Zuckerberg made the baby announcement earlier today in a lengthy post, writing: “Priscilla and I have some exciting news: we’re expecting a baby girl!”
But he went beyond the basic news (and gender reveal) too, opening up about some private, painful details of their journey toward parenthood:
We want to share one experience to start. We’ve been trying to have a child for a couple of years and have had three miscarriages along the way.
You feel so hopeful when you learn you’re going to have a child. You start imagining who they’ll become and dreaming of hopes for their future. You start making plans, and then they’re gone. It’s a lonely experience. Most people don’t discuss miscarriages because you worry your problems will distance you or reflect upon you — as if you’re defective or did something to cause this. So you struggle on your own.
In today’s open and connected world, discussing these issues doesn’t distance us; it brings us together. It creates understanding and tolerance, and it gives us hope.
When we started talking to our friends, we realized how frequently this happened — that many people we knew had similar issues and that nearly all had healthy children after all.
We hope that sharing our experience will give more people the same hope we felt and will help more people feel comfortable sharing their stories as well.
Of course, Zuckerberg isn’t the only celeb to open up about the struggle to conceive and the sadness of miscarriage. Model mama Jaime King also went public with her miscarriage and IVF experiences before having her first son, James.
It’s sad when anyone who wants to conceive a child struggles to do so—and sadder still when the joy of a positive pregnancy test turns to sorrow when that pregnancy is lost. I feel so thankful and blessed that I never experienced a miscarriage, but I have many friends who did. It’s good to know that there are people out there spreading the word that no one needs to feel alone if it happens to them, and that there is hope—something Zuckerberg and Chan are holding on to.
“Our good news is that our pregnancy is now far enough along that the risk of loss is very low and we are very hopeful,” he continued in his post, adding, “We’re looking forward to welcoming her into the world and sharing more soon when she’s ready to come out and meet everyone!”
We know the importance of staying physically fit during pregnancy, for our own health as well as baby’s. But knowing just how much to do (or indeed, just feeling up for it) can feel like a puzzle.
That’s probably why the Internet goes crazy when pregnant mamas with significant social media followings post photos of themselves weightlifting.
Australian fitness influencer Michelle Bridges, who has nearly 100,000 followers on Instagram, posted a video of herself lifting weights this week, and then deleted it following an onslaught of negative feedback.
Trainer and nutritionist Sophie Guidolin, pictured here (who has more than 200,000 Instagram followers of her own) became the target for similar attacks more than a month ago after she posted a photo of herself lifting a 30-kilogram weight while she was 26 weeks into her twin pregnancy. And she’s been quick to come to Bridges’ defense, telling the Daily Mail Australia, “‘Wouldn’t it be nice If we could celebrate the fact that a respected woman is dispelling some of the myths around remaining active during pregnancy?”
Another professional fitness mom and pregnant weightlifter, Amy Updike, recently told Fit Pregnancy, “I have had mostly positive comments from my amazing followers. But, I have of course had negative comments [from] people who are mostly uneducated about pregnancy… The outdated thought that pregnant women should just be very careful and not very active during pregnancy has been passed down from past generations and [has] pervaded the thoughts of people, even of my current generation! Educating others has become a passion of mine—that exercise can and should be a part of pregnancy when the pregnancy is low risk and the woman is healthy.”
The reality is, exercise in pregnancy is generally safe and desirable—up to any specific limits recommended by your own doctors. (Make sure to ask, and check in regularly!)
Chrissy Teigen is not currently expecting with hubby John Legend. But she does hope to have a family one day—and she’s looking forward to getting pregnant for one reason, in particular: The famous foodie told Women’s Health U.K. magazine that she’s always had to be mindful of her weight thanks to genetics, but that, “I’d love to have an excuse to be bigger!”
Hands up: Who can relate?! There were plenty of reasons I ate a lot in pegnancy—both physiological and psychological—and I know a lot of other women have similar experiences. If you’ve always worried about your weight and what you eat (whether it’s because, like Teigen, your job requires it, or not), pregnancy can seem like a time when you can finally relax about some extra pounds.
But the truth is, it can be a tricky balance trying to stay right in that sweet spot of target weight gain. Not too much, not too little, but just right.
I wouldn’t say I used my pregnancy as an excuse to eat whatever I wanted—although, if I’m being honest, I’m sure that was a factor too. It was mainly that when I was pregnant with my twins last year, I was eating for three, and I was pretty much ravenous.
The cravings got me, too: the mere sight of Red Vines in a checkout aisle made me grab for them like a savage animal. And then there was the sheer volume of food I was capable of consuming thanks to my ever-expanding size: At our go-to breakfast spot, I got the combo every time and ate every morsel on the multiple plates: scrambled eggs, potatoes, buttered biscuit, and a pancake with syrup. Nary a fruit or veggie in sight!
In the interview, Teigen also mentioned another way a future pregnancy would change her diet: “People will know as soon as I’m pregnant because I’ll stop drinking.”
And with that, she brings up another point about pregnancy and what we put in our mouths: We may allow ourselves to relax on the types of food and the number of calories we consume, but at the same time we have to watch out for all the food and booze restrictions recommended for pregnant women. C’est la vie!
Anyway with Chrissy’s outspoken style, humor, and willingness to tell everything like it is—I, for one, cannot wait to see her pregnant and preach on what it’s really like!
The deal with pregnancy (and later, new parenthood), is that sometimes you have to laugh so you don’t cry. It’s important to keep a positive attitude… even when you feel like 10 sobbing emojis all lined up next to a few poop emojis.
Well, now one mom has made it her mission to help all the rest of us find the laughter in even the craziest, most uncomfortable, and unglamorous experiences of pregnancy and new parenthood.
New York-based mom Meghna Shah launched a Facebook page full of cartoons that chronicle the character Mommie Poppins. The comics underscore the humor and build community around the wacky shared experiences that are pretty specific to carrying a baby, and then parenting the new wee one. Reading them makes you feel kind of like you’ve had a quick but satisfying vent session with a friend who just gets it.
Each colorful illustration shows a cartoon mom-to-be or mom with babe, along with a line of text will likely make you nod your head in agreement as you think, “Been there!”
Now that’s the kind of yoga I like! #PregnancyHumor
What motivated Shah to create her cartoonish alter ego? Well, she recently carried her own baby, and is a new mom herself. So she knows laughter is the best medicine—along with one other go-to salve she uses to get by.
As she writes on her Facebook page, “Because motherhood is not all Merry Poppins and having a sense of humor is the only way to get through it. That and alcohol.”
I’ve written here many times about the attention I received from strangers when I was pregnant: Carrying twins, my belly got quite large, apparently making me a spectacle and a target for gawkers’ comments on the street. I was not okay with that.
Of course, I was hardly the first or only pregnant woman to garner unsolicited attention from strangers thanks to my belly. This kind of attention is frequently unwanted and unwelcome.
But today, I’m here to bring you a story about a pregnant woman who got attention that turned out to be pretty amazing—and pretty darned cute too!
It seems a zoo animal in England is particularly interested in baby bumps: A YouTube video shows an orangutan at the Colchester Zoo approaching the glass where a pregnant visitor has come to observe. That’s when the animal appears to form his mouth into kisses for the 37-week belly of the mama-to-be! (The orangutan showed no interest in her husband, by the way!) See the video here:
Apparently the 47-year-old male orangutan, whose name is Rajang, has made a habit of showing affection for pregnant ladies: According to CNN, another visitor said he did the same thing to her pregnant belly, even before she knew she was expecting. (A pregnancy test she took later that day confirmed it.)
Coincidence? Possibly. But I like thinking of it as one sweet and cute exception to the no-gawking rule!