Sunday, June 10th, 2012
A year and a half.
Back in February when I was doing some research as I wrote “4 Out Of 5 Parents Spank Their Kids” I read that slapping a child in the face can be considering a form of spanking.
I was never slapped in the face by my parents, nor could I ever imagine doing that to my son. To deem a face slap as a form of discipline seems illegitimate to me.
But is it because of the age and culture I am a part of?
The premium TV show Mad Men always does a good job of pointing out situations that are largely considered taboo today, but back in the 1960′s when the show takes place, were considered normal and acceptable.
I have noticed that in this show, children get slapped in the face as a form of discipline and punishment; sometimes even by an adult who is not the child’s parent. And therefore, we are led to believe this was okay for 1963.
Meanwhile, my wife knows a man who, without shame, admitted he slaps his children to discipline them. He is not from America.
So I wonder, as a Generation Y American dad, am I preconditioned to believe that slapping my child in the face is taboo? Or is this type of punishment truly as legitimate as spanking a child on their bum?
I am simply hosting this conversation. I would like for you to point out the double standards, both in favor and against including face-slapping in the same category as spanking.
Do you consider slapping a child in the face morally wrong, yet believe spanking your child’s buttocks is acceptable?
Why is a slap in the face somehow worse? Is it more psychologically damaging than spanking?
Does it make a difference whether or not it leaves a physical mark the next day? Is that what is considered crossing the line?
Why is there more of a taboo on face-slapping?
Why are you more likely to see a parent spank their child in public than slap them in the face? Is it because less parents slap their kids in the face or is it because those parents know they would be confronted by another adult?
If you witnessed a parent slapping their child in the face in public, would you do or say anything to them about it? (Imagine this being an episode of that show What Would You Do?)