying another layer of self-tanner while in labor. Yes, while in labor! I’ve heard of  keeping busy to get your mind off of things (like pain), but that is crazy!

I think it’s a bit ridiculous to have a spray tanner, bikini waxer, nail technician and hair and makeup artist on high alert so they can bronze you, dehair your nether regions, paint your nails, add color to your pout and straighten your locks for what could be 24 hours or more of hard, painful labor!

While some say if you feel beautiful, you’re more confident, and therefore you’ll get through the labor pains easier, for me, a face full of makeup is the last thing I would have wanted since my birthing room was already a total sauna thanks to a bum air conditioner in the dead of summer. I assure you it wasn’t pretty!

I went into labor 10 days early, with my water breaking at 4 am, so I was not prepared whatsoever. My mani and pedi were chipped, my hair was a mess, and I was still wiping sleep from my eyes as I was in shock and wondering if what I thought just happened really did (Could I be dreaming?). But once I gathered my thoughts—and things—I knew I wanted to be completely comfortable for what could be a long wait at the hospital. I wore a loose sundress and flip flops with no makeup whatsoever (Heather, mind you, was in heels and full hair and makeup).

I admit, though, I see those first photos taken right after my son was born and the vain part of me thinks, “Jeeze, I look awful!” instead of concentrating on what an awe-inspiring experience it was to hold my son in my arms for the first time. I was absolutely elated, proud, and in love with this tiny little Buddah baby that would one day call me mom!

Sure, a part of me wishes I looked straight off of the red carpet rather than the treadmill in my very first photo with my little man, but I now know  from other moms that there is a happy medium between my carefree attitude and the makeover madness of other women. Some friends I know had the baby au naturale, but then had hair and makeup people come to the hospital for a post-birth touch up on the day the family was checking out of the hospital. It also served as a mini spa day for the mamas, and much needed pampering as their bundles of joy were getting all of their tests ran before they could be discharged anyway.

Waiting that extra day or two, mom and baby had a chance to bond, rest, and lose some of that blotchy coloring that comes with extreme labor pushes for mom, and the wild ride down the birth canal for baby. That way, they had their (possibly cringe-worthy, but emotional) first photos for family viewing only, and then the glamour shots that were sent to everyone. It’s the best of both worlds.

TELL US: Will you be getting a makeover before you give birth?

Image of mom and newborn courtesy of Shutterstock.

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Kim Kardashian Had a Premature Birth . . . Will You?

Monday, June 17th, 2013

Pregnant Kim Kardashian Gives Birth to Daughter Five Weeks EarlyKanye West was by Kim Kardashian’s side as she gave birth to their baby girl, who weighed in at just under five pounds on June 15, five weeks early, reports E! News. Kim and baby are said to be fine and resting. But I’m sure going into labor that early was a frightening experience for Kim, who already went through an appendicitis scare while five months pregnant.

Any baby born before 37 weeks is considered preterm, or a premature birth. Around twelve percent of babies born in the US are preemies, and premature birth is the leading cause of death among newborns. Those who survive can go on to live completely healthy lives, but often times are more likely than full-term babies to have lifelong health problems like developmental delays, hearing loss, blindness, chronic lung disease and cerebral palsy. No pregnant woman—or new mom—wants to hear that!

How do you know if you’re at risk for a preterm birth? Here are some of the indicators—but these are not guarantees you’ll have a preemie, so don’t freak out just yet!

• You’ve had a premature baby in the past.

• You’re giving birth to multiples.

• You’re over 35.

• You have a chronic illness like diabetes or hypertension.

• You were extremely overweight or underweight before getting pregnant.

• You smoke.

• You’ve experienced severe stress during pregnancy.

• You used fertility treatments to get pregnant.

• You’ve had a urinary tract infection or sexually transmitted infections while pregnant.

As always, you should speak to your OB openly about your full medical history in order for him/her to assess if you might go into labor early. Doctors can’t stop preterm labor, but can delay it for a few days with the use of medication. The last trimester is when the greatest amount of development occurs, so with a preterm pregnancy every extra day counts, and just a few additional days can make a difference in the amount of time your baby may need to be in the NICU.

Often times women going into labor early overlook the symptoms because they think it can’t be happening already. Yes, it can! Here are signs you’re going into labor:

• You’ll feel pelvic pressure, cramps and lower back pain.

• Your contractions—a tightening in your stomach—are coming every 10 minutes, or more frequently. Braxton Hicks contractions are common also, but they will not be as consistent as real contractions.

• If you have blood or a brownish discharge, your water may have broken without you realizing it.  Call your doctor right away.

Unless your doctor says to head to the hospital right away, lie down and drink a couple of glasses of water because dehydration often causes cramping, and water can ease your pain. Track your symptoms for an hour and if the pain goes away, it likely wasn’t preterm labor, but only Braxton Hicks contractions you were experiencing, which at times can feel just as real as the real thing. Still relax for the rest of the day as your body has been through a lot. The next day, if you haven’t already, pack your hospital bag, so if this happens again, it will be one less thing you have to worry about!

TELL US: Are you at risk of going into labor early? What have you done to prepare?

Image of Kim Kardashian courtesy of Shutterstock.

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Pregnant Kate Middleton’s Surprise Birth Plan

Tuesday, May 28th, 2013

Pregnant Kate Middleton Royal ChildbirthWhile billions of people worldwide are waiting with anticipation to see when Kate Middleton will go into labor this July, there’s only one person who will make her child’s birth an event that will go down in history: Prince William. According to reports, he is planning to be in the delivery room with Kate, which may sound like no big deal (um, aren’t all dads these days?), but it is apparently a historical occasion.

This would be the first royal birth ever where the dad was present for the delivery. That’s right, when Prince William was born, Prince Charles was off playing polo. When Prince Charles was born, Prince Philip was playing squash. And the list goes on and on.

I can’t even begin to fathom what it would have been like going into the delivery room without my husband holding my hand, encouraging me, and DJing the occasion (I needed party music to keep me energized for the big labor pushes). You need all of the support you can get, especially for your first birth, where you’re pretty much clueless no matter how many books you’ve read and classes you’ve taken. Sure, if Will follows the royal precedence, Kate Middleton could have her mom Carole and/or sister Pippa by her side, but it’s just not the same.

Whether Prince William is present or not, the birth of the royal heir, who is the third in line to the British throne, will likely take place in the Lindo Wing of St. Mary’s Hospital in London, where Princess Di gave birth to Prince William—and it might even be a water birth. The Duchess of Cambridge is said to be researching all kinds of birthing methods, and according to British mag, Grazia, Kate is also considering Hypnobirthing—the use of hypnosis to reach maximum relaxation and comfort during childbirth.

In my opinion, there is no one—or anything—who can help you achieve total relaxation like the one you love. So I hope for Kate’s sake, William does break the royal tradition so he can be there for Kate and their newborn. I think he’d kick himself if he missed it. Prince William, here are some support tips for you (and other dads) to follow in the delivery room. Don’t let Kate down!

TELL US: Should your partner be in the delivery room with you, or would you rather have your mom or someone else? What if your guy chose to play or watch sports instead?

Find out who else is expecting this year!

Image of Kate Middleton via Instagram. 

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Where Was Nick Lachey For His Son’s Birth?

Thursday, May 2nd, 2013

NICK AND VANESSA LACHEY BABY CAMDEN DELIVERY ROOOMNick Lachey told Fox News that being in the delivery room with wife Vanessa Lachey (previously Vanessa Minillo) when she gave birth to son Camden, now 7 months old, was “surreal, and one of the coolest things to ever see in your life.” But then again, he watched his son’s birth “from the waist up”—not getting all up in there with the doctor.

Hearing that took me back to conversations I had with my friends before I gave birth. The big question was: Are you going to let your husband see everything during the delivery? Will he be there right next to the doctor during childbirth? Or will he be tucked away far from your lady parts?

There were two sides of the debate: Some wanted their guys to have a front row seat to the miracle that is childbirth. One friend in particular even filmed it for posterity reasons, so they could relive it, and one day their child could see how he entered this world. I secretly also think she wanted to either a) show him just how much pain and suffering she went through for him to hold over his head in those terrible teenage years, or b) it would be used during the “sex talk” to insure he didn’t come within 10 feet of a girl until he was 30!

But most of my friends were too worried that if their man saw their nether regions stretched and pulled in such a bloody mess, they’d never want to visit the area again. It got me thinking: What do I want? Of course my husband had a say in the matter too. Actually, he pretty much made the decision for us. He’s the “I see blood and I faint” type, so rather than facing my vajayjay head on, he was thrilled to stand behind me, holding my hand and DJing Logan’s birthday party (Kanye, Jay-Z and Passion Pit were on heavy rotation—that’s how we roll!). I wouldn’t have had it any other way.

Tell us: Will your partner be front and center for the birth, or off on the sidelines like Nick Lachey?

Image of Nick Lachey and Vanessa Lachey courtesy of Shutterstock.

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